''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

here we go... all dating related chat HERE!

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I never gave him chance to reply. I just said goodbye and logged off - and may block tomoz

Yes sea block! That'll teach him to mess with the best

Thanks Time - Im too old and wise to know a player now off POF

I think the term 'player' is too generous for some of these dumb knobs men. Back in my day a player was at least charming and a little bit suave with his chat up. It's a whole different ball game these days!

Time Surname Fayed. Is that American? Whatever it is his grammar is terrible and English is most definitely not his first language. I'm still not convinced that photo is him either.

Fayed is a Muslim name. Could be from any number of countries.

Sponge - yes! I totally agree with time. Be more active. I know the general belief is that women should sit back and wait for men to do all the running but it's never been a rule I have followed. In fact with s, it was me telling him I liked him first off. I remember sitting there thinking should I? Shouldn't I? Then thinking oh sod it what have I got to lose!

Oh and I get the high maintenance thrown at me from various exes. to me it's always meant women who spend a fortune on clothes, shoes, hair etc or who are emotionally needy. Not me at all! I don't get that one but think its probably just what twatty men throw at you because they think it will be hurtful or something.

'hi there. i was really intrigued by your profile. i'm looking for something very specific and thought you might be able to help '

I think this is ornamental egg guy forgetting that he messaged me around a year or so ago... I am stringing him along to see if it is! I shall report back! :)

Itsme Thank you! I think he is generally rather suspect so will be giving him a wide berth. I've disabled my profile now so he can't contact me again.

stay I think the high maintenance thing comes from insecure, jealous people who feel they don't match up to you. My mother was as bad as my ex for accusing me of thinking I was someone I wasn't and being high maintenance and she was definitely jealous. Some people just like to bring you down idiots

Snape Ornamental Egg Guy? Intriguing. I look forward to your updates!!

Don't let them get you down Time

Oh I don't Zany, it's over 10 years since I spoke to my mother, she is positively toxic! As for the ex, well, he's just a pathetic coward of a man who had no faith in himself as a person so had to use abuse to communicate. Bless him!

My life is full of positivity now and is much better for it! I refuse to allow toxic people any access to it

snape - Ornamental Egg Guy??????? do tell :)

sponge - yeah, be pro active... you mean you havent been messaging men? and have just been waiting for someone decent to pop up? _ fuck that! lol. i message away :) You being the creater of your own destiny and all that....

this calling people ' high maintance' or names that generally men ( or jealous friends) is just rubbish and should not be believed, its generally stuff said to make you feel bad, dont buy into it. if i did i would belive that i am a mean and horrible person that thinks im better than everyone and talks to people like shit... this is what my ex husband called me last week. Im none of those things and i know that... and i also know that him saying that says far more about me than it does him.

Tent pants boy texted me a bit last night......
AND, ive been asked out on another date, by someone else, whos 28. i should go for a coffee... shouldnt i? can you wonderful ladies have a check over his profile for me ( pm me for username) and let me know if its worth a coffee :)

Not had chance to catch up yet but will do. I was celebrating something last night so when I had had a few drinks I decided to block the no show on POF, he hasn't been online since anyway and also blocked my other potential because he hasn't been online since last weekend, got stroppy with me when I wasn't keeping in touch enough. I sent him a message which wasn't nasty but I did give him my advice about his profile pic!!!! Then blocked him. If he has connection problems he has my mobile no. to let me know. Was I being too harsh?

Back to the drawing board for me.

ornamental egg guy wanted me to wear a long skirt, in a public place and casually sit on one of those decoartive marble eggs. I really hope it is him actually, if only so that I can post his full messages on here...

I stopped contact when he invited me over to see his marble egg collection, including one that he said was bigger than a babys head. A night in A&E explaining how an ornamental egg got wedged in my chuff wasn't my idea of a great first date...

at OEG

oh, im snorting with laughter here.... sometimes there are just no words! Snape, that is quite wonderful, we could write a book ' single womans guide to the crazyness of internet dating' with things like that ( and the wank bag) it would be an instant best seller.

Adams- not harsh, i think you did right. its doesnt do anyones ego any good to have been stood up... or just kept waiting for ages.. You are better than that.

actually snail - that's a fabulous idea. am determined to call it 'options of limited choice!

'high maintenance' tends to mean you won't do what he wants you to. it's similar to 'bitch' or 'frigid' if you won't shag him on the first date, or fall down on your... knees and worship his cock-pic.

I cut the quiet one loose tonight. She asked "Tell me honestly, do you want to only be friends", so she gave me the cue. She was a smidge pissy but it's for the best. I'm sure there'll be more recriminations and digs - there always are.

Sorry to hear that Poppa although it sounded as though things weren't going too well. Are you still going to see her as friends?

Lucky escape with the Egg guy Snape

Sponge I would definately message someone I liked rather than waiting. MOst people I have chatted to or met I contacted first including Mr Yacht

Not sorry to hear that really Papa Smurf. I could tell from a few of your posts that she wasnt what you were looking for and now you and she can go on and find the right people. :)

I am still laughing over the OEG. Brilliant! Why did I never meet any of these weirdos?!

When I was using POF, I messaged quite a few guys. Thought that was the point really!

Just checking in to cheer you guys on. I'm still seeing VMN from POF and met his sister last week.

I am away for a few days with girlfriends and the VeryNiceMan is missing me nicely. He has extended my Girlfriend Contract by another six weeks (joke!) but is already planning things for next year involving his (extreme) sport.

This is an issue so let me have your views. I do one sport to a very high level obsessively . He does another one obsessively and if we want to see each other we will need to come to some agreement. But I am not sure if I am fit enough can be bothered to keep up with him.

How would you play it? Let him go off with his mates? Go with him but make it clear he has to slow down and wait for me? Or become a super-athlete to keep up with him? Which would be good for me but rather time-consuming.

Oh and he has agreed to try my sport but it stops over the winter luckily for him!

Littlewarm, your post has me feeling exhausted. Do what you want to do, don't give up your sport in favour of his unless you really want to. Let him go and do his thing.

at ornamental egg guy.

Zany I think you could be right, also because I am scared of seeming desperate or as coming across as pushy so downplay how much I want a relationship.

Basically where I'm at is ultimately I do want a relationship but that doesn't mean I want to jump straight into something heavy or that I think every man I date/snog/shag is 'the one'. I'm quite happy to play it by ear and let things develop at their own pace. BUT I do tend to shag people quite early on so they are maybe thinking that is all I want because I will sleep with them withotu discussing whether we are in a relationship.

And then there's also the fact that I'm quite shy so can find it hard to talk to new people but when I'm comfortable with people or drunk I become quite flirty ... so probably mixed signals all round

littlewarm, i would not give up anything i loved doing, an equally he shouldnt. Isnt there a compromise?

poppa, sorry about that, but it didnt sound like it was working out for you... hope you are ok.

Poppa it did sound as though she wasn't right for you, seemed like you had a few reservations.

Littlewarm I think I'd be inclined to keep your sports as your own interests tbh. Can you not go with him but not actually participate?