The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Devilish Demon Drink Into Touch This Hallowe'en!. Mwahahahaha!

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Hello

I'm Mouse, well normally! [hgrin]

Welcome to the Bus. We are a mixed bunch of Babes, some of us drink, some of us don't and some of us are trying to find out the best way to cut down or stop completely.

There is plenty of room on the Bus for everyone so, come say hi. [hsmile]

And, if you'd like to see what brought us all here, you can read all of the past threads, including the original one by JWN RIGHT HERE

ah thurso - THE DRESS - this has caused HUGE traumas, originally she bought this 30s vintage satin affair, looked lovely off, was a nightmare once on, luckily she got her money back!, we are now looking at a very 60s rock and roll style, short, with huge drapy sleeves and a big floppy hat - this will look quite good as the wedding car is a fantastic 60s MG belonging to a friend of ours and the bridesmaids and i will be in a very old routemaster bus borrowed from another friend, they are then using my dads vintage sports car for her 'going away' dd is a striking looking girl, beautiful creamy skin with a pink pixie hair cut (a huge loud laugh and very unconventional),her df is tall and dark with a very 'brooding' sort of look about him (the kind of man that ages well! ) im enjoying all this so much i cant tell you! i never thought i could be so proud!

Ooh, JWN and me with two boys .

I am thinking Bianca Jagger hat, is that right?, fortuny pleated sleeves, flippy hem, oh stop me, someone!!!

Evening all and hello to Piranha

Day 2 for me and I'm feeling positive. Am off for a quick bath whilst DH cooks dinner. Grilled chicken with brown rice and chopped peppers, steamed mangetout and baby sweetcorn. Mmmm.

Have bought a new tea to try later, fennel and peppermint. Anyone tasted it?

Laters x

hey Thurso, dress gate is sorted. the strapless thing just wasn't working - not enough support for the norks, so had the brainwave to get my mother to turn the halterneck into straps so now I can wear a "proper" bra with a bit of oomph, so I may well take someone's eye out!!!
The Boss has intimated that he might be able to find me a post once he gets his feet under the table, but don't know if that's the right thing to do. I can't spend what's left of my working life clinging to his coat tails, but on the other hand, working with him is a huge part of the enjoyment of my current job.

Ma Hurrah for the dress

If you find someone you enjoy working with, and have a choice about it, stick like fecking glue to their shirt tales woman - otherwise work is just, well....boring work isn't it

Tails not tales --duur

hello silver! how you doing? (thats a genuine question, not a naggy one!)

MA, brilliant idea regarding the dress! i HATE clothes that dont allow a normal bra, like you, i need all the scaffolding i can get, my f cups being the real deal! if you got em, flaunt em! as to moving on with The Boss, silvers right, why not go with him? you plainly both get on well, you respect the man and like the way he works, considering how long we have to spend with the people we work with i think working with someone you like is paramount!

thurso it's the trouble with 'people' jobs and especially teaching (probably biased as i was a teacher) - there's always more you COULD do - it could always be better, you could always give more etc etc etc. you basically ARE the resource. if they mined coal like they mined teachers we'd have run out a long, long time ago. you have to draw limits x

btw thurso, spot on with bianca jagger/marianne faithful/patti boyd look - dd hadnt heard of them (yes, i felt ancient!) so i have looked out loads of pics, she likes that glam-beat-nik look, that kind of louche look suits df too!

glam-beat-nik look, that kind of louche look

I have no idea what this means, sounds like a foreign language to me. Swedish?

morning babes.

right today is day one. i'm drinking to stuff down feelings which is no good really. so today i will not be drinking and will try and find ways to be nice to myself.

happy hump day everyone.

Happy hump day back atcha Saf or Happy Dump Day if you just want to dump your troubles here. Feel free to have a little vent/moan/footstamp. Or a big one.

Today I will not be drinking. I love not drinking. Once I get past Day 1 and get all the poison out of my system, I feel really healthy again. So Day 3 for me.

