H has capped my household spending.

[carla]

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We are just stunned and confused. How much money is there coming in? What do you pay for? What does he spend? Was it your house before you married? Did you pay for it? How much did you spend before? Are you gettin divorced?

If you are prepared to lay it all on the table for us Carla you might find our responses become a bit more reasoned. For many of us though the figure is so outlandish its unreal.

OK we're struggling to understand here Carla. What's his income? If he earns an absolute fortune and he's only giving you 10% of it for household, it's outrageous and you've got a point, but if he earns 2000 per month and he's giving you 1200, then you haven't.

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That's what I want to know PPH is does Carla's H tell her what is happening with the other money. I would have an issue if my DH put me on a budget without discussing what is done with the rest of the funds.

But Carla, without knowing (I can spell it ) more, it's impossible to know whether you or he has a point.

you can wait until the cows come home before I winge about money on mumsnet, carla. do you know what most people earn on here?

there is a difference between having a good, slightly pointless whinge, and being a bloody spoilt ungrateful cow.

I think a non pre Christmas BC bill would be more realistic, otherwise it is being artificially raised by Christmas presents, which only have to be bought once a year.

Have you got one that isn't full of Christmas expenditure?

I'm not taking the piss, honestly, but I am genuinely shocked to the core that anyone could have this much money and moan about it. You must have read some of the threads on here, Carla, you must have seen the distress caused when someone's partner is irresponsable with money.

I thoughtt he whole point of a budget was to discuss things jointly and agree??

do u guys not have one pot as it were then split money off?

i'm just trying to understand but without knowing the ful goings on none of us will be able to support/advise u better

This is beginning to feel like deja vu.

Carla, at the risk of being cynical, I think your original post is a boast masquerading as a complaint. Why put the figure otherwise?

It sounds as if you will be divorced soon anyway, so it will be a whole different ball game, involving the CSA.

Carla did you see my last post and do you think I have a point.

£1200 a month on clothes and treats???

And what is carla's tax bill for? Unearned income or do you work and if so why not PAYE?

Where did the unmortgaged house come from?

Like mine Colditz. I am going to be in Carlas DH's position soon - DP will be getting a set amount every month, no cc no o/d.

I dread to think how much was spent at xmas with you.

How much income does one need to have to pay a tax bill, btw?

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You either have to be self-employed or paying the higher rate of tax, I think

Am I the only one, or does anyone else not understand Carla's posts - they seem to have contradictory stuff in them all, and am confused? It might be clearer if I had had a drink, but alas no, so I remain puzzled. I really don't understand what we are being asked to comment on.

I still think the actual figures are irelevent. What is he doing with what is left? Using it to pay household bills/save for the family's future or does he have some sort of ulterior plan?

And mine. He gets a set income too, and it is low, because he now gets half of what is left, not whatever he feels like spending.

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what's caused the suddeness carla that's the querstion - it's not like u went really mad at xmas/the jan sales is it??