The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Devilish Demon Drink Into Touch This Hallowe'en!. Mwahahahaha!

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Hello

I'm Mouse, well normally! [hgrin]

Welcome to the Bus. We are a mixed bunch of Babes, some of us drink, some of us don't and some of us are trying to find out the best way to cut down or stop completely.

There is plenty of room on the Bus for everyone so, come say hi. [hsmile]

And, if you'd like to see what brought us all here, you can read all of the past threads, including the original one by JWN RIGHT HERE

Evening Babes

Here is my day so far -

Stay N Play with Nemo
Home to find friends here en route to wedding, nice surprise
Coffee at friend's house
Hospital for Nemo to be measured for support boots
Pick up contact lenses and a few bits
Committee meeting in 30 mins.

Be back tomorrow lovely Babes. Been a mad day and by the time I get in all I'll want is a hot chocolate and my bed.

So, mwahs to all, I hope you are all okay, very quiet on here of late.

Mouse xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi trying to post from new phone .

Midst of v bad poo gate here. Tears all round. DD and I both sobbing earlier. She is v scared and in a lot of pain. I am drinking

Love and strength to you all

MsGee this evening my dd was also sobbing in pain (and me too [sobbing - not in pain]) - doesn't matter how old they are or what the problem is, you feel for them in their pain, and you feel utterly frustrated about not being able to take it all away.

isindie as the carer of a 'sickie' this week, here are my instructions suggestions for you:

• nap (at least) twice during the day
• walk outside for 10 minutes twice each day
• eat six small meals each day (I can send you my meal plan for this week which includes pea soup, chicken and ham pie and smoked fish risotto)
• accept the limitations of being ill
• take painkillers whenever you need them (no prizes for moaners)
• plan to do only half as much as you normally achieve
• take your frustration out on your mother, not on your dp

Or just invite me to come and look after you - I'm good at that x

Venus (((( )))) there is nothing worse than seeing your child in pain is there. I hope your daughter is recovering ok generally? I think the benefit of DD being young is that she genuinely believes a cuddle makes it all better.

We've been up for an hour during which time I've had to hold her down to clean her up twice. It's awful and I feel terrible but I'm v concerned about her getting sores or infections if I don't keep her clean.

New day eh. Day 1. Today I will not be drinking.

MsGee that sounds awful for you, are you getting any help from HV or GP?
Venus I do hope your DD contnues to recover, I expect she will be feeling pretty low for some time, now that the initial shock is over.
Thanks everyone, for your cheerleading and encouragement, it is odd, as it is such a big thing to us here, but not something one can really crow about in RL.

Bproud thanks we've managed each episode ourselves till now but if it continues I'm going to have to ask docs for help. They've previously told us to use laculose but that's not really the problem, it's mainly in her mind. She is convinced she can't go but is constantly soiling herself and as far as I can see there is no tear or anything that would make it that painful for her. She is however getting sore because of the constant soiling, even though I'm checking every 15 mins.

She is meant to be having injections today but going to have to cancel. Can't put her thorough that in this state.

I also raised some concerns about her sensory problems (noise, textures) and OCD type traits this week with someone and they said it was the same as their daughter who is autistic and I should get her checked out I don't really know what to think. My gut reaction is its just her personality and shes just quirky...

Hi everyone

Loving all the spooky names. I'm all good, still managing to not drink in excess and have lost some weight, been swimming alot.

Hope you are all OK

Well done BProud

Morning all [hgrin], Venus can I be cheeky and ask you to pm me your meal plan?

Morning all

very quiet here at the moment
have been on holiday all week, but ended up in bed for two days with some kind of bug .

But heyho, onwards and upwards, still running, but have struggled the last couple of times (possibly already getting sicK) Weather here is very autumnal, cool cool breeze in the air, and the winter jacket is out.

