The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Devilish Demon Drink Into Touch This Hallowe'en!. Mwahahahaha!

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Hello

I'm Mouse, well normally! [hgrin]

Welcome to the Bus. We are a mixed bunch of Babes, some of us drink, some of us don't and some of us are trying to find out the best way to cut down or stop completely.

There is plenty of room on the Bus for everyone so, come say hi. [hsmile]

And, if you'd like to see what brought us all here, you can read all of the past threads, including the original one by JWN RIGHT HERE

Aw shucks Mouse . I think reading all the newbies' stories has made me realise just how far I have come. You are right, I am a different person, so much more positive and happy with myself right now. When I first joined the bus I was spurred on by you lovely lot. I've had my wobbles and I am sure there are more to come yet but I can see the big picture now and that keeps me going .

Blossom well done on the one glass. Is it time to ditch the boxes do you think, and buy it by the bottle if you're going to?

MrsJH I think you should come completely clean with your GP. She will be able to help you. She can arrange a liver function test if you want, to put your mind at rest.

silly if you think you are not going to abstain, you are choosing to drink. Which is fine, of course. You are an adult and can drink what you want. However, I would advise planning your drinking. Delay as long as you can so that you don't start early. Fill your glass with ice and pour your drink over it. (The ice will mean less alcohol in the glass and will also dilute it). Try to stop and have a non-alcohol drink inbetween. Whilst you are drinking, take it slow, sip it and really think about how it tastes and makes you feel.

noteven I love this - I can look people in the eye and say, "I'm really well, thank you, how are you?"

Faire Some great tips. Unfortunately it is not me buying the boxes, dp is doing this with money he does not have He knows I want to stop/cut down but not making life very easy. I just have to be extra strong. Scuttles off to the kitchen to make banana bread

This bus is really rather inspiring. I'm going to try to get to 9pm tonight and have less than half what I used to have. That will take the terror of none out of it, but start me on the process of learning how to cope with bedtime sober.

hey blossom - we started this on the same day and we seem to have similar marital relationships based on booze. He'd never push it on me but I only have to say 'oh go and get me some love' and he will even tho he knows I dont want to do this to myself anymore and he then gets to drink too. Very distructive. Mine doesnt push it on me he just uses my problem to allow him to have his, and while I would NEVER top up his glass when hes attempting his dry night my 'oh go and get some' in a whiney (winey?) voice is giving him permission to drink to so I am the bad guy sometimes in our dynamic. If he had decided to give up before I did - perhaps a year ago or so I could imagine being scared stiff of losing my drinking buddy. I still am but I have bigger fish to fry now. My kids need at least one parent it seems to me and if I carry on I wont get to 50.

So, who's here this evening? I'm at home, and indulging my inner child by having peanut butter sandwiches for tea. :) Luckily, wine is completely incompatible with peanut butter sandwiches, so I'm not remotely tempted to drink. :o
I've also just had my lovely mother on the phone and whinged at her a bit, so I'm all good on the tea and sympathy front now.

Leatherette, blossom, how are you guys doing?

Hi Theala I will be around on and off. Just got back from parents' evening at dd's school - all good .

Am going to have dinner now which DH made while I was out. Beef casserole with brown rice and veggies, mmmmm.

Speak later x

Oh, glad your DD is doing well, Faire. Dinner sounds lovely - bon appétit! :)

Just popping in to say goodnight Brave Babes.

To those that are drinking, please, take it slowly. Take your time and remember, if you can, to have just One Less Mouthful. Glass. Bottle. Than last night

Ma - I think your post today was amazing, truly amazing. I saw the real you in what you wrote. I loved the way you explained everything. You rock Ma, you totally rock! xx

Mouse, you're so very lovely. :) Have a good night missus.

Theala - I'm not here but how are you holding up? xx

hi all. mouse thanks for your comments
Blossom I can understand money worries, believe me, I have been there to the point of mental breakdown and almost bankruptcy, and I am still not clear yet. the organisation which helped us most is Payplan. They didn't judge, managed our debt and are still helping us. Contact them, they might be able to help you.
leatherette how did I end up here? I remember the days when DH and I SHARED one bottle of wine once a week over pizza. Now I drink most of a bottle, most nights. I am overweight, my skin tone is poor, I can't afford it. I drink because I am unhappy, I don't love DH after 24 years of marriage and I hate out physical relationship. I am trying to break free from my reliance on drink, I want to lose weight, i want to be free and have a future. But I'm not there yet. One mouthful at a time......

