AF - the check out the menz thread as promised!

[SantasStrapon]

Firstly, I have only been on 2 dating sites for just over a week. These are the 5 men who I am talking to. All other unsuitable/disinterested advances blocked and deleted.

I have: Not used my real name; not volunteered any information, apart from what is on my profile, until they have; read all their profiles very carefully. My profile only states that I have 2 children, and am divorced with a good relationship with my ex. Nothing else about my family life.

Mr Finance - Director of finance company. has asked me for coffee next week. I have moved it back to after the New Year. Masses in common - we grew up in the same area and his ex comes from the same large village I grew up in. Very similar likes, very easy to talk to. Talks a lot about his children, who are similar ages to mine, has good relationship with ex wife. He makes me laugh.I'd stress that he has volunteered all this information first, and there is nothing in my profile that would enable him to 'fish' for this information on the internet. My only flag is that he is very keen and messages a lot. Gave me his number day before yesterday, I have not used it yet. Not exchanged email yet. Number 3 on the list.

Mr Planes - avionics engineer. Has also asked me for coffee next week, again I have rearranged for the New Year. Again, a lot in common, but not as much as Mr Finance. Comes across as very dependable and serious. I like him, and he is Number 4 on the list. Not exchanged phone number yet, or email.

Mr Snow - Owns construction company, makes ski slopes amongst other things. I really like him, he seems kind and funny and volunteered a lot of information about his life and his family. Masses of photos, of him but also ones he has taken of where he lives. Not exchanged numbers/emails. Messages long and chatty, messages at least once a day. Very similar interests and outlooks on life. Number 2 on list.

Mr A bit Mysterious - has no photo on his profile as he does not want to be identified. Know his name though. Hysterically funny, never married, good job in management. I know the least about this one, he is far more wary than the others. Lack of photo makes me but it is early days. Last on list for photo reasons.

Mr Army Officer - I have serious hots for this one. Again wary, divorced 2 years, talks a lot about his daughter. A lot of information on his profile, and a lot of photos. He comes across as very genuine and is very proud of his job. Well travelled, well educated, very much my type. Number 1 on list - I could do very bad things to him.

Questions, critiques, and opinions sought, and very much appreciated.

I'ld not be surprised if at least one of them isn't quite as senior at work as they have said. But you seem pretty level headed, so stay careful and sceptical.

I don't my pic, nor any personal details on my profile

I still like Mr Snow though

I feel it in my water

put my pic

"Director of Finance Company"

I suppose there are some directors of finance companies

but I would take that with a pinch of salt

it's in there with "pilot" (works at Tie rack at the airport) and "CEO of huge corporation" (stacks shelves on Asda night shift)

director of finance co could = works in cash chequer thingy

Oh, and good luck!

@ AnyFucker

Santas go for coffee with them all - it will give you more insight into their personality.

If they go for espresso ristretto - be impressed

If they order a skinny latte - be wary

If they slurp their coffee or leave with a frothy moustache - ditch straight away.

Right, I think Mr Finance is out anyway. He's just PM'd me to say he went into Hotel Chocolat and bought me some chocolates.

Am pissing myself at Asda Tabard and cash chequers.

fgs...Mr Finance is a cliche isn't he ?

Why don't you arrange a weekend at a hotel with all of them. Get me someone you know and trust to interview them. Possibly invite some of those stern people who interview people for Mr Sugar aswell. Each has a 30 minute interview with the 3 different panelists while you sit behind a one way mirror (hotels have these right?). Then they all go to their rooms and we go to the bar to get pissed confer. You choose the best one

If you don't want the chocolate I run a chocolate recycling business.

Absolute cliche. He is now ticking every box on the Needy Twatometer.

am with MrGB on the MrArmyOfficer one and the TAs ( as well as due to other bits of dubious veracity) - I'd want to see his medals. As it were.

I'll have your chocolates.

Stay away from the "Army Officer" , he's probably what's known in military circles as a Walt. Ask him if he's on arrse, if he hasn't heard of it, he's a chancer.

Ok, Malificense so now i need to know what is a 'WALT' and what is an 'ARRSE'

Me too, if you don't want to put it on here, could you PM me please?

Oh, do you mean a Walter Mitty?

No idea what ARRSE is, A Right Royal ? ?

Aww, don't write off Mr Finance! Hotel Chocolat chocs are bloody lovely and it's not like he got you a box of Quality Street. Or Matchmakers

WALTS - Walter Mitty type - " I am in the SAS - can't say too much. Special Ops you know"..type thing.

I'll meet him for coffee. Possibly. After all, free chocolates.

What about arrse Pan? Whassat?

oh on on-line thing for Army gossip - bit frivolous/bit serious now and again.

Ah, thank you

So, Pan in your male wisdom, who do you think seems best?

Mr Snow gets my vote. I feel it in my wine.

Pan'd gone and ruined it now.
I was going to say that I could tell you but then I'd have to kill you.

fwiw MrSnow - funny usually means intelligent and confident ime? And like his openess. ( we can't say honesty until you meet him and he takes you on the piste. As it were.)