The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Devilish Demon Drink Into Touch This Hallowe'en!. Mwahahahaha!

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Hello

I'm Mouse, well normally! [hgrin]

Welcome to the Bus. We are a mixed bunch of Babes, some of us drink, some of us don't and some of us are trying to find out the best way to cut down or stop completely.

There is plenty of room on the Bus for everyone so, come say hi. [hsmile]

And, if you'd like to see what brought us all here, you can read all of the past threads, including the original one by JWN RIGHT HERE

yes indeed JWN

I bet you'll be glad once it's all over! Bloody mess it is here too. Grrrr. Enough to drive you to drink some days

WHERE ARE YOU ALL BRAVE BABES?

actually mouse, i think its the work that is keeping me sane really dd leaving home has affected me FAR more than i thought it would, i have bouts of tears and sadness (i think i may be menopausal too, why oh why does that happen right when you feel miserable about the kids going anyway, just one more fucking dirty trick from 'mother' nature!, who i think is actually 'father' nature given the hand that women have been dealt! ) ) dh says i need to focus on positive changes, like rearranging the house to suit how we live now and having a sports car instead of a family one (he reckons we will buy a people carrier when we need to transport grandchildren, not that he is looking ahead or anything! )

so, i will keep looking to the new way of family life and try and stay positive, im just glad im doing it sober, adding booze into this mix right now would be carnage!

Oh sweets

I guess that DH is right though, keeping busy will stop you saying 'fuck it' and diving head first into a bottle.

I'm very of your sports car, we had to sell our Honda S2000 when I got pregnant with the gorgeous Nemo, but I have made DH PROMISE me that we can have another once the DC are gone! The DGC can get the bus to us!

Keep going lovely lady. xx

I'm here Mouse and JWN busy and not drinking, yay! Another Friday night cracked.

Mouse my dd used to hate me leaving her so I made up a song that we used to sing together entitled "Mummy always comes back" . We had another that Nemo doesn't need right now but might as he gets older entitled "Chew, chew, chew before you swallow".

Morning all!

Lovely and bright here- lots to do and reasons to keep sober.

hello

msgee - i had real issues with textures and consistencies when i was a kid - to the point of being very weird about food and still not very good at shiny things or squeaky things or things that are uncertain whether they are solid or fluid. things like yoghurt freaked me out. probably not the best example as clearly i am a bit weird and ishoo laden but i didn't have a 'condition'. try not to worry - can you be specific about what it is?

tumble dryer has been delivered and new phone. technology overload here phones have moved on a lot since i last bought a new one - got the nokia n8 in the end because of the camera as much as anything now having to work out the world of smart phones.

hope everyone is ok x

Scarey - it's just hard to hear him and see him so upset. I know I have to go out otherwise I'd seriously crack up.

I've booked my treatment for tomorrow so I'm going no matter what

My new boots and skinny jeans have just arrived -> JEANS

And my boots -> BOOTS

My little treat since stopping buying £40 of booze each week

Hi everyone,

I'm here, been a bit down and probably self-pitying, not sure if it's the darkness here or what - but I am so tired and it is all in my head and I am sick of it. I even hate going to evening meetings when someone out of the kindness of their heart babysits because I hate doing anything really after 8pm. Rant over.

DD is in bliss because it's half term, I am so happy to have it to spend with her, and have lists of free/cheap museum type stuff and if we can keep to budget I reckon we can go to the zoo! which she'll probably enjoy less than the zero cost things, but there you go, I like seeing the giraffes :)

Mouse DD used to be like that and a friend said that you are not leaving your child screaming, you are leaving your child in the loving arms of their father (etc) - and although it is clearly far more complicated with Nemo I think you/ I/ one probably do(es) have to go through this stage - if you postpone it, you just prolong it.

Am sorry to hear about all the empty nests.

Going to go and get some more washing out - anyone else see the clear windy day and think "quick let's get the sheets washed"? - I am middle aged already at 30, aren't I.

Hi All

Still here
Spent the morning doing odd jobs and sorting paperwork.

Going to spend the afternoon ironing and sorting out laundry for the return to school.

All good here, although I am behind, having lost two days to being stuck in bed .

