The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Devilish Demon Drink Into Touch This Hallowe'en!. Mwahahahaha!

[Mwahahahahahahahouseface]

Hello

I'm Mouse, well normally! [hgrin]

Welcome to the Bus. We are a mixed bunch of Babes, some of us drink, some of us don't and some of us are trying to find out the best way to cut down or stop completely.

There is plenty of room on the Bus for everyone so, come say hi. [hsmile]

And, if you'd like to see what brought us all here, you can read all of the past threads, including the original one by JWN RIGHT HERE

[Bproud]

see you on the other side...

[Bproud]

here is the new thread

[Bproud]

Blimey SAF that is the whole point of this thread, to talk about IT. Most of us can't talk about it in RL, and all posts help some-one in some way or other. You don't have to lable yourself one way or another either.
Looks like we will all soon be on the new thread, so keep chatting.

[Fairenuff]

The thing is Saf, you could have it if that's what you want but equally if you just want one then it's not too difficult to go without it really is it.

Putting it off is a great strategy because you know the feeling will pass. I don't think you should back off talking about it, there are probably others in exactly the same situation as you and interested in your thoughts and feelings.

How will you feel in the morning if you a) drink or b) don't drink. Which would make you feel good tomorrow. I know I am always relieved to wake up knowing I didn't drink the night before. Things are a lot clearer in the morning. Either way, please don't feel you can't post about it x

[swallowedAfly]

yes, confusing faire. i think sometimes i've had a problem and sometimes i haven't. i don't identify with 'alcoholic' as a label but i identify with alcoholic/addict thinking and behaviour because i've certainly visited plenty of times.

i've been resisting the drink so far by putting it off. tricky though because i know i just want literally one and there isn't any harm in that really. grrr. the deliberating is doing my head in.

sorry folks i should probably back off from here a bit and not be going on about alcohol when people are trying to avoid it.

[Bproud]

Welcome home JWN glad you had a good time.
Just to annoy you all, I am feeling quite boing about Christmas, went to a lovely Xmas market last night, had a half day and went to Westfield this afternoon and nearly got all my presents in one go! Tomorrow is baking and freezing day.
If you knew me in RL you just wouldn't recognise all this enthusiasm. When I used to live in an alcoholic fog I was all 'bah humbug', no joy about me at all. I am so grateful that I have been able to kick the habit, I cope so much better with everything!
blossom now is the time to look after number 1, it sounds like you have had a really awful time, but you have to look after, and out for, yourself before you can help anyone else.

[Fairenuff]

I know Saf it can all get very confusing. Do I have a problem, don't I? . All I know is that I don't want to drink like I used to. It was not good for my health, a bad example to my dcs, a waste of money and most days I felt like crap.

Going on the diet helped me enormously. It gave me a focus beyond the drinking. Even now though I have days when I come off the diet and eat the rubbish I've been craving. Non diet days are the days when I drink. So I am literally all or nothing.

I have started to realise that I can indulge foodwise on non diet days without alcohol. Shock, horror, newsflash. Drinking and eating rubbish always went together for me. It was wine, crisps, nuts and sweets or healthy dinner, no alcohol.

So I am gradually realising that even on non diet days (usually one day a fortnight if I want to lose anything) I don't have to drink to enjoy those 'treats'.

If I didn't have the weight loss goal I don't really know how I would motivate myself. I suppose I will have to think of something else eventually. But just maintaining a healthy lifestyle is always going to be important, especially with middle age spread to contend with .

[BafanaThesober]

Thanks for all the congrats!!
I won't be drinking either this evening
And it is still a choice that I make everyday. Life is just so much easier without all the heartache and melodrama that always accompanied my drinking.

Welcome back JWN
Congrats Ma - you are obviously very well regarded at your work

Went to a meeting last night, and I got cake and a card, off to another one tonight to meet a friend who is having a bit of a hard time.

It's freezing here, just taken the puppy out, and my hands still haven't defrosted, Could be another long cold winter. Please - can we not have all the snow we had last year!

