Close Encounters of The Intimate Kind! Dating thread No:8

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Continued from Makes post and in reply of:

Make just ask him. Why not? And of course you are going to be a bit of a mystery woman, he's only just blooming met you! Send him a message saying if he fancies unravelling a bit of the mystery then to get in touch because you would like to see him again. Be playful, be teasing, be fun, make him want you Make

I'm pleased you are having fun but I do have to ask, is all this dating costing you loads of money?? New outfits etc

Its not too soon if you are ready, Something! its not, if you ready dip your toe in the water and have a looksie, call it window shopping

That's the great thing about the free sites, you can window shop.

I am trying to write a profile on pof........what do I say fgs!!!!! Let us see.....

I am finally chatting to a 'normal' one who lives locally :) after a very long drought!

Daisy.Normal? You lucky thing! ha ha

I know bet I get a cock pic soon :)

Well i seem to be getting NO interest....i get some looks when i am out i have noticed, but nothing more. I am looking for someone mid twenties as i myself am 23! So dont really want to do the age gap thing again, nor anything too long distance....not america anyway. I dont think i am pretty but i am now here near as ugly as my sister, whose belly is bigger than her boobs, and her face looks as if it has been squashed by a truck! Surely there is someone out there to find me attractive. Whats POF?

Hi all

I have found a few interesting guys to chat too..they want to meet though and I am just not ready. I will just say I am bust next week so it would have to be the week after, then I can cancel if i chicken out.

I am on OkCupid. It is pretty good. I have only had a few illiterate types messaging me, most seem to be reasonably intelligent.

OkCupid where you fill in 200 questions first? I done 150 questions and gave up and only got 5 matches.

Is that that OKCupid

That's not a very nice thing to say about your sister Ellen

My Belly sadlly is currently bigger than my tits. Oh well. Dieting will help but Im just so hungry all the time! Next week perhaps! ;o)

I feel justified saying it. I really dont like her, and here is just a few reasons,
She dictates to me far too much
thinks she knows more about parenting than i do...she has a grand total of 0 children
oh yeah, she also kneed me in the tummy while pregnant. She done this on the saturday had an appointment at EPU on tuesday to be told that the baby had passed away on friday, but i stil thought i hada viable pregnancy, i had a missed miscarriage (no bleeding) perfectly reasonable to say and it is honest!

Nothing wrong with belly bigger than boobs, except her only excuse... and get this is that she cant eat healthy food wait for it.. because it gives me a poorly belly!! She always has a poorly belly and only ever eats junk food!! She also seems to think she is the same size as me...which she isnt! Us mums have an excuse to have belly's whats hers?

Just want some company and fun of someone who will treat me with respect, respect is all, not loads of money being thrown at me or expensive meals, macdonalds or kfc, split 50/50 would do me!

Sorry, not read all the new posts but Fabby, don't lie about your age. If you meet someone who you click with you are going to have to fess up and that could make things awkward.

Secondly, stop pulling yourself down! You are lovely, you have a lovely smile and I am astounded that you haven't had any/many messages. You are not old, you are not too fat but you are too critical of yourself. That has to stop!

Have you ever stopped to think that the reason why you don't receive so many messages is because men think you are out of their league and so feel nervous approaching you? When my profile is set to regular dating the pace is slow, I don't get all that many messages. As soon as I set it to Intimate Encounter they came flooding in.

As my profile states, I am not looking for an intimate encounter or one night stands. I am also not looking for marriage or a live in relationship. I am however looking for a long term thing with one guy, no strings, no hassle, no demands. I've had loads of messages from men looking for exactly the same, one special woman who isn't going to be nagging him for marriage as soon as he has had his leg over

Intimate Encounter increases the traffic, it increases the volume of men looking at your profile and so increases your chances of meeting someone who wants the same things you do. You will have to suffer the few fools too and maybe the odd cock shot (some of them rather impressive, I have a special folder for them now ) but it's all good fun. It might be worth a try

I like the 'Fun more than drudge' bit of your post Fabby and think that would be a great addition to your profile if it's not already in there.

Sponge why do you think you have blown it just by what you said to him? Did he reply with something to give you that idea? I don't think that should have caused him to rethink, you didn't say anything offensive.

You don't have to fill out the questions Fabby, I think I did about 30 then realised it was never going to end so I stopped. From looking at other peoples profiles though I think most people don't really bother with them that much. Not the desirables anyway..

Ellen I am in my twenties too, I have mostly been contacted by guys in there late twenties/ early thirties so not too much of an age gap. I am quite happy with that though, might mean they are slightly more mature.

Time I don't know that I have blown it, he hasn't replied yet (though I don't think he's been online this evening) it was just the fact he asked about it...will have to wait and see.

I seem to be getting an awful lot this evening wanting to meet me in hotel rooms/for one offs/offering to show me their cams etc All instantly deleted and blocked of course!

sponge - i doubt you have blown it from one reply, you shouldnt be so negative. You are auditioning for a partner, they are auditioning for you, thats the way you should view it. Esp in a fwb type situation.

so - in the interests of research i closed my pof account and set up a new one. This one says way less, and basically only says what i am looking for. No information about hobbies, or what i like etc... there is also no picture attached.

There is still no shortage of messages, less than there was before, sure, but still in the reigon of about 200. Some of them are ones that had contacted me on my other profile - proving that they dont read profiles to see if they might get on, but just email anyone and see where they get. and that what you have to say - or look like dont really matter.

I see it more as 'interviewing potential FWB's' watch. If their 'CV' sin't up to scratch then they don't make the selection process, if when contacted their communication skills are lacking they are deleted before second interview

Interesting research, I think we may be getting close to a conclusion of how the male of the species operates when it comes to dating, it's just figuring out how to put it into words!

I doubt you have blown it sponge. Sometimes I take ages to reply to messages just because I am lazy.

Well one of the nice guys I was talking to has rapidly wandered into wanker territory. Casual mentionings of his expensive car, ipad and house in florida...hmmm. Doesn't impress me!

yeah - thats what i meant, i think i missed a few words out there.

i think, almost without a doubt, that most of them try and take whatever they can get.

and thats about it. they pretty much have no morals surrounding any of it.

Which, i think shows why dating is so hit and miss, and maybe why it can seem like a date has gone well, and you dont hear from them again, or why its so hard to get past a first date. Its not us that is the problem, not at all. its not we are too fat, or too old, or not funny enough or anything like that AT ALL. on the whole , its them. They just want to get laid. with anyone. even faceless pictures.

saying all that - i now have a date with a 24 year old teacher. next sat. coffee, day time date... from an IE profile.
i was talking to him on my old one, but he got lost in all the dross.

i think my view from all this research ( becuse, if anything, its been really interesting and quite eye opening) is you have to play them at their own game.
If, by chance, you happen to meet somone you like, something might happen.
( and thats kind of the same with normal dating anyway... its a numbers game, noone is going to fall instantly in love with you from your profile and profiles, as proved by this dont mean anything anyway)

Ladies, ladies so I've set up a profile with intimate encounter, and before five mins had passed I'd got 10 messages! ha ha

we did tell you :)

now filter the dross, dont lower your standards ( in fact, id say raise them) and use the delete and block buttons a lot.

and - have fun :)

Ive had two phone numbers already!

sponge give it time! :) what's happening with you and the boss? All quiet?

time no swiss rolls for me, as long as the sassenach behaves himself!