The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Devilish Demon Drink Into Touch This Hallowe'en!. Mwahahahaha!

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Hello

I'm Mouse, well normally! [hgrin]

Welcome to the Bus. We are a mixed bunch of Babes, some of us drink, some of us don't and some of us are trying to find out the best way to cut down or stop completely.

There is plenty of room on the Bus for everyone so, come say hi. [hsmile]

And, if you'd like to see what brought us all here, you can read all of the past threads, including the original one by JWN RIGHT HERE

Snape you sound very active, I too do yoga and running, eat well. I don't smoke (apart from today [hhmm]).

You sound like you have a good plan there. I expect having ex H around doesn't help much. When does he go back?

I need to learn how to manage my anxiety somehow but don't know how. I seem to get to a point where I'm really anxious and then drink. Any ideas anyone?

he's away tomorrow morning, thank christ. the DCs are all very wary of alcohol, because they've seen the state their dad gets in.... I think one of my main reasons for wanting to cut down is that I don't want to be like him, I don't want them to look on me as an old soak. I've never been the kind of drunk that falls over in the street with her knickers around her ankles, but I know I rely on it to unwind and I'm sick of fuzzy-headed mornings. weight wise it just sits around my hips. I eat healthily, I do all the right things exercise wise - it must be the wine that is adding to my beergut.

anxiety - yoga and running are your friends here - nothing like a good blast to divert yourself from anxious thoughts - I recently got offered a course of massage/reiki/tapping through work and it's wonderful. just wonderful. I really reccomend it highly! and i don't believe in all this new age mumbo jumbo. but it works!

Hello Snape and Ruby and the rest of the gang.

Looks like a few of us are on Day 1 today. I too will not be drinking

Mouse sounds like your plan is a good one, as long as you don't run out of Becks Blue. Will your DH drink it too or will he prefer something else as an alternative 'soft' drink?

I think Government guidelines for 3 booze free days is better than the old one that if you have more than so many units it's binge drinking, even if it's spread out over the week. A lot of people could not relate to that as we all see bingeing as having a lot all at once, be it booze, food, spending spree, whatever. Now if people struggle to do 3 days they might realise that they have a problem.

MsGee I'm pretty sure that in the US where trick or treating originated, kids dress up as all sorts of things, not just scary ones. I know my niece is going dressed as Barbie .

Mouse your make up was awesome, you are so talented!

Saf if you've picked up a virus it's no wonder you feel grotty. Try to rest and eat well. Are you planning on a booze-free Tuesday when ds goes back to school, or is today Day 1 for you too?

BOING!!! nice to meet you snape!

ok babes, i want some sympathy here, dh asked me earlier if i would like to go out this evening - 'oh yes' says i, 'how lovely' - just asked him where we are going to be told he has booked cinema tickets to see - tintin! - let this be a lesson to all wanna be cougars! marry a younger man and find yourself watching cartoons!

see you later babes!

jwn wanders off shuffling feet with head down, the thought of 2 hours of cinematic drivel ahead of her!

Jesus get him to at least take you for a meal before or afterwards. Or preferably get him to take a friend instead.

Tin Tin

tin tin. blimey.

these are things we sit through for our children not for grown men.

faire today definitely not day 1 - i've drank, am drinking. tomorrow should be as ds goes back to school but i'm afraid it's wait and see. i'm not sure i'm at day one yet.

feeling pretty down and just in survival mode at the minute. all that really matters is being a good enough mum and holding it together and staying on top of the basics. if i can't not drink then i'm not going to beat myself up about it for now.

know that sounds defeatist but i have a lot on my mind and my heart/soul/whatever and staying afloat will. make sense?

hope it's ok for me to still be popping in despite not exactly being on the bus at the moment.

saf stay, stay, stay. Just hold together whatever you can hold together. Most important thing is not to let go of the people who could support you. Especially when things are tough x

Hello all, whoops changed my name back a bit too early!! Venus how do you get your name changed back to the original one?, I've tried and tried, but mumsnet won't let me!!

