DH & drink driving (again)

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I recently reported DH to the police regarding his drink driving, but nothing happened. He hasn't been stopped & continues to drink & drive.

Yesterday, he wanted to take DS out for lunch. I said they should get a taxi if he was going to drink. I know if he goes out for lunch it will involve lots of alcohol. DH told me to mind my own business, I was being a control freak.

In the end he went alone, DS stayed at home.

I'm obviously not getting through & need to find a way to talk to DH so that he will listen. How do I do this?

Anyfucker talks SO MUCH SENSE, please listen to her

AF is so right.

Could you out him to his boss? What's his filed/business?

FIELD sorry

out him to everybody

it's going to happen sooner or later, anyway (when he kills someone...let's face it, he won't have the good manners to just kill himself will he ?)

I'm asking again op..... What job does he do??

Madonna I'm so sorry, I'm glad you had counselling, you were only a child and you have to believe you were in no way responsible for any of your mum's behaviour.

OP follow Any Fucker's advice.

My concern isn't just for my DCs when DH drives.

When divorcing, I would have to prove that he is an alcoholic regarding my concerns re access to the Dcs.

How do you prove that someone is an alcoholic? it would be my word against his.

Bury his car keys in the garden.
He may need to drink.
But he doesn't need to drive.

You report him, EVERY SINGLE time he drives.

OK abddabb we get the not divorcing bit but for now get to a solicitor & state yourself legally seperated, you will get good advice on how to proceed.

For the rest of it start doing what AF says, TOMORROW..you will be surprised how many other people in his life/work are probably concerned too once you start telling people.

Every time he goes out, report

Keep reporting til he's picked up

You don't need to prove he's an alcoholic. Just end the relationship.

go to cab.

OP I think you need to face facts that there are too many fault lines in this relationship. Your other thread about him not supporting you and phoning your mother shows him in a whole other light now. Why you thought this man would offer your support or stand beside you is beyond me. He is a drink driver and yet calls your mother to shop your odd behaviour?

Oh god, was that other thread yours OP? I read that one with my jaw on the floor.

This whole situation is so fucked. And you don't even have to stay! You're already 90% split up. I really don't get why you're keeping yourself in this position.

Not you again. I thought you'd made a decision to shop this manslaughter merchant.

Your husband will kill someone. You are aiding and abetting him.

My grandfather was killed by a drunk driver. 43 years later my mum is still utterly grief stricken. Lives are ruined by these people, do you get that?

Do something!

AF is absolutely spot on. Every single word.

You report him every single time you even suspect he's drink driving.

You owe it to the family of the person he will eventually kill to stop enabling this. Pray to God that it's not you, that it's not your kids that the idiot kills one day

I love T - DH is a dentist. he doesn't drink when working.

Oh god, that's you. Why the heck are you looking for reasons to stay with him. He is an abusive, alcoholic prick, murderer waiting to happen.

He is probably still under the frigging influence while he is working for gods sakes!!

And dont think you will get any payout on his life insurance if he kills himself drunk driving, it will be void.

have you rung al anon?

Oh god, that's you. Why the heck are you looking for reasons to stay with him. He is an abusive, alcoholic prick, murderer waiting to happen.

Don't know why it posted twice. A dentist. Liability waiting to happen.

OP you said on the first page of this thread that you'd contacted the police before, but not when he was on the road. Why haven't you done that? Why aren't you calling them every time you know he's behind the wheel?

There's nothing more I can add to others comments. He wants bloody shooting. But (sadly in this case) that's illegal. So for crying out loud get the vile shit arrested.

Sorry, I don't normally do insults, but the thought of him having his jolly then cheerfully ploughing into a pushchair on the pavement, or another innocent driver, makes me almost catatonic with anger.

My Dad is an undertaker OP. If you need any more incentive to sit on the phone to the police daily, until they pick him up, I'm sure he'd happily take you out with him, and his body bags, when he's next called to a fatal RTA.

I don't think talking to him is going to get you anywhere.