It has gone very quiet here, hope that means everyone is doing great

Hello my lovely darlings

I am here too.

It has been the first week of half term for me, and JWN , me too, me too, me too [kiss icon], I have been so busy with college work, and decorating the toilet , that I haven't given myself room to notice the big, empty, boy with guitar shaped space (well, not so much!). I am looking to positive changes too, although at the moment it seems to be centred around making the house unrecognisable when they come home for Christmas (not their rooms, of course (that will come much later )).

Mouse I luuuurve your boots!

Venus I hope DD's pain is lessening, and that she is feeling better. Although, how could she fail to be, with your care extraordinaire!

Ma sending you love, when is dress night?

Love to all
xxxx

thurso its on november 3rd.

Ma - how are you getting on with the dress-a-thin?

Thurso - hugs and mwahs to you. xx

evening brave babes im sorry i havent been around in a while but my life has been in complete chaos as my very very very bave ds 13 has admitted that my ex husband abused him :( :( :( :( we have had meetings with ss and the police and his ld nurse has been great ( he has special needs adhd dispraxia tic disorder damp autistic and now ptsd) i have been having a glass or 2 of wine in the evening just 2 help cope .
He has his video interview on monday and im shitting it i need your help so i dont go down that slippery slope of getting pissed a very low missy :( x

Oh my crikey, Missy

Do you want to talk about it?

13 is very young to have all those labels, do you have the right people in place to support him on Monday?

hi thurso a chat would be great thank you he has the phycolagist ( sorry for the spelling) who has been working with him for the past year and my ds has asked if she could come to be honest im in a complete daze and have been since he told me

Oh Missy how utterly horrid for you.

Promise me one thing, in all of this, at court, in interviews, when you read statements, what he did, please do not blame yourself

YOU ARE WHAT HE NEEDS RIGHT NOW and that in itself is going to be so very very hard.

We are here for you, we really are. You can talk as much as you need, drinking or not, you won't be turned away.

Please, my lovely, please feel safe here. xx

missy sorry, I've only just got in, but couldn't let your post go,
I'm going up for a bath now, I'm sure others will have good advice, but....

the psychologist in attendance, especially if they have been working with Ds for a year, is a must, also is there a EWO, or someone from school that he trusts.

It may be that there is stuff that he hasn't told you about, so you don't want to pressure him tonight. He has been very brave, and just needs you to be there for him.

I think Ma (are you there?, my lovely), knows a lot than anyone about all this, because her Dh works with troubled children.

Speak later
xx

X posted Mouse like minds? xx

Indeed Thurso

Missy - you also need support with this situation. You will be in shock, it may not appear now, but you will be suppressing feelings that could appear later in life.

Be gentle with yourself. Accept as much or as little advice and help that YOU are happy with for you both.

I am so very sorry to read your posts xxx

my ds told me 2 weeks ago so we have had meetings with the police ss the school and the learning disabiltys team ( they have all been fantastic ) i havnt pushed my ds about what happened my dr is sorting out a councellor for me as well

Good, great news. Look after yourself because you need each other in all of this Missy.

Please take your time, take time out too. Don't over think things, keep it simple and please, please try to eat, rest and sleep sweetheart. xx

i am finally taking a bit om me time this evening thats why im on here :)
i am eating now and im trying not to think as i dont want to if you know what i mean my drinking isnt that bad at the moment and that is a real plus for me 2 or 3 glasses of low alcohol wine and i know that its my crutch at the moment

missy I am so for you, but also glad that your ds was eventualy able to tell you - that will all be for the best (however difficult it is in the short term). Low alcohol wine is the least of your problems at the moment. But you know that if you're moving onto high alcohol wine then you're lesss able to support yourself and your ds. Stick to low alcohol, we'll support you x

thank you venus yes i know that if i have any thing stronger around i would drink it and i CANNOT fall apart so low alcohol all the way and thank you babes x

JWN and Thurso my fellow companions in empty-nestednesss.... stick in there. dh and I have the house to ourselves again (more about dd's recovery later...). So tonight he's got youtubemusicstuff on his computer. He played one particular song from our past and I said "ooh I'd like to make love to that song". His reply: "you've got 2 minutes and 37 seconds left". Has all romance died?