Ma, big hugs to you darling. You sound so very miserable, my heart goes out to you.

Mouse, I'm actually fine after yesterday's near-breakdown and stupid binge. The anti-inflammatories have finally kicked in, so I'm only a bit achey rather than in pain. Anyway, you're not here, so go away and have a good night. :) xxx

Time for a of my new most favouritest tea, fennel & peppermint. Anyone tried any other unusual teas? Orange, mango & cinanmon is another one I like.

Ma I too remember the days when DH & I would share a bottle.

It was when I stopped smoking that I started necking the lion's share.This was around the same time my local shop started selling 3 bottles for £10.

I also moved on to boxes, not just because there was more in them, but also because it didn't look so bad in the recycling box .

fairenuff parents evening went well? That's good!! Hear what you say about boxes - being a piss head and recycling is a mess. My little girl dropped off by her mum after a play date a couple of months ago - my front garden and downstairs are perfect - but the mum took the route my baby took her on through my back garden. I don't bottle bank very often. Atrocious numbers of bottles - sad thing is that they were my husbands bottles. If I wasn't on wine boxes it would have been mountainous

Mountainous

Gah! Mountainous!

Oh dear leather you been busted (or at least DH has). Well, as we're confessing, I also used to go to different shops to buy wine so the local didn't think I had a drink problem .

Morning all, hope you are all well. Bugger had a bit of a binge last night, managed to get to 8.00 and temptation took over, feeling a bit pissed off. Had a good talk with DP last night told him that he must stop trying to tempt me just to appease his guilt. We actually had a sensible conversation about finances and agreed a plan. I feel very resentful that he is not paying for anything. If he is pays his way and has money left to waste on booze then that will be his problem. He is back on the AD's now and hopefully he will level out, Grrrrr I wish he would not mess with his meds.
Ma sorry to read your post, also thanks for the suggestion about money, I am actaully on a debt management plan, trouble is I had a business that went bust and I am personally responsible for that, this is such pressure it is huge amount of money I really struggle, bloody evil banks.
leather how are you darling? there are alot of similarities huh, bit spooky, god I know what you mean about recycling, I cringe sometimes as our bin is by front gate, we live in a rural area, bet the dog walkers roll their eyes when the walk past out house

Morning all

My dad is currently in hospital with alcohol induced hepatitis, which has now affected his brain. The part of his brain that has been affected is the part that governs his balance and co-ordination. He is very very poorly and is only 63.
My poor stepmother is distraught, and I feel so helpless because I am 6000 miles away.
I had a long chat with her on skype last night, and she is scared stiff. Realistically if he doesn't stop drinking he will die. So very very sad .

He still doesn't accept that he has a problem though. He is an every day drinker. But never really gets totally pissed.
It really makes it hit home what I was doing to my children, and the future that I was potentially inflicting on them.

So I am very pleased to say that I am so glad to be on this bus with all of you, and that I am sober, and intend to stay that way for today.

Baf I am sorry to hear about your dad, a very sobering tale, so sad.

Please can I get on the bus? I am trying really hard to stop, have realised that one glass just leads on to more. I've been in hospital twice and lasted 5 months without a drop. Recently it's got worse and I'm seeing a counsellor who is really good, I just need that final push. It doesn't help that my husband sits by me and drinks up to 2 bottles of wine every night.

Oh Bafana - I'm so, so sorry to read that about your dad, please call me if I can help you at all! Even if you just need a pair of tiny ears to listen to you. You must be beyond scared for him and also for your stepmother.

My grandad died of lung cancer, after he was told to stop smoking or he would die. He selfishly told my nan that he had smoked all of his life and wasn't going to stop because some jumped up doctor had told him too........ he died two weeks later.

Thurso - Nemo is fantastic. He can count to ten now and actually joined in playing with another child at Stay N Play yesterday. We have an awful lot of appointments in the next 2 weeks for assessments etc....... I'm hoping that they are going to look at a statement for him now, rather than next year when he goes to nursery full time.

He is getting better at eating but will only eat Cadbury's chocolate buttons 'properly'. That's my boy!!

off to eat bacon sarnies and sort Wickes out, yes, that's right, they have NOT YET completed the bathroom, 3 months after our initial complaint! and GGGGRRRRRRR!

atos hello, I am new here so sure lots more people with come on board and offer help/advise. I am trying to cut down/stop and also have dp that swigs away, even does his best to to make me join him, pathetic sod. I have ranting about this past few days. Doesn't help does it when you do not have the support, I an only sympathise

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