I tried the fennel and peppermint tea and it was lush. Think I have found my new favourite tea. (Except for mornings when you can't beat a good PG tips I reckon).

How are you doing Piranha and other newish newbies?

JWN, that all sounds perfect! Can one get broody for a weedding? :)

right, well. yesterday = two glasses of wine. bad day one, again.

DD really upset by her Dads drinking yesterday and embarrasing her. Need to keep that in mind today.

Morning

Hi to Snapes and Piranha

Day 1 here too saf. Lets start over and do it one day at a time?

Busy day today. I have taken the bold decision not to work tmrw (a whole half day to myself!!). Plan is: stay for the parents breakfast at nursery tmrw, then pottering about town for a bit (trying on clothes without a child whipping back the curtain!!) and then hair dye and cut. I'm so excited. I cannot remember the time I had half a day to myself other than through illness.

There is no way I am wasting this by being hungover. Today I will not be drinking. I mean it today .

Faire I love fennel tea too. I think the smell is lovely too

ps

(am ignoring all posts about norks as a protest to not having any)

but I am glad that you got the dress sorted ma. And I say follow the boss. Very common in my area of work and no-one bats an eye. People tend to just like to work with people they trust and get on with. Makes life easier.

Well done Wallowed ,good luck today.Agree re teaching - thurso - (I'm a psych. nurse,similar stuff)

jwn ,I love the idea of that whole beatnik look,sounds fab.

Am still managing not to drink,but finding the "is that it?" feeling at 6pm v difficult.Eating cake will not help with weight.Thinking I may allow myself to have a can of 2% beer on Saturday night,but no more than that.
Love not having hangovers,but unsure quite what to do with my emerging clearer head.

I have been off sick for a few weeks,getting back onto antidepressants and starting therapy .Am aiming to return to work the week after next as I am due on a course that week.I tend to ruminate,over-think and guilt trip myself about everything.A few weeks ago,I was lacking in energy and struggling with negative thoughts - trying to keep up a good front for the dc,but being bad tempered and lacking sense of humour.
My drinking was respite.Cheered me up and took me out of myself.
Although not allowing antidepressants to work,or for me to confront feelings and deal with them.

I want to be able to enjoy a drink on a weekend - maybe not every weekend - and on holidays and stuff,but not to be counting the hours until 6pm or looking for excuses to start earlier.Or grabbing any chance to start at 11am on a day off.Or thinking it's normal to feel like shit every morning,and like death on a Sunday until,um,11 am.

Today,I have a clear head and have walked the younger dc to school,baby to nursery and walked dog 2 miles.Now feeling guilty at all the things I'm not doing round the house.Want to lounge about on MN/reading all day until school finishes.Feel that would be lazy and dreadful.

No idea how I will face going back to work.

This is such a great idea - i posted here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/1333972-Help-addicted-to-alcohol-life-spinning-out-of-control and was referred here. So "Hi" and can someone help me? Day 1 11:21 and managed without a drink so far....

Piranha, im reading your post and it could be written by me. Weekends i can have a quick one to wake me up by 8am - weekdays as soon as i pick LO from school i cant wait to rush in and open a bottle.

Cant remember what it feels like to be sober or not to have this fuggy head.

My LO not at school today (as explained in first post) she is sat in front of the telly whilst I am trying to function -lying in bed on MN.

Dont want to do this anymore....

Hi D - maybe change your name to something hopeful!?!

Will check out your other thread in a mo. Sorry you are feeling bad.Do you have a dp/dh? I am on my own with 5 dc and my evening drink is my "grown up time".I am finding it really hard to replace that.

So far,3 days without a drink for me.Will keep checking in here today if you want to keep posting x

hi DOTV. well done for recognising where you've gotten to and that you don't want to be there anymore.

well done on day 3 piranha. not confronting feelings is close to home for me. today is a challenge. not as in missing alcohol as such but as in having to feel rather than take the edge of and stay a bit numb via alcohol.

not being ambitious today. took the dog for a long walk and chatted to random dog walkers after taking ds to school, have cooked and eaten lunch and done a bit of washing up. don't think there's much point feeling guilty about all the things i should/could be doing. just getting through and not drinking will do for today.

there's an afterschool play session locally today that i agreed i'd be going to with another mum. not feeling like being around people really but will make myself go.

