Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

Well done Time on 96%

You are bound to feel a bit shitty coming up to an anniversary like that. Just remind yourself how much happier you are and that you did an amazing thing by breaking free of the relationship which isn't very easy when someone has dragged you down so much. Try not to wallow too much but to think of the future.

Hopefully the next guy you are interested in won't be such a fuckmuppet. Also at least it shows your twat radar is fully working

Thank you Zany, I am trying not to let it get to me but for some reason it is doing. Having said that I was sat behind a couple of teenage girls on the bus home from town. One of them was telling her friend how 'strict' her dad is with her mum, how she cries a lot and shouts at her then apologises but she knows she must get frustrated because she has to think about everything before she does it. The friend replied that yes, she had noticed, she wasn't judging or anything but she did notice then the mum was trying a a maxi dress, looked lovely in it but wouldn't buy it because the dad wouldn't like it. It was so sad to hear but at the same time I felt so relieved that it won't be my DD offloading to her friend, discussing how miserable I am. I've saved her from all that crap.

time well done on your 96% thats a fantastic mark and agree with Zany you did do an amazingly brave thing, and it's so great that your DD won't ever have to go through the same sort of thing as that girl on the bus.

I won't be posting much from now on. Realised I can't do the dating stuff myself, and I'm useless with advice for others so not much I can say really! I dreamed about my nice Ex last night, in the dream we were at a fair and he won me a fish. Silly I know but I was so happy until the moment I woke up. I can't ever see myself feeling as happy as he used to make me with anyone else, so I don't know theres much point in looking. I have a new job (hopefully), and learning to drive, and finishing my house and that's enough to keep me busy really.

I do wish everyone else continued success on the man front though - will be checking up on you now and then :)

welll done time :) brilliant mark! :)

well done me for introducing the term 'fuckmuppet' to the thread & well done everyone else for universally embracing it as a catch-all term of twattish fuckmuppetry!

hate I absolutely understand that. I had such a lovely day with PM and the kids on Sunday. snow-ball fights, sunday roast, too much wine, watching telly. There were points at which I could just look at him and think that this felt right and I really don't want things ever to change. but realistically, with my realistic hat on...we've never had a sexual relationship, it's highly unlikely we ever will and if I don't try to find someone else I will end up as Miss Havisham dusting cobwebs off of my fanjo rhetorical wedding cake for the next thirty years or so until I die. I can't see myself being as happy with someone else, but I need to take a leap of faith & laugh at what life has chucked at me. it's fucking shite, but there it is.

Thanks guys Spreadsheets next!

Yes Snape well done on the 'fuckmuppet', am loving it!

I don't really know what to say with regard to your unrequited loves Snape and Sponge apart from the fact it made me feel sad to read and you are both wonderful women who deserve men who can love you as much as you will love them.

Snape PM is a fool not to realise what a good thing he has going with you, he is a fuckmuppet!

I prefer the term 'titface' with relation to PM, but am willing to accept 'fuckmuppet' as a reasonable alternative. :)

...and we're all wonderful, every single last one of us.

I propose we have a virtual valentine nights date with each other - we can all cook our favourite romantic meals for one, dim the lights, slap on some Barry White and sit online bitching endlessly about twattish titfaced fuckmuppetry. :)

Titface! That made me laugh out loud! Ok, how about a Titfaced Fuckmuppet, a breed of his own.

sponge - snape is right. I know its sad, and probably true, you are not going to love someone in the same way. But that doesnt mean to say you wont love them in an equally special, yet different, way. You have a ton going on, but i would say keep your profile open and maybe check in once a week, its free, its not costing you anything to do so, and you never know what might come your way.

Sometimes things dont work the way you would like them too, and i know how that goes ( you know who) But you can choose to do something about it, or choose not to and possibly spend the rest of your life alone. Id rather take the risk, im always a little hopeful than one day someone will come along and just blow me away.

Speaking of you know who, we have a tentative meet up date in april. We havent seen each other in ages, and it would be really nice just to hang out again. No expectations ( obviously because he is living with someone). Im not entirely sure if its an inspired idea or the worlds most awful idea, and i expect i shall waiver between the two for a while. But anyway/

Time - WELL DONE!!!!! you are clearly a genius :) Some employer just needs to realise that.

That sounds like a plan! I'm up for that

Well done Time! Excellent result. I am also a long legged freak and wouldn't feel comfortable with a shorty. My ex was not much taller than me and was a bit insecure about going out with me in heels. Another symptom of fuckmuppetry? Shan't be putting up with that again. Commiserations on the married arsehole. Just feel good there wasn't anything more invested in him.

I will consider the options, but if the 'dating' guys have expectations, I don't know if I'm up to fighting off the 'IE' ones. We'll see.

In other news, I have a date. Tomorrow. And another one on Friday. God, I shall be worn out with being sparkly and attractive. Am looking forward to a weekend in a track suit.

