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SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 10:06

Firstly, I have only been on 2 dating sites for just over a week. These are the 5 men who I am talking to. All other unsuitable/disinterested advances blocked and deleted.

I have: Not used my real name; not volunteered any information, apart from what is on my profile, until they have; read all their profiles very carefully. My profile only states that I have 2 children, and am divorced with a good relationship with my ex. Nothing else about my family life.

Mr Finance - Director of finance company. has asked me for coffee next week. I have moved it back to after the New Year. Masses in common - we grew up in the same area and his ex comes from the same large village I grew up in. Very similar likes, very easy to talk to. Talks a lot about his children, who are similar ages to mine, has good relationship with ex wife. He makes me laugh.I'd stress that he has volunteered all this information first, and there is nothing in my profile that would enable him to 'fish' for this information on the internet. My only flag is that he is very keen and messages a lot. Gave me his number day before yesterday, I have not used it yet. Not exchanged email yet. Number 3 on the list.

Mr Planes - avionics engineer. Has also asked me for coffee next week, again I have rearranged for the New Year. Again, a lot in common, but not as much as Mr Finance. Comes across as very dependable and serious. I like him, and he is Number 4 on the list. Not exchanged phone number yet, or email.

Mr Snow - Owns construction company, makes ski slopes amongst other things. I really like him, he seems kind and funny and volunteered a lot of information about his life and his family. Masses of photos, of him but also ones he has taken of where he lives. Not exchanged numbers/emails. Messages long and chatty, messages at least once a day. Very similar interests and outlooks on life. Number 2 on list.

Mr A bit Mysterious - has no photo on his profile as he does not want to be identified. Know his name though. Hysterically funny, never married, good job in management. I know the least about this one, he is far more wary than the others. Lack of photo makes me Xmas Hmm but it is early days. Last on list for photo reasons.

Mr Army Officer - I have serious hots for this one. Again wary, divorced 2 years, talks a lot about his daughter. A lot of information on his profile, and a lot of photos. He comes across as very genuine and is very proud of his job. Well travelled, well educated, very much my type. Number 1 on list - I could do very bad things to him. Xmas Blush

Questions, critiques, and opinions sought, and very much appreciated.

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AnyFuckerForBreastorLeg · 23/12/2011 18:35

he's the one

marks my words

get on his pole, and you'll be larfing

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 18:36

In my tummy, Hully. I do a storage service for stollen and all other cakey.

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Malificence · 23/12/2011 18:37

Could you have a "proper" conversation with them via skpe or something?
Not all at the same time, obvs.

Hullygully · 23/12/2011 18:37

Mr snow is sounding goodly.

hopefully more gasping than larfing, af, surely?

MrGingleBells · 23/12/2011 18:38

Mr Snow looks like he's in the lead !

Mr Mysterious is you parents next door neighbour :o

Pantofino · 23/12/2011 18:38

Well you could accept them gracefully and share them! Grin. Tis not compulsory to shag him afterwards.....

AnyFuckerForBreastorLeg · 23/12/2011 18:38

both of those things

Pantofino · 23/12/2011 18:39

Oh - it's moved on! The chocs I meant Blush

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 18:42

Mr Mysterious is you parents next door neighbour

Shit Gin. I bet you're right.

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MrGingleBells · 23/12/2011 18:45

I think you should shag meet all of them and decide after that...

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 18:47

I do too. Xmas Grin

Chocolate and sex. Fantastic.

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TuftyFinch · 23/12/2011 18:47

I will graciously accept any extra cakes. O now have cake envy Sad

Malificence · 23/12/2011 18:54

Chocolate then sex, sex then chocolate, chocolate + sex together, s'all gooood. Smile
Have fun, stay safe.

MrGingleBells · 23/12/2011 18:57

Mr Soldier in uniform.

Mr Snow in his winterwonderland ( fur coat option )

Mr Finance..... Spanking

My Mysterious..... in a Zoro outfit.

:o

parent arriving soon. Good luck Sarah

BecauseImperfect · 23/12/2011 19:03

My real life uniformed bod has made it home for Christmas. So no work for either of us.

So won't be on long. Thank god you all say. :)

Arrse is the unofficial army forums. E goat RAF and navy net. Prrune for pilots.

Anyone can register. They are full of good guys, idiots and Walters. In fact many cruise those sites for info on how to pass themselves off.....A high % don't even use them anymore because of this and you have to be so careful now. It's really strict.

I just asked my husband. Would you do this. No no no. He'd risk a lot. He dosent have Facebook nadda.

SuePurblybiltbyElves · 23/12/2011 19:04

Arf at the neighbour? Him of the profile viewing?

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 19:12

Ah, the neighbour found me. Took less than 24 hours, he must live on there. He has been blocked.

Thank you Gin darling, have a lovely Christmas with the parent. Xmas Smile

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SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 21:15

Well, Mr Finance has invited me to twitter and given me his email address. So I checked him out from that, and he is the director of an extremely small a finance company. He's also starting to annoy me with the keenness Xmas Confused

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FabbyChic · 23/12/2011 21:23

What site are you on? To be honest its normal to swap numbers quickly, who wants to takl online for months then when you meet there is no spark, even though you got on great when you were interacting online?

I had over 75 dates 8 years ago and got on great with all of them online, for most had been a waste of time chatting for ages before meeting as there was nothing there when we did meet.

Nowadays its better to meet sooner.

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 21:25

Thanks Fabby, someone else has said the same thing. I think I'll try and meet them all in the New Year, and see what happens. Army boy is out of the equation. I am listening to all my Mumsnet friends, and learning fast.

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FabbyChic · 23/12/2011 21:29

When you decide who to meet try for a phone conversation its quite surprising sometimes how off putting a voice can be.

Whilst they look great and sound great, unless you get the butterflies when you meet, it's a no go for the future.

Pantofino · 23/12/2011 21:41

Did you have any successes Fabby?

bigTillyMincepie · 23/12/2011 22:07

Are you sure you couldn't fit a gingerbread latte in between Christmas and New Year - this is the most excitement I've had on MN in ages Xmas Grin

SantasStrapon · 23/12/2011 22:12

No chance and I need to lose 2 stone pdq. I am really busy with family stuff. I will feed your excitement though, in the form of menny updates. Xmas Grin

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jasper · 23/12/2011 22:20

we can't tell from this.
You know that

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