Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

[TimeForSomeAction]

Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

I had a few 'wow cannot believe you are that age. Can I have a recent pic' messages. The old charmers .

Sponge, nonsense you have been doing the most important job in the world. Bringing up your DC's well with a mum they can be proud of.

Oooh sponge I would have a field day with you if you were my friend in RL Positive thinking and a change of attitude does wonders for ones outlook and self esteem. And attracts a different kind of person into our lives too.

Agree with adams, it took a lot of work on myself to not think I had wasted 11 years of my life with the ex but I got DD out of that relationship so it was worth it just for that

I must try and positively think myself half presentable for my night out tonight. Will have to start getting ready soon as I have to set off in 4 hours!

The best way to start thinking positively of yourself is to stop caring what other people think of you, everything you do, do with yourself in mind not anyone else.

I just got a reply from one of the men I said 'Thats but no thanks' to - he said 'I know what you are, your (sic) immature. Well I hope you get mugged' !!!

There's also another man who is not saying anything at all about himself but msg constantly, wow, ha, lol, yeah I know, cool and so on - but when I ask him about himself (not much to go on from his profile) he says 'What do you want to know?' Come on man, TELL me about yourself!

Oh well I guess this is how its gonna be. No more thanks but no thanks. I felt like saying 'Lucky escape from you then!'

something2say. Don't waste your time on men who you aren't interested in. The poor lambs might be so shocked that you've replied (alot don't get any) then gutted that it's a thanks but nothanks.

Typical that I don't feel too good today before a night out, didn't sleep well last night, but something did occur to me whilst I was tossing and turning, that some people use their phone for POF and mumsnet so posing is tricky, it is on my phone, so hence the one line replies. It might be a good way of drawing out more info, ask them for a longer reply when they get to their PC. If not then move on.

Posting not posing.

Aw thanks Time & Adams :)

One of my friends said to me my problem is I did too much in my 20s, hence why my 30s seemed a bit wasted - just because I'd done everything already! Will try and view it more positively.

Thanks Adamschic.

Sorry you tossed and turned, aint that the way....!! I'd choll for the day as far as poss, then choose some music to play that will ease you into going out mode. I find high heels and underwear while putting makeup on also helps one feel sexy.

Have a great night!

Thanks, I'm chilling in my pj's but it's such a lovely day and lots of people on fb are going walking. I really want to start getting out on the fells on days like these but there's always next weekend .

Ha yes its best to have that in mind sometimes, get up early, have lunch prepared and know where you're going. Cold tho, maybe next weekend would be better ;)

smooch is good, I met my partner through that site.

He is probably just busy sponge i bet work isn't half as interesting now he isn't there!

Always the martyr sparks!

snape - hope your date goes/ is going well.

adams - we have been walking today. but then again we walk everyday - joys of having a dog. lol

hmmm - im not sure what to do about monday - i think i might have changed my mind.

sat coffee has now turned into dinner and drinks on friday as well. i was meant to be meeting mondays on friday too. - but this teacher guy seems nicer i think ( even though hes the same age) we possibly have more in common.

stay work is v boring without him! Annoyingly he is prob so busy in his new job he won't have had time to miss me

forgot Snape was on date today! fingers crossed all goes well & we get a full update later!

Watch if you're in 2 minds about Monday then cancel, our prerogative! See how you get on with the teacher on Fri, keep the other one in reserve for now

yeah - thats what i was thinking really. we seem a lot more on the same wavelenth.

email him sponge - just a casual one, to say hi.

sponge I think I can relate a little bit to what your friend said to you. When I got divorced at 30 I set myself loads of goals, I always had something to aim for and it was great but then at the age of 37 I found myself with nothing to aim for, I had achieved everything I had set out to achieve, had a great job, a house, car, money, happy me and happy kids but suddenly life seemed a bit flat. Strangely enough it wasn't long after that that I finally, after 3 years of him nagging asking, agreed to have a baby with the ex But yes, positive thinking will help you in your plight and don't worry, we will keep reminding you!!

Yes watch if in doubt, don't hang about, cancel the date, no need to wait!! Plus, I like the sound of the teacher, have we seen a cock pic discussed him?

Yeah snape hope the date is going well! Looking forward to the update, but only if it's clean

i have - you know i work quickly!
:)

i asked.

hes been ever so respectful, and said, after we had agreed to coffee, that he was enjoying talking to me, and actually, would i like to go to dinner with him instead.
so - yeah. why not? should be fun.

Dinner sounds classy and proper. A good first date!

I'm back. disaster.

nice bloke, talked a lot (through nerves) almost 40, lives with his (bed ridden) mother, smoker (which isn't great for me right now)

no spark. no teeth.

next!

No TEETH??

No teeth?

Teeth as in teeth? Or teeth as in bite, balls ?

no. teeth.

seriously.

apparently he had an accident a few years ago, has had the top plate replaced (I thought they all looked a bit regular...) but hasn't had the bottom set done yet.

no teeth.