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H has capped my household spending.

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carla · 07/01/2006 22:48

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misdee · 07/01/2006 23:32

i am totally confused.

batters · 07/01/2006 23:33

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hunkermunker · 07/01/2006 23:33

Carla, don't go getting all shirty because people haven't fallen over themselves to say that your H is being unreasonable only giving you £14,400 a year, please.

nutcracker · 07/01/2006 23:33

Carla , I really think that an explanation might really help people to understand what you are upset about.

Without more info we are all completely gobsmacked and lost.

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carla · 07/01/2006 23:34

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hunkermunker · 07/01/2006 23:35

What household stuff?

Janh · 07/01/2006 23:35

I'm reeling because your financial circumstances sound so generous and yet you are complaining and I don't understand.

MrsSpoon · 07/01/2006 23:35

OK, I've tried asking this every way I can but what does he do with his money?

That's about as plain as I can put it.

emily05 · 07/01/2006 23:35

Carla, I think that you will be able to come up with a budget and be ok on that money. I think that the relationship is the problem. Do you think that it will come to you splitting up?

Heathcliffscathy · 07/01/2006 23:35

i'm assuming all household stuff means all food, all childcare costs, all childrens clothes etc

kama · 07/01/2006 23:36

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Caligula · 07/01/2006 23:36

Carla you keep coming back to ask various posters different things, does that mean you don't want to elucidate about what your household income is? Because without that information, none of us can really make a judgement as to whether this latest skirmish is reasonable or not.

nutcracker · 07/01/2006 23:36

Sorry am still confused. Do you have to buy food and pay any bills with that at all ???

batters · 07/01/2006 23:36

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PrincessPeaHead · 07/01/2006 23:36

yes I suspect we probably wouldn't be friends in real life

well spotted.

I shall bow out now!

Aloha · 07/01/2006 23:36

Household stuff that isn't bills and food? Sorry, don't understand! What does he earn? You must earn a few grand too.

misdee · 07/01/2006 23:37

so all food and bills are paid for?

you have to buy some food (meals out and extras?) and clothes for you and the kids? plus any other treats? is that right?

did u just go mad before? no limit on spending?

KateF · 07/01/2006 23:37

What is household stuff if not food and bills? For me that would be clothes (not many bought here!), and the girls dancing and swimming lessons. Wouldn't add up to more than about £50!

batters · 07/01/2006 23:37

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nutcracker · 07/01/2006 23:37

Do you work too Carla, am confused about the tax bill too, well am confused in general.

batters · 07/01/2006 23:38

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carla · 07/01/2006 23:38

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edam · 07/01/2006 23:38

Carla, what proportion of household income is he capping you at? Not clear from your posts whether he's a high earner who is scoring points off you or whether you are spending irresponsibly and he's having to take some control. If you've got a tax bill, you must have some income of your own, right?

Janh · 07/01/2006 23:39

But you said it's your house and he doesn't pay "rent"???? So what equity?

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