We had a lovely weekend with DC2, but, he was quite ill, with a fluey cold, so I did lots of

Saf what Venus said. xxx

JWN DH took DS and both enjoyed it. My best advice (and frequently experience this) is to have a quiet 40 winks or more!

Evening to all - to those on day 1 (that's all of us on ODAAT) may we have a peaceful evening and (projecting slightly) happy mornings.

Good point JWIM I hadn't thought of Day 1 like that but of course it makes perfect sense.

Saf you know that it's ok to keep posting when you're drinking. Lots of us are finding out what works for us and what doesn't. If you need to drink right now that's fine, of course it is. When you are ready, you will have another break from it.

From what others have said, I gather that this bus is for support wherever and whenever it's needed, so please don't disappear just when you might need us most.

Of course, you might be fine and I could be speaking out of turn . Sorry if that's the case x

thank you

have laughed and felt a bit teary reading this tonight.

thurso i like the

hi all. One glass, cork in and off to bed. got an early start tomorrow for business breakfast so need a clear head. Still really gutted about boss leaving - he's such a nice man, I'm going to miss him!

Glad you're going to stick around Saf

Ma make your mind up, twas only a few days ago you couldn't face the man! But seriously, what a shame. Hope the new boss is equally lovely. Could you go for the job yourself?

well, i survived it! actually (though i hate to admit it!) it was a pretty good film, animation is really very clever to the point of almost forgetting that you are not watching real people, good yipping yarn and of course the baddies lose!

SAF - JWIM is right, we are ALL hanging on in here 'one day at a time', please stay with us, you have done fantastically well, take it that you are in a bit of a blip right now, its not the end of the world, its just a bit of a bugger! btw, miflaw told me once that the person who had been sober longest was the person who got up earliest that day, yesterday dosent matter and tomorrow isnt here yet, so lets just concentrate on the next few hours - makes sense really dosent it?

thurso, did you tuck him in and do story time? bet ya wanted to!

i have put a hold on ANY MORE wedding plans here until after christmas, dd is becoming OBSESSED with table plans and decorations and menus and jugglers and fire-eaters and those things you see abroad where kids are tied to bungy elastic over a trampoline and then pinged into the air - i think its time to rein in some of the more outlandish (read expensive!) ideas

off to bed to look at wedding mags! (i only need to rein her in, i can have what i like cos im paying for it! mahahahha!

Morning - Boing (ish).

Just had two glasses of wine last night but feeling ok about it. Aware of slippery slopes and all that. Best thing is that it is now November. Which means I survived October. And that I go on holiday next month!!

Today I will not be drinking.

Morning! I had a glass of wine at 8 and then one mote when I got in at midnight. Hardly ideal, but not a full bottle. Was feeling a bit swimmy yesterday afternoon, as forgot to take my cit, so not a great idea to tank it. Feel tired, but good this morning, so let's call it day one. ;)

Heartbreaking, my daughter wanted me to hide the exes paint-stripper cider this morning, so he wouldn't be able to drink on the train back home. No point- alcoholics will always find a,way...
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Did anyone hear the news this morning about legislation in Scotland to increase the price of booze? Apparently, you can buy a man's weekly units for £4! A teenager can buy enough to drink themselves to death for a fiver! :(

scairey its because I like him that I couldn't face him!
Nah, i can't go for the job - he's Chief Executive. Out of my league.

Morning Babes - welcome to Snape - I have visions of the delish Alan Rickman in my head reading your name!, tart that I am.

Ruby - I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo glad to see you back! I often wonder about posters of days gone by and hope that they're okay.

Ma - sorry to hear that your boss is to leave, not nice. I do hope this won't affect your job in any way? As in, the new boss will keep everyone on?

MsGee - Today the sun is shining here, but on the dark days, the cloudy, damp, dark and rainy days, I really struggle to feel like getting out of bed.

