Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

There you go Fabby and what watch says, filter the dross and share the cock pics Have fun!!

stay You know, the swiss roll has had the most impact on me than any of them. Although I can't seem to forget the one that was full of big sticky out veins either, that was a nose curler. Then there was the little acorn one too, a right stubby little thing, hiding under a big belly. I had to look at the living room in the background to make sure it wasn't my ex.

Haha, go fabby!

I still don't think I am brave enough to do it. I will need a while to mentally prepare myself for cock pics.

I love the cock pics, I have a special folder

Behave myself indeed....

Hiya good morning!

So I made a profile on PoF and it has been bombarding me with messages!! Can I ask some questions of more experienced internet daters?

Do I have to answer every contact? Is it rude not to reply?

So far I have had -
The man who knows you are not interested but keeps sending messages.
Men who send one word messages.
Men who give very little away in their profile. Are they hiding something?

And my personal favourite - the man who said he would be taking me out tonight if he wasn't working today. Oh really, stranger?? I told him not to bother writing again, and he did, to insult me.

Excellent!!!

So do I have to reply to them all?

Scared to arrange to meet someone!

Awh Sparks don't be so sensitive

Something2say No, you don't have to reply to every message, in fact I would say it's best you don't as a reply to someone you aren't interested in is an invitation for them to contact you again and so it goes on, and on, and on... Just block the ones who get arsey about being ignored or the ones who quite frankly you do not wish to bother you again. You have the power!

Oh, and another tip, if you are sending a snotty message make sure you go back and hit the block button before he has the chance to reply

"Awh Sparks don't be so sensitive"

I am a persecuted man!

Hello Something. The man who keeps sending messages: delete and block.
One word messages: delete and block.
Short on info profiles: if they look ok, message back, if not, delete and block.
Don't worry about hurting feelings, all you're doing is filtering out the crap.
Have fun.

I only reply to the interesting ones, so don't worry about offending

My experiment is still going well. Chatting to 4 by text at the moment, so far no sleaze, one is being a little bit risqué but not offensive in any way. No cock shots either.

I hadn't contacted mr hotbutdim at all since thurs date (other then to answer his text straight after date with 'me too' after he said lovely date, can't wait til Monday). He initiated contact yesterday with nice chat, asking after weekend etc. I quite like this one for fwb

Have mr personaltrainer to see next week sometime, who is even more built than hotbutdim lol

I like IE experiments

Sparks yes you are! And the sooner you get used to the idea the better it will be!

MrsC I like IE experiments too!

I'm not so bothered about the delay in Mr Champagne replying, it was more the fact he asked the question. Just felt a bit, well, awkward. But we'll see - and Watch you're right it's me picking him as much as it is him picking me, so I shouldn't stress it.

And so much for me saying he should have seen it said IE on my profile from the off; I was so distracted by his good looks (and decent spelling/punctuation/reasonable level of intelligence) I failed to notice that he's only 2 inches taller than me...!

Besides, I have a few others I am exchanging messages with - one who lives in the same town but is only 24 (which is probably too young for me, but hey, its only a fwb not a boyfriend so it's ok right?!) and some others who seem nice. Any hint that they're not, I delete and block immediately!

And every single one of those I'm messaging has 'dating' or 'long term' as what they're looking for....

stay I've heard nothing from my boss, am going to drop him a quick email (as I only have that not his new phone no) in the next week or so I think. Just to see how he's getting on check he hasn't forgotten all about me

Watch, I learnt a long time ago that a vast proportion of men are like that but thankfully not all. There is a learning curve through life and obviously me being so old I might have gained a little bit more wisdom than 20 yrs ago.

Sponge, Make any update?

Fabby glad you are getting some attention now. Agree with Time, you are an attractive 47 yr old who doesn't need to take 10 yrs off, 5 is OK.

Taking years off is just as bad as posting out of date pics! The point is to weed out the pillocks isn't it? Total honesty's your best bet for that. If a man doesn't want a woman unless she's five years younger than him then that man is a pillock. He needs weeding out now before you meet him and actually possibly care what he thinks.

Also, I think I have just found a really, really nice man on Match Aff. who could pass the 'do I want to rip his trousers off with my teeth' test.... who'd have thought? Very nice emailing :-) What a shame he lives 80 miles away.

I really hope he hasn't lied about his age, because that's just NOT ON imho [saintly emoticon]

Agree with Flanelle re fibbing about age. I'm proud to be 47, I'm not old and I take care of myself so why lie? Be proud of who you are, if someone has a problem with you that's their problem not yours and there's no room for them in your life.

Thanks for the advice about the messages. Much appreciated.

On the age thing, no don't start off on a lie - espesh one that feeds into ageism!! In a good feminist too (fabbychic!) - I am surprised at you!

I have taken 4 years off my age. I know you all think I'm wrong but I am unrepentant If I put it back to my real age I know I would only get messages from the over 40s, and I don't want anyone older than me (especially not anyone who looks as bad for their age as most of them do!)

Plus I'm not proud of my age. I'd far rather people think I was 35 than know I was 39...

sponge there is no right and wrong, just a difference of opinion, we all think and operate differently, it would be a pretty dull world if we all thought and acted the same. My age is set at 47 and I'm getting messages from 'young un's' as well as 'old un's' the oldest being 62!

I am sad that you aren't proud of your age though

I'd rather add years on so peeps said WOW look how good she looks for 50!! Not that I would, but ykwim.

s2s we probably won't hear from fabby for a good while now, she will be too busy wading through pages and pages of messages

I get told that anyway Flanelle, and lot's of "you don't look your age"

I get told I don't look 35 (I'm hoping this is not because they actually think I'm older )

I'm not proud of my age because I really feel like I've wasted my 30s. In my 20s I finished my degree and qualified, started work, bought my first house, and then sold it and bought current one, had 2 children, met the evil Ex. and then in my 30s I pretty much did nothing. Part of me wishes I could go back 10 years and start again. Stupid I know!