Hope everyone is good
Bafana

Poor Bafana- keep warm.

venus - could you come and be my nurse next please? bet you're great at it. hope dd is doing ok.

congratulations bproud - that is amazing! well done you.

sorry dd is struggling again msgee - my nephew had similar issues for many, many years and still has bouts occasionally now in his teens. it is very hard to treat - he had movicol in huge doses to try and clear out blockages - sorry for grim info but one thing that can happen is they do have a massive blockage that they can't push against because it hurts and is stuck but as everything builds up soft stuff starts to work it's way round the blockage and hence the soiling as it slips out. so it can seem like they've got a runny tummy but really they are constipated itms.

i've been to the docs today and been honest about things with my health of late and given her a demonstration by nearly having a panic attack in the waiting room and then babbling at 90mph at her we have a new idea to try with treating the fatigue and agitation so will see how that goes. talked to her about the drinking too and how i found that when i'm not drinking aside from the positive effects it leaves me without a self medication route for the anxiety and sleep issues which she seemed to understand and we're going to try and work out better ways of managing things. blah blah.

how's everyone doing? on the drinking front i'm afraid i've been drinking most nights if only a glass. only 2 days in the last week where i haven't drank. not great. hoping as things calm down on the mental health front that will resolve again.

rest isindie! seriously i reckon slowing right down and taking it very easy for a couple of days wastes less time than trying to struggle on and grinding to a complete halt in the long run.

get your cosey on.

It's so quiet around here these days!
MsGee Sorry, I went off to work, so couldn't reply earlier.
I wouldn't rush to get littlemsgee 'labelled', I think quirky is good, she sounds like a little girl who knows what she is at. My DS had some ishoos with clothing/textures and was pretty different (quirky) as a littl'un as well. He turned out to be highly intelligent (not stealth boasting, honest) and his brain just works in a different way from the mere mortals around him
He has reached his potential and is now in a situation where he feels comfortable among peers who 'get' him.
I hope you get poogate under control soon x

Hey bafana sorry to hear you are poorly, looking forward to celebrating your anniversary with you soon.

Hey babes

I just need to get this off my chest because it is doing my head in.

Sorry to just jump in and rant. But for me, this is what this thread is all about.

Fek - just realised I can't because my DSis might read. - Ah well if she does, she does. Dm diagnosed cancer - even after biopsy they don't know if it's kidney or lymphoma. My younger sis been staying with DM last two weeks - with 12 yr old and toddler. She's been doing everything. I thought this was not necessary. So did my brother but that's another story. (we all live in the same town)

talked to DSis today and she's knackered unsurprisingly. Now i feel huge guilt that it would have been so much easier for me to stay - ffs.

feel like I have read the situation very badly

HOWEVER, she has always been favourite, I get regularly dismissed (as does my brother) in my opinions and thoughts by DM. DM pretty much brought up both of DSis kids.... and DSis is very clever at manipulating situations.

Arrgh

off my chest

thank you

and yes I am drinking

Hi Silver

Glad you got it off your chest though

Stamp your feet a few times and you might feel a little better.

So sorry about your mum. It's a difficult time for everyone and it's not always clear what to do for the best. Dsis might have just been getting it off her chest when you spoke to her, rather than complaining. Take care of yourself so that if you are needed, you will be available x

Hi Silver so sorry to hear your news.

Your sis probably swept in to make herself feel important/needed. She chose to go and look after your DM, no need for you to feel guilty - you have done your bit taking DM to hospital, shopping etc, and now you are a sounding post for Dsis as well.

It's not your fault if she is making it into a competition.
Take care x

Dear Jeff, are they giving away free chocolate somewhere and no-one has told me? Where are you all?

Silver - I remember the conversation that you had with your DSis, something along the lines of her insisting on going to look after your DM. DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP!!! If you are able to, then why not do a couple of days with your DM? Over the weekend maybe?

Guilt won't make anyone feel better. Stop it xx

Night babes - and thank you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Bed here too.

Night night all xxxx

Morning Babes

Bproud - I heart you, and so do my DC. You know why, thank you so very much xx

Toady I will be mostly doing the housework, catching up on e-mails, doing my CRB check, sorting birthdays for next week as we are off to see SIL and MIL and trying to tidy the house! With a bathroom in my dining room. Such fun, not!

And then tomorrow, I have booked a session at the gym/country club for a half hour in/on a floatation bed and half and hour of hot stone massage.

Heaven. The only thing is, Nemo has started to really go bonkers and scream, sob, shake etc when I'm not here. Which is unfair on DH and DD and makes me feel like the worst mother ever.

But I realise that I have to stick with it and he has to learn that I do come back!

Hope the quietness on here means that you are all busy with your lives but are safe and well. xxxxx

morning mouse!! its a bit quiet round here today!

fwiw, i think you really have to leave him for your own sanity!, you know he is being looked after, just go and enjoy the hot stones!! sounds blissful!

im typing this from our new study, i still have one unusable bedroom (full of furniture and clothes) and one nearly finished dressing room - this whole process is driving me mad so i fully sympathise with the bathroom in the dining room! such a new look for interiors!