[JWIM]

Me too (hands up) to not drinking tonight - have a sense of complacency that means my thinking is 'well clearly you don't have a drink problem having not drunk for xxx days so one half glass won't hurt' - who am I kidding.

Congrats to Bafana and Ma.

Welcome home Jesus.

Happy Friday to all on the bus and wishing everyone a good weekend - sober or as in control as you wish for yourself.

Today I will not be drinking. Said (well written) it, now to get on with it.

[swallowedAfly]

meant to say glad the holiday was good jwn and it's good to have you back

[swallowedAfly]

i'm wavering faire. kids film on, have already done food and it's only quarter to six! i fancy a baileys with lots of ice. i'm rubbish at this at the minute. i can't remember what the point is as dumb as that sounds.

[Fairenuff]

Glad you had a good time JWN and that we've got you back safe and sound.

Thanks for the encouragement Saf but it's not my final goal just a little mini one. Like you, I need goals to keep me motivated .

I stopped for petrol on the way home (had to because the light was on, ooops) but didn't buy any wine at the same time, yay! Why do they sell alcohol in petrol stations anyway, ffs . Don't they know loads of alkies are just trying to get home sober? .

So, just a quick check, who's NOT drinking today?

Me!

[jesuswhatnext]

dont worry! - if i find myself wavering i stalk myself! just re-reading the first thread is enough to remind myself of how crap i was making my own life

[Theala]

Very, thanks JWN. Sorry, I hope I didn't make you uncomfortable by mentioning it - it sounds a bit stalkery now that I think about it - I just got a bit overexcited by the amazing coincidence of you being on two threads I'm reading at once!

[jesuswhatnext]

holiday was lovely thanks theala -hope you are finding the thread helpful? i cant tell you how it ends btw, its ongoing!

[Theala]

That sounds lovely, Ma. Enjoy it!

JWN! How was the holiday? I am currently reading your original thread. Don't tell me how it ends, ok? :)

[jesuswhatnext]

BOING!!!!

beunos dias mi amigos! (or something like that!)

[dementedma]

hi all - filthy weather here.
Am going to see the Moscow ballet tonight, performing Sleeping Beauty..should be nice. I have volunteered to drive and will go straight to bed when I get back so no drinking.

[swallowedAfly]

you drank last night though didn't you? that'll be why.

[blossom123]

Having an eating frenzy today wtf! Not had an appetite for days now eating for England

[swallowedAfly]

looks slightly pissed if you ask me. maybe ?

[blossom123]

swallow His drinking has brought us very near to separating, we have been tog for near on 20 years. Only after he had complete breakdown earlier this year and nearly killing himself, has he finally admitted that he has a drink problem. Well guess that is a start.

[Theala]

"we need a sort of constipated/determined faced emoticon"

is quite constipated-looking, I've always thought. Maybe not very determined though. :o

[swallowedAfly]

thanks venus (not sure if that post was to me but it spoke to me anyway).

day 1! (we need a sort of constipated/determined faced emoticon)

[swallowedAfly]

x posted i took so long

recognising it as 'fucking DULL' is a great motivator and that it is beginning to bore you is a good sign you're ready to tackle it i reckon - i'm so glad you wrote that.

drinking just isn't exciting or a sign you're out enjoying yourself or a celebration of life much of the time often times i think we drink a lot or get into habit of drinking away empty time as a sign of boredom and YES it creates boredom as much as it eases it - it becomes a vicious cycle.

i drink in cycles rather than having a drink problem that is all the time - for me it's in relationship with other stuff rather than that particular substance is problematic for me. i'm pretty sure i could recreate the same relationship with food/drugs/sex etc.

blossom your situation sounds really difficult. yes he's sabotaging/not being fair etc but you must also be beginnning to really worry about him that he's willing to do all of this as in whether he has that much of a drink problem himself that it is coming ahead of you, fairness, money etc etc. hard stuff.

theala good point on money! worry about the cost of everything else and how to cope but have a complete blind spot with alcohol - that's a worrying thing isn't it?