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Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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TimeForSomeAction · 13/01/2012 14:05

Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make Grin

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc Grin

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watchoutforthatsnail · 14/01/2012 18:07

Oh god :)

How did you leave it?

lubeybooby · 14/01/2012 18:09

Teeth are a dealbreaker for me I have to say.

I once got talking to someone, and he was older than me but only in his forties - he asked if I minded that he was older - I said no don't mind at all long as you have all your own teeth. At that point he confessed to having none but said that people don't really notice... err... well yes if you keep your gob shut in all your pics they won't know unless you tell!

He must surely have realised everyone in RL would be able to tell.

lubeybooby · 14/01/2012 18:10

Should say he didn't have falsies or replacements/dental implants either

Snapespeare · 14/01/2012 18:19

he walked me half way home, asked how we were getting on, I said I didn't really know, he night be a grower, but I thought we were potentially good friends and that I don't fuck my friends. not through want of trying in some instances :) He agreed that we were probably too similar to have a relationship, but probably good friends.

he asked if we could be the kind of friends that just had sex every so often?

I declined.

He remarked that he thought he would ask as if he didn't I'd be wondering what was wrong with myself....I replied that I'd be more likely to wonder what was wrong with him. :)

it's fine. back home to two messages from rather nice men on OKC. one looks like johnny Depp. if you squint a little. i hope he has teeth.

lovesadirtylie · 14/01/2012 18:22

what an uncomfortable experience..I've had plenty of those, I just try forget about them and carry on.

Wrt knocking a bit off the age..I understand the temptation but I never do it.

Snapespeare · 14/01/2012 18:30

no. teeth.

are teeth too much to ask? am i expecting too much?!

lovesadirtylie · 14/01/2012 18:32

Snapespeare, you know internet dating casts a wide net, most of them you just gotta throw straight back!

lovesadirtylie · 14/01/2012 18:35

think of it as a lucky dip:)

Snapespeare · 14/01/2012 18:36

oh, hens teeth! Grin

I'm fine with it, all chalked up to experience.

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TimeForSomeAction · 14/01/2012 18:38

No teeth. I'm speechless.

His gums will have been very hard though, bet he could bite an apple with them.

On to the next one then Snape, you have only just begun Smile

How is the no smoking going by the way?

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TimeForSomeAction · 14/01/2012 18:40

POF has changed. It's been transformed to conversation style.

Not only that a lot of the messages I sat and painstakingly deleted are back! Grr!

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hatesponge · 14/01/2012 20:01

Snape, what a shame! :( One of my rules (after one disastrous date with a guy with awful teeth) is to discount anyone who doesn't have at least one photo showing teeth, just to be sure they have some & they're not blackened stumps...

As an aside, my grandad had all his teeth removed when he was in his late 20s (so the story goes he went to the dentist, & when told he needed a couple out and he said fuck it take them all out Shock). He was a bit mad, my grandad Grin Never wore false teeth, and eventually could chew toffees and eat an apple :)

Time, I just went onto POF and saw that, most annoying!

Nothing from Mr Champagne still...

Flanelle · 14/01/2012 20:18

My worst date was a groper. He kept trying to feel round my waist and stand behind me to 'massage' my neck. "PLEASE DON'T DO THAT!" I said. "You like it really!" he said. "NO, I DON'T!" I said, "It makes me feel really uncomfortable and I want you to stop!"

We wrapped things up quite quickly after that.

hatesponge · 14/01/2012 20:24

Flanelle Shock thats awful.

My worst date is a 2 way tie between the dental issues man referred to above (who in addition to dodgy teeth had a very inappropriate line in conversation) and a blind date I had with the friend of a then colleague. She had told me he was attractive, very good job, nice car, GSOH etc. What she omitted to mention (rather crucially) was that he was the height and build of a jockey. He was to be fair a lovely bloke but it's hard to think of anyone I could have found less physically attractive.

Flanelle · 14/01/2012 20:35

He might say "Giddy up!" at inappropriate moments.

Snapespeare · 14/01/2012 22:36

No smoking is going ok thanks time. :)

Adams, hope you're feeling a bit better. :)

Watch, dinner sounds good. Why not!?

Had the 'chat' with this afternoons date (relegated from 'the doctor' to 'the date', can't give him a mean nickname, he's too much of a sweetie...) We're going to be mates, go to the theatre together occasionally (a mutual love) & still swap doctor/river flirty texts, because it's fun, we're both a bit lonely, I think, but on the understanding that nothing physical can come of it.

