Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

[lubeybooby]

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

Can I ask how you manage to get so many messages? You all seem to do so well. I get very few, partly because I'm gay and women aren't great at making the first move, but I wonder if my 'cutting' wit is offputting or if I'm missing a trick. I'm newly on smooch and okc. I probably give out mixed signals on my profile. I'm ambivalent and I guess that shows

ladies, ladies!!! In June I flew off to Malaga with a guy that I had only 2 dates with and we had a fantastic time..I've decided that this is the time in my life to be impulsive and to stop fannying around..I've had a shit life so far, so now life is for living and taking opportunities. Anyway I've spoken to Mr Boat for a grand total of 12 hours now, which in my book equates to 4 dates or 4 weeks of dating lol. It just feels good and assuming I can get a flight, well, then I'm orfffff to Dubai. I've been 3 times in the last 2 years, all paid for by my goodself, went once with a fella and the other 2 times on my own or my daughter. My best male mate lives there (pilot) so I know I've got somewhere to stay if it all goes tits up (have checked with him already).

Me, impulsive?

PoppaRob there are some odd ones out there, that's for sure. I had one bloke questioning my profile, more or less telling me that what I wanted was wrong. How very dare he!

joblot Erm, I think you sort of answered your own question there

CM You are a little dare devil you are!! Getting into a strangers car seems entirely acceptable after reading your latest post!

Where did you meet Mr Boat CM? Any chance of a peep at him?

joblot you're probably right about ambivalence, it does tend to show. I find logging in a lot helps as then you show in the 'online' lists.

I should imagine being gay makes it really difficult. Do you ever get out to gay clubs at all? Mind you most of the gay women I met on my recent night out were already coupled up, but could be worth a go maybe?

Go Charlotte it sounds like you have covered your bases even down to having a bolt hole ready!

I chatted to a guy online for a couple of months and he eventually came over for breakfast and a day out doing our hobby and we had a lovely chaste weekend together. The next week he came back at 3am and we set off on an adventure for three days and he shagged me senseless stayed a week. I had a fantastic time, but he was a vanisher and it never continued beyond that week. His loss!!

I was sorry he ran away, but it boosted my confidence hugely and each relationship serves a purpose I believe.

You are not impulsive you are decisive! That is better than dithering and letting life pass you by.

gasp!

There are quite a few gay ladies on POF. I know this because I've been hit on and although I'm not gay, we have exchanged some nice messages and kept in touch. I'm finding Cupid really slow at the moment so I'm not bothering with it all that much.

CM well in that case enjoy yourself :o just make sure those back up plans are reliable just in case :)

Littlehouse I wouldn't help him at all - he clearly isn't doing that great a job of looking after himself so I'd be quite tough on that one that he needs to sort it out and keep it sorted entirely by himself. I'd put a relaxed time limit on it of say, being able to go to his by xmas with no help from you at all.

I'm definitely a ditherer

(gasping at CM...)

I think as long as you have plan B in form of best male Pilot friend and are assured that you are safe, then fine.

Hello scaredkitty! :)

joblot - gaydar?

sorry - posted before I meant to - doesn't gaydar have a female section?> called something like gaydargirls?

time look on my facebook - his initials are KG - added a couple of days ago I think

I'm a lot bit OCD when it comes to a clean and tidy house so I probably would judge a bloke that had a messy one. Not just bog standard mess but if he lived in a hovel I would think that said a lot about his own standards.

My ex once sprayed his sheets with Lynx, saying he hadn't had time to wash them so I used to take my own. We fell out once and he stomped off the the club so before I stomped -off-- went home I took my nice clean sheets off the bed and got his minging ones out of the laundry basket and put them back on

CM I have sent you a PM

CM Wow, I wish I was as brave as you, well actually I wish I had an offer like that too. A 'coffee date' would be a nice start point & I cannot even get that this week!
LittleHouse I love what you say "every relationship serves a purpose" I will try & remember that one :-)

Allllll Byyyyy Myselllffffff. The cats are out so I cant sing adele lyrics to them :(

Afternoon folks, That's S away so I must now despondently clean my house. It requires much cleaning.

No idea what everyone has been doing, or will be doing or IS doing will try catch up on your zillion messages tonight :)

Awhhh, stay, when is he back again?

I can save you reading my posts, I've no dates lined up but I am going to view cats in a couple of weeks time! For that date I do not have to change the sheets, slather myself in fake tan nor shave my bits, the cat will love me just as I am!

When I was 31 I was travelling around Australia. Got to a backpackers to do some whitewater rafting one more day to relax and sunbathe, with the intention of catching the greyhound to the next stop down the coast.

Got chatting to a lovely younger Australian man who was heading in the opposite direction to me. I told him I would have liked to travel to Ayres Rock and we threw our plans out of the window and set off together in his van the next morning. Took us 3 days and by the time we got to Alice Springs we were in love. Oh those were the days.

CM, as long as you have somewhere to go if he turns out to be an arse. I can remember one poster went off with a guy she didn't know well to Dubai, funnily enough, and it went tits up.

oooh bridget jones eat your heart out! I will pass on any more cats, my two are enough...however I shall purchase wine and whole nut to amuse myself with tonight instead. Considering they arent animate objects, I doubt they care what I look like

No dates?! How not? Go get one :)

No date's cos no men stay, well, no suitable men. I'm going to change my profile pics when I get some new ones done, see if that makes a difference. I think I am going to aim higher, I am going UP MARKET!!

Should have said 'stayed' one more day.

bolthole has been confirmed.....male pilot friend has confirmed that his villa is 10 mins from where I'm staying and although he's flying and away for one day that I'm there, his wife (that i'm friends with too) will be available to come and pick me up if it all goes wrong go shopping with, put me up or take me to airport.

I hope it all goes swimmingly for you CM

CM hope you have a good time, which site did you meet him from?