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AF - the check out the menz thread as promised!

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SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 10:06

Firstly, I have only been on 2 dating sites for just over a week. These are the 5 men who I am talking to. All other unsuitable/disinterested advances blocked and deleted.

I have: Not used my real name; not volunteered any information, apart from what is on my profile, until they have; read all their profiles very carefully. My profile only states that I have 2 children, and am divorced with a good relationship with my ex. Nothing else about my family life.

Mr Finance - Director of finance company. has asked me for coffee next week. I have moved it back to after the New Year. Masses in common - we grew up in the same area and his ex comes from the same large village I grew up in. Very similar likes, very easy to talk to. Talks a lot about his children, who are similar ages to mine, has good relationship with ex wife. He makes me laugh.I'd stress that he has volunteered all this information first, and there is nothing in my profile that would enable him to 'fish' for this information on the internet. My only flag is that he is very keen and messages a lot. Gave me his number day before yesterday, I have not used it yet. Not exchanged email yet. Number 3 on the list.

Mr Planes - avionics engineer. Has also asked me for coffee next week, again I have rearranged for the New Year. Again, a lot in common, but not as much as Mr Finance. Comes across as very dependable and serious. I like him, and he is Number 4 on the list. Not exchanged phone number yet, or email.

Mr Snow - Owns construction company, makes ski slopes amongst other things. I really like him, he seems kind and funny and volunteered a lot of information about his life and his family. Masses of photos, of him but also ones he has taken of where he lives. Not exchanged numbers/emails. Messages long and chatty, messages at least once a day. Very similar interests and outlooks on life. Number 2 on list.

Mr A bit Mysterious - has no photo on his profile as he does not want to be identified. Know his name though. Hysterically funny, never married, good job in management. I know the least about this one, he is far more wary than the others. Lack of photo makes me Xmas Hmm but it is early days. Last on list for photo reasons.

Mr Army Officer - I have serious hots for this one. Again wary, divorced 2 years, talks a lot about his daughter. A lot of information on his profile, and a lot of photos. He comes across as very genuine and is very proud of his job. Well travelled, well educated, very much my type. Number 1 on list - I could do very bad things to him. Xmas Blush

Questions, critiques, and opinions sought, and very much appreciated.

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SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 22:23

I can't link you to actual people though. I would be furious if someone did that to me. You'll all have to join so I can tell you who they are. Xmas Grin

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SuePurblybiltbyElves · 23/12/2011 22:25

Oh I will. Is it free?

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 22:31

To look, I think so. You only have to pay if you want to contact them.

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DingDongFruitShootsMakeYouHigh · 23/12/2011 22:35

I have just asked Dh if he is Mr Planes

He looked at me like I was completely nuts

But interestingly he didn't say no Xmas Grin

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 22:46
Xmas Grin

He had better not be. What nationality is he?

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DingDongFruitShootsMakeYouHigh · 23/12/2011 22:49

He is British

However as he is so plane obsessed he could possibly know Mr Planes

is Mr Planes American?

FabbyChic · 23/12/2011 22:50

I spent about six months with one person, and 8 with another met online.

Others never panned out.

We didn't have the spark. Some were weirdos.

A few used old pictures, some were shorter than they said.

A lot were actually only after a one off shag.

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 22:52

No, Mr Planes is British, but not English.

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DingDongFruitShootsMakeYouHigh · 23/12/2011 23:00

Not DH then Xmas Grin

or his rather sex mad colleague

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 23:04
Xmas Shock
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SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 23:40

And Mr Mysterious has bailed out now he has realised I have children. So that's what, 2 down, 3 down now?

I think Mr Snow and Mr Planes are the only real contenders here, although I will meet Mr Finance, at least I know he is truthful.

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SantasStrapon · 24/12/2011 18:09

Mr Finance has PM'd about 8 times today.

Mr Snow has sent me a really nice message wishing me a lovely Christmas.

Mr Planes is away at his parents now, he PM'd during the night, so I'm not expecting to hear from him

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DeePanCrisPandEeeven · 24/12/2011 18:25

Mr Snow is a cool (pardon the pun) dude. Not demanding. Not distant. If I were you....Smile

MinnieBar · 24/12/2011 19:17

So Mr Mysterious is more Mr BleedinPredictable then?!

Even I've gone off Mr Finance now. Eight times is verging on the desperate (sorry).

Just out of interest those who know, so if forces people aren't allowed to put their real names, where they live, what they do etc. then what do they put if they go on dating sites? Fake names, change towns and say they work as a civil servant??

SantasStrapon · 24/12/2011 19:41

I don't know Minnie. There are loads of forces guys on that dating site. Loads of em.

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BecauseImperfect · 24/12/2011 20:00

It's not all forces. Only a few. It's wise not to anyway for all. With the terrorism threat and the plans not so far from recently to kidnap and behead a serving person.

But people in a position of authority, those with a high security clearance etc. Are privvy to more information than normal rank and file personnel. So they are more valuable and have to be a lot more careful. A LOT more careful. .

Now be gone, I'm supposed to only be on the boots sale buying sylvanian. Shhh.

SantasStrapon · 24/12/2011 20:24

Lol. Xmas Grin

Happy Christmas everyone!

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SantasStrapon · 24/12/2011 22:10

Aaaaaaaaaannd I have now had a PM from Mr Mysterious. Wishing me a very Happy Christmas.

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BastedTurkey · 24/12/2011 22:47

Oooh how did I miss this shameless lurking

Geordieminx · 24/12/2011 22:58

This is fab!

Alouisee · 24/12/2011 23:25

Check them out on LinkedIn, the ones you have real names for obviously.

SantasStrapon · 25/12/2011 01:27

I have checked out Mr Finance, found him and his company, and checked that on Companies House & so far he has been truthful. Just very needy, although he does also live alone, where he said, might just be lonely.

Still a bit of a womble though.

Merry Christmas everyone x

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 25/12/2011 11:58

Merry Xmas sarah x

Mr Snow, all the wayyyyyyyyy

Betcha my Xmas Thornton's he's the guy

If not Mr Right, then Mr Right Now anyways Xmas Grin

Geordieminx · 25/12/2011 12:08

mr snow here too.... Although I wouldn't bin mr mysterious just yet.... See if you can obtain further info... He might be hot...and rich [ wink]

SantasStrapon · 25/12/2011 17:23

That did cross my mind. There are many reasons for stealth. Most of them wankerish unfortunately.

Merry Christmas AF x

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