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FabbyChic · 15/01/2012 09:09

Morning Ladies

I had a bf with no teeth, he didn't have any as he had had oral cancer.

He has new teeth now at a cost of 30k. They look awesome and have made him look so much younger.

I've not seen them in person but a pic and he looks so different.

watchoutforthatsnail · 15/01/2012 09:48

snpae - thats not a bad outcome then, if you have gained a new friend and somone to do things with.

I coiuldnt do bad teeth, let alone no teeth.

ive had to hide my profile AGAIN. even with a faceless profile its quite ridiclous and i woke up to 204 new messages. Also the new pof is annoying becuse there is no delete button on the message page.

The teacher seems really nice actually, im looking forward to friday, to meet him. He cancelling his friday plans to do so. Which is nice of him i thought.
Though i suspect it might me more to do with that if he doesnt meet me this weekend, i cant do anything for another two weeks... and i think he wants to try and get in frist before anyone else does. lol

Snapespeare · 15/01/2012 10:07

Fabby, sorry about your bf with no teeth, I sound horribly shallow now, don't i? :( think it was just a bit of a shock & the tip of the ice-berg in some respects (i won't bore you all)

Still... have replied to two guys on okc, one who does look little depp-like (squeeeeee!) The other seems nice & looks a little like the guy who played David frost in frost/Nixon. His profile pic is full of teeth.

Hope everyone is recovering from wading through their in-boxes. I've hidden my profile over thee; in the theatre all week, so not enough time to reject look at them all.

adamschic · 15/01/2012 15:05

Snape, I started feeling better once I got ready to go out, thanks. Sorry about your date but it will be nice to have a companion to do stuff together just shame it won't have the obvious 'benefits' for you.

I had a fabulous night. He booked a place that I would have picked myself and it was just my thing. I want to repay the favour so we will be seeing each other again at some point. Things might be changing, I think Smile.

Watch, fwiw the teacher and the meal get a big thumbs up from me. Grin. I really hope it goes well.

I haven't been on POF for a while so don't know what the changes are.

something2say · 15/01/2012 15:41

Hi all, wow adamschic glad you had a good night, I wondered how it went.

Watchout, I've had a few mails too!

I've whittled mine down to 2 I am interested in and several I haven't ditched but am not sure why. This all happens very quickly doesn't it!

Man 1 - tall and bald and seems like a clubber. Very easygoing and warm so far, like how I feel when I read his messages, altho he can't spell at all - should I care about that? He's at work and I expect to hear from him later.

Man 2 - a latecomer! Only interested me today when I went lkg for Man 1's messages. haha. This one is taller and dark haired, a camerman. 5 ysr older than the other one. Profile all a bit 'fun fun fun!!!' but 2nd message was more my sort of thing. Altho it had several details incorrect about me and I now wonder was he replying to someone else?? ooops! And he's gone now.

I feel guilty writing to 2 men..... And Man 2 asked if we could meet, I suggested a very nice pub with an open fire... I think Man 1 is easygoing and Man 2 might make me feel I have to be on my toes.

something2say · 15/01/2012 15:44

Man 2 has written a really long msg, he is working filming something and knows the pub and wants to meet.

Gah I haven't got a dress sorted, is it meant to be this quick???

I tell you what tho, I have well moved on from sad and bad feelings re ex. Nothing to be done there, can't change it from what it is, so may as well have a nice time.

adamschic · 15/01/2012 15:52

Don't feel guilty you can chat to as many as you can keep up with without getting them muddled up. I have met people quickly and regretted it but that was because I should have studied the photos closer and known that they wouldn't float my boat. If you hit it off you will do sooner or later so it really doesn't matter.

Do you need a dress for a pub or could you go in jeans/trousers?

something2say · 15/01/2012 16:04

I could go in jeans yes, have 2 pairs, one black skinny and the other blue and bootcut. Not sure either says what I want my first impression to be.

I have a dark turquoise green Ghist type dress, not tight, more beautiful, with buttons down the front and bell shaped arms, goes with browny red flat leather boots....more my sort of thing....the jeans are a bit tight, would have to class them up a bit.

Oh well this time I am going to be me, I can't waste time any more.

Its jolly nice to feel wanted tho!

Adamschic are you meeting your man again? Did you get a kiss at the end haha?