Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

[lubeybooby]

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

Dills1982 on GS would like to take me out for cocktails, amazing food, and then a coffee shop... in the morning. The cheeky effing sod.

It's almost tempting though. I need something to bolster my bruised ego. Bloody anderoooo. Bah.

He looks a proper bimbo though. All cheekbones and muscles. Not my type at all.

I don't think we can do a username search without being registered Make. Can you link or something?

BoR coming over at 8pm :o

Gaydar and clubs i have done in the past but im 46 so its not quite as easy now. i was worried my ex would see me. and would you believe it spookily she emailed about an hour ago to say a friend saw me on a site and told her about it

I always thought it was easier being gay and ginding nice women, this thread suggests otherwise

i shall up my game, be a bit more flirty and embrace my ambivalence

womens spelling by the way is piss poor too. and ive never blocked anyone- seems so mean!

ime- christ knows who you spoke to on pof- i only found mingers

joblot I am not gay but I understand your unease over your Ex seeing your profile on a site. In fact I feel very wary of anyone I know seeing my profile. This is quite irrational as I am single and my Ex has someone else now. Also anyone looking on the site is likely to be in the same situation. But we can't help how we feel.

Luckily my VNM has persuaded me we will both take our profiles down and go exclusive [hsmile]

lubey I'm delighted that you are going to be 'busy' this evening because I get to be top of the leader board on Bejewelled Blitz before you come back and wipe me out! Have fun!

Joblot There was once very classy lady but I've just done a search for her and it looks like she has deleted her profile.

Woo Eeee LittleHouse that's cause for celebration! [hsmile]

Time :o I had forgotten all about bejewelled! I'll get to that later

Congrats Littlehouse that's lovely :o

So to try & get some fun back in my life I loaded a oic of myself on my profile (not done that before) abd the first message i get is
"Pretty, wanna chat" ...... ummm, no, block, pic down in 30mins!

pic not oic - sorry!

Don't worry lubey, I'm no threat, I don't perform very well under pressure

wriggly give it a chance

"Oh your gorgeous
Wanna take you for a surf and relax with a fire by the beach"

OMG, I cannot stand this much longer!!!

Had a couple of texts over the weekend from Friday's date but nothing since. Oh well back to POF and see if there are any others that can spell, use correct grammar and don't look too hideous. Wish me luck!

Pretty I wish you luck - it is the sea of the great uneducated at the moment. I'm off to take my pic down and surf the available cats at the local rescue sanctuary....I give up

wriggly- you at least get some attention. all i get is 'hi hun'. i mean, what are these people thinking?

joblot I have no idea, it is so thoroughly depressing. I'm not asking for the world, but a bit of spelling and good chat would be nice (Oh god do I sound like my mum?)

Ok. My best attempt at a link: soulmates.guardian.co.uk/profile/4d877bbae9e4c3171f661134

I'm way behind in reading the messages, hope people have had a fun time.

< Time: samhaircin don't feel embarrassed or guilty or any such other emotion. Just cancel. Tell him after giving it some further thought you have decided you don't want a second date. You don't have to justify yourself but if he asks why just tell him that there was no spark for you and you don't want to waste his time. Ignore any further texts he may send. No further contact. Be assertive!!>

Thanks Time. I cancelled the second date but just concentrated on the distance issue, as that was almost more off-putting than the lack of spark. If he had been more local I would have been up for meeting up one more time. As it turns out it was going to take over another week for the second date with this guy to happen, which I felt proved my point about the distance being a problem, and the wait would have made me more nervous as well. So I am now footloose and fancy free again . I am thinking of taking a few weeks off internet dating as I have quite a few other things to do over the next few weeks.

< zookeeper: I met my lovely DP fifteen months ago on POF; we didn't meet and click immediately - it took two or three dates but I wouldn't be without him now.>

That is interesting, I must take this into account for any future dates, though sometimes like you said elsewhere you often know almost immediately if they are definitely not for you.

Evening everyone

Wonder how Lubey is getting on with her BoR

There are some half decent ones on POF apparantly so give it a while

I had fun catching up with myFWB friend earlier which was nice as I hadn't seen him for a while

ooh yes, hope lubey's having a good evening with BoR!

My date may be a bit delayed as he (realised he needs a name...will come back to that one!) had a spot of bother at work and ended up with several stitches. He doesn't want to meet me cos he thinks it looks bad. I have tried to explain I really wouldn't mind actually like my men a bit rough round the edges so we'll see. We may manage Friday night, depends if hes working or not. Or else possibly daytime over the weekend.

Getting slightly excited now. Which is a sure sign it will all go to shit!

We're never happy are we, if I'm not excited I think there will be no spark so I'm not sure if its worth meeting. If I am excited I think I like fancy the guy too much too soon so it will all go wrong, I will get hurt so I'm not sure if its worth meeting

Zany I know exactly what you mean, I try and be all confident, laid back, go with the flow etc but that really isn't me

Worryingly I used to be even worse than this. I never had a sober date with a man til I was in my 30s

Lubey! hope your evening is fun!

wriggly 'OMG, I cannot stand this much longer!!!' made me

me and the doctor are playing text tennis. i like him. :) nothing really flirty, but it's lovely to hear from him. :)

my ebay wonderfulness/obsession with all saints continues apace. trousers. tag on £4.70. whoop!

I should explain...because I couldn't have a conversation with a man I liked unless I was at least a little tipsy. I still struggle a bit now. I couldn't eat in front of them either (til I started living with my Ex, and then I had no choice unless I was always going to eat in another room. With hindsight if I had, it might've ended our relationship sooner!)

Thanks for the welcome everyone. PoppaRob I'm usually SoftKittyWarmKitty but have had a Halloween name change. [hgrin] I love The Big Bang Theory and would love to shag get to know Johnny Galecki. Wish he was on POF...