Thursday is slightly rough round the edges, same age as me, joiner, has horses and motorbikes. Friday is 10 years older but cool, alternative type that seems to have a similar sense of humour. Quite looking forward to both of these. I have checked them out (stalked) them both thoroughly and they seem to check out ok.

Ps. Cougars are a bit shit, panthers are much better.

Oh, yes please. Can we celebrate Valentines here? I am avoiding anything in RL to do with it.

mine wasn't unrequited, which makes it worse if possible, if anything he loved me more than I loved him
:( Given that the occasional dream about him is still better than the reality of anyone else, I don't see the point in me bothering.

And I already have first dibs on becoming Miss Havisham :)

Thank you watch, I just need a foot in the door, that's all I ask, a chance to sell myself. I just really want to work. If I'm still unemployed when I've completed this course I'm going to ask about a work trial, slave labour I know but it will get me out of the house and using my skills. I love being able to do the school run with DD but the hours in between are mind numbing.

Your comment to sponge has made me think that maybe I should do the same, unhide the profile and just check in once a week. I might just fall lucky and hit the jackpot one day. Fickle? Me?

As for you know who, well, I suppose your heart will lead you on that one

snape - that is what in intend to do :) ive found the BEST cheese and im going to eat that, followed by lots of malteaser bunnies.
probably under the slanket.

Thank you Dating My first ex used to force me onto the road while he walked on the pavement because he couldn't stand me being taller than him. The latest one never walked at the side of me anyway so it made no difference. Champion Fuckmuppets the pair of em! Great news on the dates! And I'm all for a Valentines bash on here, wearing my fleecy PJ's and eating Whole Nut!

Sponge what happened with you and the nice ex? Did you end it? Apologies if you've already told us all about it and I missed it. Or I'm having a senior moment.

Force you to walk in the road!!! Jesus. I've heard it all now.

my heart will tell me im stupid :)
At the momment i dont see the harm to go hang out, take in some sights and just talk. If only for the fact we havent seen each other in ages.
Obviously i am insane. I dont expect for a second i will actually go. But you know, the option is there.
As sponge and snape - i will always habe a thing for that man. Its not love, but its something.

I know Dating, I didn't half know how to pick em. Fuckmuppet central.

I don't think you are insane watch, knowing how you feel about him I think you will be exercising great control and strength if you don't go.

I think Valentines is over rated and I'm in a relationship! I have said I don't want to go out for a meal seen as its always full of forced romantics who buy over prices roses as they feel thay have to, we are going out for a few drinks instead (never one to miss out on a chance to celebrate with a drink or 2). I am spending the day with my DC's and have already brought them presents.

Back in a bit as computer is reaaalllllly slooowwww

The price of flowers at the moment is shocking! I had a gander today and couldn't believe how expensive just a regular bunch of carnations are, and that was only in Sainsburys. I'm taking DD out for lunch on Valentines Day and looking forward to it. Then it will be an evening of fleecy PJ's and getting cosy. Bliss!

Hi all lots to catch up on

TIME!! You are bloody wonderful you did an amazing thing for your DD and your twat radar is working beautifully. And you are a cleverclogs that gets 96% :o Give yourself a big pat on the back and keep enjoying your hard won freedom and have some very lovely sex soon with a nice gentleman

Watch, weightloss is great ta am on 17lbs loss now, it's slowed down a bit now to about 1lb a week but that is my actual target so can't complain :o Well done shifting your stone!!

My twat radar is NOT working. Been chatting to a guy for about three weeks. Met up last night and I thought he was going to attack me. We've been really friendly and flirty all this time and I was really looking forward to meeting him. He got lost on the way to our pub meet and it sounded like he was raising his voice when I was trying to give him directions. Against my better judgement, I drove and collected him as he was completely lost. He got in my car and was seemingly angry but I calmed him down and we went for a drink. I guess I wasn't my usual relaxed self but I'm pretty good at keeping chat going. Anyway, as we were saying goodnight, he rounded on me in the car park and told me that I wasn't who he thought I was, I'd misled him. He started questioning my divorce and said that no wonder I was on my own. All this from a bloke that told me he was six foot and as fit as fiddle turned out to be 5' 6" and as overweight as he could be. He stomped off shouting, "don't bother contacting me". As if I would.... I was staying in a hotel on business and I was so shaken, I just went to my room and sat and cried. He is a freak and I hope that no one else gives him the time of day.

Oh My God feedback that is terrifying! There should be a section on dating sites where you can leave information like this for the sake of other potential victims dates. Sod it, I'm leaving my profile hidden and I'm going to leave things to fate!

Thank you lubey I am still enjoying my hard won freedom very much but wouldn't mind a bit of TLC and lovely sex with a vair naice gentleman it's bloody fantastic! Well done on the weightloss! You are doing great too!