Just can't get over his beer belly :-(

[nevermindthebuzzcocks]

I know this is really mean and if it was a woman who had put on weight everyone would be saying, "he should love you for who you are" etc etc

But... my DH has got quite a beer belly on him and I'm struggling to keep feeling sexual about him. The rest of him is fine, his arms are nice and his legs are muscley but the belly really could pass for a pregnancy belly.

He has said to me frequently that he thinks i don't fancy him anymore and I am always honest and say that i do fancy HIM but i don't like his belly. But he does nothing about it. I am sure it's all the beer that he drinks and he is sure that it's all because i keep buying chocolate or biscuits (for the kids packed lunches) and it's MY fault that he keeps eating them.

He wont belive it is the beer because years ago when he was in his early thirties he could drink the same amount of beer and not have a belly (he refuses to see that now he is 44 he isn't able to deal with all the beer without getting a belly).

Anyway, my question is, what am i meant to do? I don't like having sex with him at the moment because his belly LITERALLY gets in the way. Am i a bitch???

Aah! Now I get it! I just read down to the bottom of the page. Apparently, using a coffee enema will help me See The Truth About 9/11! Why didn't you just say so, Barreal?

Rhubarb you are a bloody spoilsport.

I think you need to not take on too much at once. Switching to alcohol free/low alcohol version of the beer he drinks might help with the effects of alcohol on his sleep. Alcohol also messes up blood sugar and can cause depression. Plenty of relaxing walks in the fresh air will also help. As well as a solid breakfast to start the day.

In a few weeks' time, talk to him about getting a personal trainer.

OP, why not compromise? Eat healthier as a family. Do not buy choc and biscuits for the kids lunches, these are really not needed. Both of you take turns to cook healthy meals. Also have you heard of couch to 5k? If he has an interest in running, it might be worth a google, and again he can do it alone, or you can do it together.

If getting an enema means I turn out looking like you Barreal then no thanks. Your profile pic on your blog makes you look like you're in pain. It also makes you look a bit like a bloke. Must be the caffine eh?

Fook me, Rhubarb tell like it is!

Yeah, I'm really fat and ugly. I hate myself.

So go shoot some caffine up your arse.

Ah, reason Number 1298 why I left the F.UK.
You have kids?
Sigh.
No wonder I won't become an organ donor.

Eh? organ donors?

Why do you have a pregnancy ticker on your blog when you were posting here yesterday wondering whether to have kids or not?

She's also copied and pasted huge chunks of relationships posts on there.

Bonkers and nasty.

Blimey - I hope she's not shooting caffine whilst up the duff.
It's a weird TTC tip that's for sure.

Bloody hell!

I don't think she's very well.

Must be all the coffee

My writing does not come with a Cliff Notes. I rather assume people have the brains to figure stuff out for themselves. Obviously you don't.
Over and out.
This place is depressing.
It would be nice to come across an enlightened being now and again.
I saw some hope in another thread, but not this one.
Have fun dealing with the NHS in your futures and if ya get sick, remember the chick who tried to share some good advice with you.
And to the original poster, sorry for the digression here, best of luck, totally understand you, and you are lovely for loving your hubby and wanting to work on this, but it's up to him in the end, but at least you support him.
Good luck, lady.

bye! good luck with the buttock implants x

I might be thick but my buttocks are just fine.
How vain and sad do you have to be to have implants in your bum? answer - very.

I just cannot believe that people have become so stupid that they don't get jokes. Like really, as if I would ever go for buttock implants, or designer bags, or hair extensions. I wonder what people see when they read and observe life, I really do, do you not 'think'?
I do hope your children skip your gene, it would be so sad if they grow up so gullible.

Well, how are we supposed to know? Some people get buttock implants, some people squirt coffee up their arses... takes all sorts, doesn't it?

Barreal - I believe MN have copyright on the content of MN. I presume you asked their permission to copy and paste a RELATIONSHIPS post onto your blog?

Yawn.
Sorry OP.
Didn't mean to hijack. Colonic irrigation always causes problems.
It's colonic, I mean, ironic.
Peace ladies. I have respect for you and your trials.
Indeed, mi casa et tu casa.
Feel the love.
Night.

I didn't know that. I'll delete.
I forgot the times we live in.
You keep y'er copyright.
I prefer my blueprint to life.
It's a lot easier.

So would it be "Camp coffee or Maxwell House? Milk & sugar? Or black?
A bit sticky if you ask me. No thanks.

Yawn.

Ere', you lot it's her arse, her rules ok ?. Just feel the bollocks love MNers .