I'm sure that if it were just me, I'd stay in bed all day, unplug the phone and lock the door until Spring.

Tin Tin looks good, I don't do the Cinema though, far too claustrophobic for that. I wait until Lovefilm have it and then get it!!

Today is the start of Movember and DH is taking part again, have a look HERE. So for the next month, I'll be mostly kissing a combination of hedgehogs and furry bears!

I drank last night. My plan went out of the window. Not because DH drank, but because I wanted a glass of wine so I had one. Just one but still..........

Hello!

Have lurked on and off for ages. Realising that drinking is really interfering with my emotional state,which I am finally gaining insight into and,hopefully,learning to regulate.

Really identify with comment upthread about relaxation and enjoyment being wrapped around alcohol.
I really don't want to live the rest of my life without ever having a warm,hazy beer feeling on a Sunday afternoon,or a chilled, giggly Saturday night with a glass or two of red.

However,I have scared myself this half term.Spent the week wandering round a wonderful ,romantic European city with baby dd and New-ish M... (am in denial,it has been a year,but we are still dating,cautiously)...It was lovely.But we had no need to drive or even walk far,and basically drank steadily most of the time.Never noticeably "drunk"....but kidneys kicking in the night and head appalling on the day we were flying home - couldn't have a beer at 11am,had to drive later....

Had one sherry glass of red after landing on Friday night and have had nothing since.Very,very hard going.Chocolate and cake consumption has risen dramatically.
Also having to confront the main reason for not losing the 4 stone of baby weight I still carry.Was very good when pg and very minimal when bf-ing which I did ft until April.But have always been good at all or nothing.

And will need to deal with anxieties properly.And give Citalipram a chance to help. And see what is really what with NM and our relationship with each other and with alcohol.

Thanks for listening.Am not v good at regular posting on fast moving threads,but will do my best to support as well as self indulge.

welcome piranha

well done on the abstinence. hard work when you've been on holiday and grazing alcohol throughout the days at a comfortable pace. think several of us have drank on holiday then come home to the difficult adjustment of not mooching through the day with a glass in hand this year. i had an all inclusive week away with ds this year and it's very easy to just stay at nicely topped up but never drunk and not think much of it till you get home and feel the horror of hankering for a drink by lunchtime.

ds is back to school today thankfully. get up and dressed and out early and then come home alone to peace and quiet. getting little jobs done today but mostly just letting myself relax. not sure if i'm drinking or not yet but if i am it will just be beer and just a little. that's the deal for the minute. though day one will have to come soon.

hope everyone is ok.

mouseface - one would have no requirement for alcohol if in the company of the wonderful mr Rickman. I can get quite squiffy on his voice alone. :)

welcome Piranha. :)

Hello Lovelies!

Welcome Piranha, self indulge away! I know I do .

Mousie DC2 is doing the "Movember" thing too, although I think he may have set his very, very blonde and not very hairy, sights a bit high .

Sorry not to be posting very often, I am working a lot more this half term, and have a lot more responsibility that I'm not sure I can rise to (down, down, damned insecurity!), so evenings are spent worrying, shiffling through papers preparing for the next day.

JWN never mind the menus, what is "THE DRESS" going to be like? .

Venus How is DD recovering? Is she still sore? Sending you love. xxx

Noteven I may have missed your posts, are you ok?

Ma how is "dressgate"?, knock your bosses eyes out on Thursday, and perhaps he'll take you with him! (lovely, very un pc, thurso ).

Love to all
xxx

thurso try not to worry too much. you can do it, you are doing it and good enough is good enough - don't get into obsessing over perfection. there's always more that could be done, you have to draw limits x

it's not day one i'm afraid. i will keep damage limitation in check though.

Thank you Saf, Waf!!,

you are right, trouble is that I think "good enough" isn't good enough for the children I work with, I want to give them the best, and then some.
On the other hand, I always say "do your best, and that is all anyone can ever want, or hope for". I should listen sometimes .

Have you had dinner yet, will it help to eat? xx