The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Devilish Demon Drink Into Touch This Hallowe'en!. Mwahahahaha!

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Hello

I'm Mouse, well normally! [hgrin]

Welcome to the Bus. We are a mixed bunch of Babes, some of us drink, some of us don't and some of us are trying to find out the best way to cut down or stop completely.

There is plenty of room on the Bus for everyone so, come say hi. [hsmile]

And, if you'd like to see what brought us all here, you can read all of the past threads, including the original one by JWN RIGHT HERE

mouse you know, rather than being upset, you should be rejoicing. I think that what your darling nemo is doing is just the same as all children go through when they are separated from their mother. He's doing it in his own way and his own timescale but you know it's just a little part of him growing up and developing. He WILL be fine.

...... and dd has left the tender care of the mothership [hshock] to be looked after in her own house, by her dp [hshock] [hshock]. Bloody hell she can't even make a cup of tea by herself yet.

I've cooked like a demon all week (all in little freezer potions) so that they've got healthy, tasty 'mother-food' to eat.

I've loved being able to look after them, but I'm a bit exhausted now, got a bit of a sniffly nose, and feeling ready for bed.

Venus 2 minutes and 37 seconds!, I doubt that Dh could make that tonight! And he is trying so hard to make it all ok, I hope you find a longer song .

Ok can I angst for a bit,
I had my first tutoring job this evening, with the tutor of my course, so bloody awful, I can't tell you, all about the money, I feel that I have been bred for spare sparts!

I (was very assertive, where did that come from?) said, "I can't do this because it goes against all that I believe in, and I don't want to work with you any more, however, I would like to continue this course, will that be a problem?"

I think I have burnt my bridges for my principles, but, hey ....

Sorry for the rant, but believe me, missy there are people out there who want to do there job right!!

xx

there!! maybe I don't do such a good job!!

missy if i can help i will but at the moment can just second the others. Stay calm, stay sober, accept any "bombshells" without any major reactions and reassure Ds he is loved, and brave, and not at fault. Save the tears for on here.
spoke to my DD on Skype tonight - she's fine and loving life in Spain, although finding the hours hard to cope with. Went to a fiesta last night at midnight and got to bed at 7.30 the next morning! she's knackered.
Am drinking, and still trying to find a way through.

well im thinking i deserve a gold star at least to night one glass of low alcohol wine now drinking hot chocolate i know its not my fault and all i can do is be there but it BLOODY scary in dreading the path that we have 2 go down and im scared it will hit me completly and utterly on monday :( :(

Do you know what Missy - a drink won't kill you, nor will 2 or 3 a night and for now, if that gets you through the bloody hell of a day you face, then so be it. I imagine the hours of the day all merge into one for you right now.

Take your time. Try and keep posting on here when you can, talk about whatever you want to, talk about the weather, how much washing you have, the cat pissing in your spider plant..... whatever.

We aren't here to judge you, we are here to support you. However you want to be supported.

Life goes on for you, for us, each day we don't feel what you do but we can imagine, we all have children (I think) so can imagine how you feel.

We know you are hurting and we know that we can't take that pain away from you.

But we can hold your hand, we can hold you up and we can be here when you need someone just to sit and listen xx

Thank you so much mouse it feels good to get it off my chest if you know what i me

and i do have a tin of marks biccys calling to me that i have hidden for xmas :)

Get them open and enjoy!

I'm away to bed now, be back tomorrow.

You are doing great Missy you really are.

Sending love and strength to you,

Night xx

missy my thoughts are with you - what a terrible thing - stay strong.

ma i love you

venus - and thank you

mouse you smell

night all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Waah, so tired,

but very glad to have re-connected tonight

Sleep tight, and fairy dust to all,
xxxx

Thurso mwa mwa mwa

you are better than them all - let them eat dirt x

Morning Babes,

{kiss} to you too, Silver

Rugby's on, great

xx

Morning All

Have woken up this morning feeling back to normal. Yay!!!

missy so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time, look after yourself and DS. Remember we are all here for you when you need us.

venus glad to hear that DD is on the mend, I love making meals for other people. Makes me feel really needed, and I am sure that she loves being looked after and cared for by you. I'm 38, and I still want my mum when I am really unwell. Not to do anything but to just be there. Big sap that I am .

mouse loving the boots.

noteven I also stripped beds and got them out on the line yesterday - saddo that I am.

thurso am glad that you are keeping busy and the empty space is not taking you down a path to the bottom of a bottle.

Well - DD and I went and saw Footloose last night, which was actually not too bad, then home, tea, jammies and Criminal Minds marathon.
Managed to get loads done yesterday including putting all the gardening stuff away for the winter so the car is safely tucked up in the garage again (I hate scraping it).
I also got some new nail varnish - on the recommendation of the Couch to 5km girls. So my fingers and toes are matching chocolate, which definitely means that the gardening is over for the year.

DD is at church, DS is still at a birthday party sleepover, I have just had my first coffee, but I suppose I had better get my butt in the shower. Looking forward to Church this morning, 21 of our congregation have just spent 14 days in Peru at a boys shelter building a new school room, and they arrived home yesterday so I am sure that it will be a newsfilled service.

