DH & drink driving (again)

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I recently reported DH to the police regarding his drink driving, but nothing happened. He hasn't been stopped & continues to drink & drive.

Yesterday, he wanted to take DS out for lunch. I said they should get a taxi if he was going to drink. I know if he goes out for lunch it will involve lots of alcohol. DH told me to mind my own business, I was being a control freak.

In the end he went alone, DS stayed at home.

I'm obviously not getting through & need to find a way to talk to DH so that he will listen. How do I do this?

bet he bloody does drink at lunch whilst working then uses m/wash to cover the smell.

You haven't answered my post from above (I know its moving fast)

Ok he drives off with your DC's to take them all out to lunch...gets plastered & then smashes the car into another vehicle killing himself , your children and a whole other family coming the other way.

Would you seriously be Ok with that?

Tell his work- they be suspicious already but are loathe to act without proof.

Oh my actual god, so having been lashed for hours previous this lunatic goes to work in the mouths of kids, mothers, fathers etc.

Nightmares are made of this.

Please at least tell me you do not live in the South East.

Sorry so cross I'm typing too fast.....

Tell his work, they MAY be suspicious already but possibly are loathe to act without proof.

you are doign the right thing refusing to let him have dcs or yourself in the car.
just keep doing it and keep strong.

If he drinks heavily. Chances are, it will be in his bloodstream at noticeable levels when practicing.

He wants to be struck off,

OP, he is a dentist

he will be struck off if he drinks and drives

you will get no pressure from him to have the kids if you separate formally, when you tell his employers/practice managers/partner(s)

they will already know he is an alcoholic who drinks and drives, of course, but will be obliged to do something about it themselves when you disclose all that you know, even if they have, like you, been covering up for him so far

blow it wide open...you don't actually realise the power you have here

I don't think you will use it though

you would have done it aleady, if that were the case

there is something you are not telling us

Bossy OP is just fine with it. She comes on here, types and types, but doesnt DO anything.

When your dads clearing up that RTA OP will be on here saying "well I typed a lot about this"

Have to hide this thread now.

Agreed AF something doesn't add up.

Inform his employer. How can you let this go on? You need to get others involved

Frightnight I'm starting to think the same,

it was Pollys dad the undertaker but I get your drift !

Op I have just looked at your other threads - dear god. The drinking is one thing but combined with all the other stuff I am struggling to find one thing in his favour. Can you tell us WHY you are still with this guy? Your relationship set up makes me feel so and worried for you, I don't think you understand how dysfunctional it is. Surely SURELY the drink driving is the final wake up call? Please do the right thing for you, your dc and all the other road users. My dh cycles to work and people like your dh who drink and drive make me blind with anger

So he supports 2 houses? Or do you work op?

Yes, I knew I would regret engaging

< kicks self >

He has been stopped in the past - over the limit when breathalised, taken to the police station, drank lots of water, breathalised again & not over the limit.

As from now, I will phone when I know he is doing it. I don't know what the limits are. I thought reporting him & giving all details was enough, obviously not.

As for telling his work - he is self employed, but even if I reported it to the GMC I would need proof - how do I get that. DH would tell them I am mad & malicious etc.

He has said if I tried to divorce him he would have custody of the children.

Agreed op isn't disclosing all here. Or she likes the status of dentists wife so much. She is sticking with him. Allowing this piss head to d d and practice on adults, children, the elderly, disabled. No doubt well under the influence. Angry now.......hides.

yes, ILoveT, he supports 2 houses.

He is wearing a mouth- cover for work, the perfect "cover up", wont you say?

He doesn't give a shit whom he kills.
He doesn't give a shit about your financial security.
He doesn't give a shit about the children's financial security.
He doesn't give a shit if he kills the children.
He doesn't give a shit about your mental health.
He doesn't give a shit about your family relationships.
He doesn't give a shit about your family's health.
He doesn't give a shit about his patients.

What are you doing with this selfish, irresponsible, CRUEL wanker, who has the emotional maturity of a three-month old? If you're waiting for him to grow up, you'll be waiting into your pauper's grave.

The irresponsibility is NOT caused by his drinking. His drinking is just another expression of his hollow personality. Does he abuse anaesthetics as well?

Why the hell ae you exposing your children to this.

So you are quite happy to be the "kept woman". The dentists wife. eh?

Do YOU have an identity of your own?

I am shocked that you would stay with this man.

You are making excuses to stay with him.

Can I ask why abbdabb?

doesnt matter what the limit is.each and every time a drop of alcohol passes his lips you call the police.

He has said if I tried to divorce him he would have custody of the children.

You believed this??

there is something you are not telling us.

APF, I'm wondering that......OP has already taken steps to separate herself and DCs - both physically and (I guess) financially - so I don't understand her inability to grab the bull by the horns.

What more do you want me to disclose??