how can I reign him in?

[KlickKlackknobsac]

My dh is a nightmare.
If he has money it just slips through his fingers.
I have worked full time for last 9 years despite having 3dc. I pay mortgage, utility bills, food bills, SKY bill, dental costs, all clothes for kids etc etc.
If DH has money he buys a house or invests it- would rather do that than put money ion the bank. He is not money focused really- I think the houses are a game of Monopoly to him.

I also pay for holidays. My savings have now disappeared and I am starting to get worried.
18 months ago he took out a £25K loan in my name without my knowledge (I had to sign at last minute of course) fom joint account. Last month he took £570 from my account without asking or telling me. Today we discussed some building work and agreed we should leave it as we can't afford it at the mo- at 3.30pm the concrete lorry turns up!!!
What can I do to sort him out??

Thumbs up from me, too, KK!

No thumbs here, so have some and a

Please don't sell your main house, and please use your accountant to go through all the finances rather than trying to do it yourself.

HI, KK, I'm wondering how you're getting along? I realise you'll be caught up in a whole mass of things to unravel, as well as your job & family, so not expecting updates or anything. Just sending a friendly hand-squeeze.

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Been v busy- sorry.
All OK. Made some big changes. Lolts of soul searching and sadness generated by this thread. Acknowledged that we are very immature in many ways. Going to marriage guidance this week (big thing!). Have reduced problems down to

1. Been together since V young so have some childish characteristics that have never been unlearned through multiple ended/ new relationships (e.g. his approach to work and my childish expectations)
2. We have different ideas about the acceptability of 'RISK' in our lives.
3. We have stopped prioritising each other and the family as we are both so busy trying to sort things out and this needs to change. Need to make time for that. Youngest DC told my friend that he really needed to go on some TV show that allows kids to organise holidays so that he can sort one out for us where mobiles are banned (my dh takes a call at ANY time and it causes huge rows). Gulp.

Will keep you updated.

And thanks for your thoughts Garlicnread