Ok,just read your thread.Poor you

No way should your husband have hit you.Not for any reason.
Your priorities here are safety - your dc and you.
I'm sure you don't need me to point out how scary it is that you passed out while responsible for the care of a 3 month old.

Time to get RL help.Today.
Please get an emergency appointment with your GP or Health Visitor Today and tell him/her what you wrote in your other post.Ask for help.

How is your relationship with your dh? You may need to think about speaking to Women's' Aid . I am really concerned to hear that you are bruised.

Check online for your local alcohol services and ring them for advice and support.
Keep posting here,but as this thread doesn't get so much traffic from different/new people please keep your other thread going too.x

Above post was for Dependantonthevino

DOTV this whole thread was started by a poster who felt in exactly the same position as you - her dh was at the end of his tether. Another person on here posted after her dc had been taken into care. Another person posted feeling suicidal with despair having been thrown out by her dp, with her baby being looked after by dp. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

And the good news is that all 3 of those people who were in a similar situation are sober. They are not drinking. And they have got their lives back together.

It is possible.

What has happened is shit and awful. You can't change it. But you can choose what you do now. Call your GP, make the appointment. Keep coming on here. There are AA people here, and non-AA people here. We'll hold your hand. We can tell you our favourite distraction tactics for when the craving is upon us. We can reassure you. But only you can choose not to pick up the drink.

hi DTOV - do you REALLY want to stop?, do you REALLY want your life back? do you REALLY want your family back? - i only ask because you REALLY REALLY have to WANT this with ALL your being! - you CAN do it, you CAN turn it all round but im not going to kid you, its fucking hard work!, even if you think this is as low as you can get, i promise you, if you dont put the drink down it will take you lower!

why chicken out of speaking to the AA person? - if its just embrarrasment you need to get over yourself cos that embrarrassment could end up killing you!

im not being harsh, just telling you like it is!

my name is JWN and im an alcoholic - the best sentence i ever uttered! when i first said it i was frightened, scared, miserable, ill, depressed and on the point of losing everyone i loved - 16 months have gone by, no more drink, no more guilt, no more misery - just a calm peace, clear thought and self respect regained - YOU CAN HAVE WHAT I HAVE - YOU JUST HAVE TO WANT ENOUGH!!

DoTv. welcome.

I'm going to slightly re-emphasise JWNs first paragraph.

hi DTOV - do YOU really want to stop?, do YOU really want your life back? do YOU really want your family back? - i only ask because YOU really really have to WANT this with all YOUR being! - YOU CAN do it, YOU CAN turn it all round ...

it is a decision that you have to make...and frankly, I'll be blunt - do YOU love alcohol more than YOU love your DCs? becasue my Xp does. He's been an alcoholic for at least ten years. His Hands shake. He has that 'sweet' smell of liver dysfunction, no matter how much he tries to hide it with deoderant. He has embarrassed my DD to the point of tears in front of her friensds. I've tried shock tactics with him, i've asked him if he wants the kids to see him lying in a gutter, covered in his own shit because he doesn't care enough about them not to be a liability and he still does it. he still drinks.

and to be honest, to a degree and without wanting to negate my responsibility to myself, it's the easiest thing in the world, when he's stressing me out to down a couple of glasses of wine to take the edge off. I recognise that and it has to stop.

You will find support here. we're all with you. some of us are sober, some of us are worried about our alcohol consumption, some of us are 'functioning' alcohol dependants who work and do all the mum things during the day, then drink a bottle of wine each and every evening, because we 'need' it to relax or we've had a stressful day or any number of excuses. Some of us start drinking when we get up and stay drunk all day and then we get up and start it all over again. However, we can't tell you what to do, the decision is yours and it's an important decision DoTV, because while you may not have control over certain aspects of your life, for a number of reasons, what you can control is what you choose to put into your body.

:)