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AF - the check out the menz thread as promised!

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SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 10:06

Firstly, I have only been on 2 dating sites for just over a week. These are the 5 men who I am talking to. All other unsuitable/disinterested advances blocked and deleted.

I have: Not used my real name; not volunteered any information, apart from what is on my profile, until they have; read all their profiles very carefully. My profile only states that I have 2 children, and am divorced with a good relationship with my ex. Nothing else about my family life.

Mr Finance - Director of finance company. has asked me for coffee next week. I have moved it back to after the New Year. Masses in common - we grew up in the same area and his ex comes from the same large village I grew up in. Very similar likes, very easy to talk to. Talks a lot about his children, who are similar ages to mine, has good relationship with ex wife. He makes me laugh.I'd stress that he has volunteered all this information first, and there is nothing in my profile that would enable him to 'fish' for this information on the internet. My only flag is that he is very keen and messages a lot. Gave me his number day before yesterday, I have not used it yet. Not exchanged email yet. Number 3 on the list.

Mr Planes - avionics engineer. Has also asked me for coffee next week, again I have rearranged for the New Year. Again, a lot in common, but not as much as Mr Finance. Comes across as very dependable and serious. I like him, and he is Number 4 on the list. Not exchanged phone number yet, or email.

Mr Snow - Owns construction company, makes ski slopes amongst other things. I really like him, he seems kind and funny and volunteered a lot of information about his life and his family. Masses of photos, of him but also ones he has taken of where he lives. Not exchanged numbers/emails. Messages long and chatty, messages at least once a day. Very similar interests and outlooks on life. Number 2 on list.

Mr A bit Mysterious - has no photo on his profile as he does not want to be identified. Know his name though. Hysterically funny, never married, good job in management. I know the least about this one, he is far more wary than the others. Lack of photo makes me Xmas Hmm but it is early days. Last on list for photo reasons.

Mr Army Officer - I have serious hots for this one. Again wary, divorced 2 years, talks a lot about his daughter. A lot of information on his profile, and a lot of photos. He comes across as very genuine and is very proud of his job. Well travelled, well educated, very much my type. Number 1 on list - I could do very bad things to him. Xmas Blush

Questions, critiques, and opinions sought, and very much appreciated.

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Geordieminx · 25/12/2011 17:28

He may be a good reserve... Keep him on the back burner... See what he comes up with Wink

SantasStrapon · 25/12/2011 18:46

I'm not really going to reject anyone until I've met them, only fair to give them a proper chance. I will, however, keep everything said on here in mind and be very wary and alert to bullshittedness.

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Geordieminx · 25/12/2011 18:59

I wish you could take pics/hidden camera on your dates!

You know if you are near Glasgow I could be your wing woman. Just to be nosey make sure you are safe like Grin

SantasStrapon · 25/12/2011 19:33

Xmas Grin I'm in Lincolnshire. Bit of a trek for you.

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SantasStrapon · 26/12/2011 21:23

Well, I have spoken to Mr Finance. I rang him and withheld my number,just in case.

He is lovely. Xmas Shock

Very easy to talk to, nice voice, didn't really talk about himself at all. He talked about his family, his children, brothers and parents etc. Nice to talk to, easy to have a conversation with, not at all boring or up himself. I am pleasantly surprised.

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MinnieBar · 26/12/2011 21:52

Yay! Xmas Grin

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 26/12/2011 22:56

So, when are you meeting ?

Geordieminx · 26/12/2011 23:12

Is he hot though?

Grin

((((( shallow )))))

SantasStrapon · 26/12/2011 23:30

In the NY AF. Did you have a good Christmas?

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 26/12/2011 23:31

yes thanks

I managed to give my fuck-up family the swerve, always a good sign

you ?

Geordieminx · 26/12/2011 23:36

Envy at family swerving

SantasStrapon · 26/12/2011 23:37

Lovely thanks. Xmas Grin

Mr Snow is still hot fave though.

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 26/12/2011 23:41

my fave is still Mr Snow too

GM, I did have to do Xmas Eve evening with them, but when the talk turned to "do you remember when AF had x, y and z problem" I did the "right ! time to go" speech and go the fuck out of there

and have had a blissful family-free xmas since

and we are away for NY, so don't even have to do that duty visit either

wonderful

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 26/12/2011 23:41

got

Geordieminx · 26/12/2011 23:48

Am imaging santasstrapon and mr snow snuggled up in a log chalet on the side of a mountain.

(((realises this sounds sooooo wrong))) Blush

SantasStrapon · 26/12/2011 23:49

No, it sounds pretty good to me too. Xmas Grin

I like snow.

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HereKittyKitty · 27/12/2011 23:46

Oh I really like Mr Finance!

Could be because DH is in finance. And likes Hotel Chocolat. And is very needy loving.

Runs off to grill DH

SarahStratton · 28/12/2011 21:36

New message from Mr Snow. He is definitely my favourite.

MrGingleBells · 28/12/2011 22:10

Mr Snow. :o

from the little we know he sounds like an interesting bloke.Slightly quirky job. Depends what you want long term I guess Santa.

Someone who's stable works with money perhaps a bit dull, or someone who works with .... SNOW !!!!! I think he sounds a bit more interesting. Possibly more into you-know-what-sex :o

You never know he might have a snowman outfit

MrGingleBells · 28/12/2011 22:12

Happy Christmas by the way :) x

SarahStratton · 28/12/2011 22:46

Happy Christmas you old perv Xmas Grin

He actually sounds very stable jobwise, making snow is not strictly precise, he is more of an enabler. Amongst other things...

Geordieminx · 28/12/2011 23:10

What did the message say?

SarahStratton · 29/12/2011 00:02

It was a nice message hoping that I had enjoyed Christmas, said he had had a good time seeing his children. He said how much he misses having an adult to talk to, and asked what I was doing on NYE. said he hoped to hear from me soon.

Geordieminx · 29/12/2011 23:57

Awh.

Sounds lovely.

bigTillyMincepie · 30/12/2011 20:03

Awww, I like Mr Snow too. Mainly because I like the Snow part of his nameBlush