Take care everyone.
Bafana
xx

Mouse love the boots!

Missy it seems like you are coping really, really well and have managed to get lots of RL support for you and your ds, well done. Keep posting, it will take a while for things to sink in and, as you say, you're not ready to think about it too much just yet which is fine of course. We are all here for you.

I was unexpectedly invited to lunch at the pub yesterday, so I drove there and drank lime & soda and did not feel that I was missing out. In fact, only two of six people were drinking and they didn't have much.

I'm off to Blackpool tomorrow so if you don't hear from me for a few days, don't worry.

Love to all x

thank you silver

Silver - I do smell, yes, be I will bathe later once I have put my dining room back into a dining room and not a dumping ground for bathroom furniture and faulty loos, bathroom doors and general SHITE!!

Nemo and I are just snuggled up on the sofa for now, DH has taken over for a while as I found far too many spiders for my liking! EEeeeeek!

Ma - keep going xx

Missy - hope you got some sleep xx

Scarey - have a great trip to Blackpool xx

Thurso - mwahs xx

MsGee - thinking of you xx

venus - how is DD doing? Still on the mend? xx

Quick post, will post properly tmrw. isinde will email you to take you up on kind and appreciated offer then too.

DD much improved and we have had a truly glorious day out. I've been feeling v unwell but fresh air today did me the world of good.

Day 2. Relieved to be out of the ring.

Missy will post more tmrw but please believe me when I say that your son being honest with you in a real testament to you.

xx

Evening all just checking in i did manage to get some sleep last night my dd5 has a cold from hell and has been a pita all day on the plus sid i have tackled my ironing mountain and have done all the school uniforms even though they are on half term ( wishfull thinking lol ) hope every one is ok today :)

Evening all

Well, back to normality in the morning, School bags packed and school uniforms ironed.
I cooked us a lovely tea, and DS went to his bed nice and early, he is shattered after a very late night at his sleepover last night! He was not impressed though, I let DD stay up to watch X factor, sometimes this parenting lark is not fun! Ah well.
Have set the alarm for 6.50 and will be out running first thing, and hopefully that will give me the motivation to tackle the rest of the day. Really not very enthused about my job at the moment, but - hey - it pays the mortgage!!

missy glad you managed to get some sleep last night, as someone else has said it's a testament to his faith in you that he could be honest. Take care of both of you.

faire well done on the pub trip, tis never easy in the early days.

ma how's the running going, I can't say I am particulary keen on the running in the dark thing - suppose that is one of the downsides of living in Scotland!!

Keep sober and safe everyone
Bafana

Am back from pounding the pavements! 4.2km . Off to put on my brave face for work.

Have a good one everybody!!

Morning everyone,

Quick post. Won't be around much as its my work week from hell. BUT - once I am through this week, work is much, much more manageable and I am putting in motion plans to have most of December off! Hurrah. I have just emailed DD nursery and offered an extra pair of hands for her Xmas party, which felt very lovely.

Isinde will do although may be this evening....

Faire is in Blackpool - have fun!! I spent part of my childhood there and autumn / winter is my favourite time of the year there. Listen to Isinde on the tower though

Mouse and saf hope you are both ok

Missy you must be going through hell and I am wishing you lots of strength for today. As someone who has come through childhood abuse, what is left is not the after effects of the abuse but that I had no one to tell. If I had trusted my family, had someone in my corner, someone to build me back up afterwards - well, my world might have been a different place. In time I am sure that the defining experience will be your son's ability to tell you and trust that you believe him and will fight his corner, not the abuse he experienced (although I know that this won't feel like it - but really, your support and love will shape him more than the actions of xH). Tell him how brave he is, how proud you are of him, how he WILL get through this, how none of it is his fault. Tell him a million reasons why he is special, to counter his confusion of 'why me' in a negative way. Keep loving him and believing in him and you will get through this.
(((( ))))

It seems as though a little bit of normality is returning to the venus household this week. Lots to do and get on with, but dd still on recovery trajectory and I can concentrate on my work again.

Hello Babes,

Quiet on here today, I hope everyone is ok.

Venus So happy to hear that DD is mending, take care, the shock all comes down after the event, I always find. xxx

Missy hope things went well for you and DS today.

Isindie 9 HOURS SLEEP !! , I only managed that when my DC's were in double figures!!
Not such a fab day here, I had a working lunch with colleagues, and my tutor, who had sent me a one line email in response to my declining of her offer of work. I felt like a scared 10 year old going in, I had done nothing wrong, only stood up for best practice, really, so why did I have to tamp down the need to aplogise, apologise and be generally obsequious? I feel the need for an empowering seminar .

Mouse how is Nemo today? Sending you love, it's so hard when the only person the DC's want is you, very lovely, but a bit draining nonetheless.

Ma how are things going with the dress, only 9 days to go, are you excited?

oops sorry not to namecheck everyone, someone over my shoulder!

Lots of love xx