H has capped my household spending.

[carla]

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just a point, if they're not married they can't be in forces accomodation (army wise anyhow) - DH and I tried when we were engaged and we got the big get stuffed! althou granted rank might have some lea way??

it's odd carla's not posted since yesterday on here.

and fwiw - u soon tire of that uniform! lol. trust me after washing it every week for 4 years i'd gladly swop! lol. (i'm not lav either - she confused me far too much! not that that takes much! lol)

TBH rank would have no effect at all on getting forces accomdation if they are not married. I have never known unmarried couples getting a house.

And as Lt Col he would be expected to set an example, so would be the last person to be given a house if they were not married!

In fact thinking about it, it would be very strange for them not to be married if he is that rank.....you are excpected to do a certain amount of socilaising, people have been told that they are less likely to get promotion if they are not married.

They are deffo married and not living on forces accomodation and they have no housing costs to pay.

Just thought I would clear that up this thread is far too confusing as it is.

I can sympathise with the fact that hopusehold spending has been capped with no reason given according to the op. I can sympathise about their relationship being cr*p. But I can't sympathise if she cannot manage her funds and live within her means and is bitching about only having £1200 to spen on essentials each month because many of us have to manage on a darn sight less.

I always find Carla's posts incredibly hard to understand and have several times before thought the answer to 'am I being unreasonable?' is yes.

But the thing that shines out through all is that her and her DH have an absolutely terrible relationship and that, as WWB said, she is just unable to see any virtue in him at all.

I've frequently wondered why she is still in the relationship, but perhaps money is the reason (not said in a nasty way, I can understand the concern of managing without that income). In which case, this will seem like a particularly nasty moment to Carla as it could be the real 'crashing down' point.

Goodness, we had (until i went to Uni, and that's loan now that we get on top) £1400 pcm to cover it ALL, that's with £600 a month rent, £60 council tax (I get a discount for studying), food, DH's travel at £10 a day.....

(I did get £150 for Chrsitmas , but ven £50 of that goes on a coat for DH who has worked nights without one sice October).

Carla, if youa re for real, have some sense love! This is not the place to find sympathy!

Couldn't figure this out sober, have had two glasses of vino and still none the wiser so heres to the third (hiccup)

I've long felt like PrincessPeaHead...

I might be wrong about the Lt Col but there is definitely a post from Carla referring to a Lt Col's house. Just wanted to clarify than I'm only going by what I have read on here. I'm sure Carla does own her own house, but for some reason I'm sure it isn't the one they currently live in.

Aloha wrote:

And while a few people have suggested Carla is a fantasist and winding us up, most of us are still here, aren't we?! So regardless of our personal thoughts on Carla, she has provided much discussion/amusement/high horse riding. So well done Carla, it's given me something to do on a rainy day.

£1200 IS MY WHOLE MONTHLY BLOODY INCOME. FOR EVERYTHING. ON MY OWN. STOP WHINGING YOU SILLY WOMAN AND IF YOU DONT LIKE IT GET A BETTER FECKING JOB. GGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.AND YES IN THE REAL WORLD WHERE THE REST OF US LIVE- YOUR CLOTHES AND NEW TOYS ARE INDEED LUXURY ITEMS.
grow up.

sorry ladies but when you regularly read on here about women who are really abused by their partners and families struggling by on nothing, a post like this is just bloody annoying.

well - I'm not even going to try and say anything productive - except to say I'm sitting here practically wetting myself that you're so upset 1

nah not upset. think its quite amusing really.

This thread is rather reminiscent of a scene from Monty Pythons The Meaning Of Life.

Wonder what happened to Carla?

She's probably flounced in light of the response she got here. I have to say, im a little disappointed.

How was the funeral? Did you get a good send off DD

Think I should change my name again, it's a bit depressing isn't it. What should I change it to?

peteburns?

mitchellsrback?

pinkmonkey?

rickmanRIP?

waitingforEEnexthotnewhunk?

I have no idea where some of these suggestions come from.........

Ah found it!

OMG Carla!!! You HATE your DH for only letting you spend £1200 on luxuries????????

I was thinking that you were getting a bit of a hard time on your not flouncing thread.... BUT JEEEEEEEEESUS, what did you expect!

You sound every-so materialistic about this.

Carla, I haven't read the whole thread though at a glance it seems to have deteriorated at some point.

The thing is, whatever your means are it makes sense to live within them. On one hand I can understand your irritation at your spending being limited by your DH; it could be construed as a form of control for example. If this is the case only work on your relationship will help I think.

OTOH, the most wealthy people I have known (i.e. owners of estates/castles, etc) have lived quite frugally and well within their means. There may be a very good reason for your DH's decision to limit spending to what seems to be an extremely generous amount, regardless of income.

I hope you have luck sorting this out with your DH.

I'm much more of an observer on MN but reading this thread albeit quickly, I am unable to understand how someone can post somthing like this and not expect to get some stick for it. I get all the bit about different levels of lifestyle but I find it quite insulting. I would love to have £1200 to live off; by the time we've taken off all the 'boring stuff' not to mention the oh so tedious £500 monthly childcare and deligthful £200 for dh train travel (which is worth every penny )there must be at least a fiver left for all the luxuries! I know it sounds like sour grapes but for heavens sake...I don't mind being cheeky and asking (like many others), what is the total income in this household? Mine and dh's is 35k. When you've taken off the big 3 - mortage, childcare and train travel there's no wonder that holidays/going out/treats are a thing of the past. Moan over

wishfulthinking I'd be happy with your income never mind Carla's! You get over twice our income!

Pfer - My message wasn't intended to make you or anyone feel sad...sorry. It's just that I think there seem to be so many people out there who think that life has dealt them a bad deal (me included to a certain degree)when in fact they should be jolly lucky. I have to work sort of full time by which I mean packing 5 days work into 4. Me and dh sometimes think is it worth all the agro to maybe look back and wish we'd spent more time with our only dd. Our day starts at 5.30am with us both returning at 6pm, dd in bed by 7pm...great!