Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

[lubeybooby]

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

you are going to hate me, i think you can do way better.
Unless, hes amazing to talk to and his profile doenst do him justice at all.
( sorry)

but in a way thats a huge compliment to you :) because i thiink you are about 10 steps out of his league.

sponge you are not weird at all, you just prefer to talk face to face or continue texting. I am just the same. Just text him and explain that you aren't able to talk on the phone at the moment, for now you will have to stick to texting or arrange a date, see what he say's to that

I love cat's watch I'm not so fond of other people's cat's shitting in my garden but I always had a cat when I was married and she was lovely. She got run over though. The ex hated pets so we could never have any so, with 2 rabbits, a hamster which stinks! and now a cat I am making up for lost time.

sponge - call him,. i hate talking on the phone to potential dates too, but could have weed'ed out the crap ones if i had of done so.

he might just be a crap texter.

talk to him on the phone and then agree to the date if it hasnt gone too bad.

If the conversation is rubbish, you will know there is no point meeting up.

His profile doesn't really say much zany but I really do dislike men who use pics of their kids on their profile. It may be just me but I think they are using as a ploy to pull in the women. I'm with watch in that I think you deserve and can get better.

sponge hang in on there, you will meet someone one day who hates talking on the phone, who doesn't have any small talk and you will click. Then suddenly you will find you love talking on the phone and that you are fab at small talk. Stop selling yourself short, you just haven't met the right guy yet

ive got a dog, who will be 10 this week. bless him. i adore him. Hes my boy.
old boy now.
and we have two guinea's , know as the ' fat little buggers'

im always scared cats are going to swipe at me, or sit on my lap and then do that claw thing and you have to pretend like its ok, and doesnt hurt, when it does, plus they might bite me. The fact that i live with a dog who is much larger than a cat, and has bigger teeth and a bigger jaw and could probably eat my leg if he wanted to, is by the by :) lol

time, i am generally with you on the kids pics thing. or ones when they are with other people ( always wonder about if the people they are with in the pics know their pic is online)

time - when do you think youwill get the cat then? soon? kitten?

We love dogs too but I'm worried about leaving a dog alone all day when I do eventually manage to find a job and start work. Plus, they do take a lot more looking after than a cat, they need taking out for walks when its pissing it down raining and I do like to come home from school run in Winter and get all cosy in my PJ's, having to take a dog out for a walk would kinda spoil all that

I'm never that thrilled at the prospect of a phone call but I have to admit it does give you a better idea of how you get on and I do tend to be glad when I've done so. Just wait for a convinient time with no distractions and have a chat - it's much better and clearer than texting etc. Also what Time said about when it's right person you suddenly find it's easy.

If the call is a bit shit/boring and you want to hang up just invent an excuse (boss coming, someone at the door, kids home whatever and say you have to go.

Me and BoR would never have got anywhere without the phone because he is shit at talking online!

Just checking in with an update as I think I may have to retire from this thread now. Nine dates in with the Very Nice Man and he has just left for work a bit late after staying over

He is very keen, is coming to a Black Tie do with me at the weekend to meet my friends and has persuaded me to take up his hobby. Also I am to meet his parents this weekend and see his hideously cluttered house. He thinks I may run a mile after that.

Could his house really be so bad I would dump him? Surely some marigolds and a bucket of hot water and elbow grease solves most problems. I am agog to see how hideous it is! After all I don't need to go there do I?

Nooo, not a kitten. I want one that is passed the scratching, pulling, pooing on the carpet stage. One that is a bit older, house trained and settled.

I'm relying on my elder daughter for transport to take us to view the cats so it's going to be a couple of weeks before we get to choose one. Then the RSPCA do a home check and if that goes well you go collect your cat so I'm guessing 3/4 weeks. Can't wait actually, I'm looking forward to having a cuddly cat

time- yeah, dogs do have that habit, damn them. Still, i love walking him, and i love it even more when dd is with her dad and it gets to be just me and him for a while, hes lovely. Now i sound like a mad dog woman, dont i.

DD adores him too. Literally adores him. And because hes so big hes very good at cuddles and providing a warmth.

So, any man would need to quite like dogs, and not mind dog hair either.

I will bite the bullet and phone him later...maybe. Although by the time I'm home and the boys are busy killing things on the Xbox he will prob be at work. So that might delay it a bit :)

Watch, am with you on cats, I always think they are going to jump on me and claw me! I would love a dog but being out of the house 10+ hours a day would not be fair on it.

I don't really like men having photos of their kids on there either, and the group photo ones I always find one/all of their mates are much better looking, so puts me off them!

Time yay about the cat! :o

I love mine so much but I got them from a local cat charity who didn't mind that I live on a main road. I had to agree to keep them as housecats, and I did for about a year but now they do go out in the back garden after I accidentaly left the door open one day and noticed they stayed put and didn't wander near the front. They hate the front with the scary cars and don't bother with it. I don't think the RSPCA would have allowed me one being funny buggers and they are a bit more expensive. Anyway hope all goes ok with you getting one :o

LittleHouseofHorror oooh meeting the parents is serious stuff! But don't you be donning the marigolds and cleaning his house! Buy him a pair by all means but don't you go mothering him, just avoid going there

lubey I don't like phone calls but I must admit it's nice to hear what they sound like. Friday's date had a bit of an odd voice for his size/height. A rather small weedy voice in comparison. I had expected deeper and more masculine.

Thank you lubey, I hope it all goes well to because we really do want one. It's all DD talks about, bless her. We have a huge back garden and we don't live on a main road although there is one not too far away that can get busy but hopefully the RSPCA won't see it as a problem. I'm a council tenant now so I think I will call in this week and see if they will give me permission to put in a cat flap.

Just found out my DD is going for a sleepover tonight

Do I run round like a mad woman cleaning and washing and drying my bedsheets and invite BoR over?? Or just enjoy the peace?

I'm totally with you on the phone phobia too. I LIKE swapping texts pointlessly through the day though, it makes life fun and makes me smile mysteriously which drives my colleagues bonkers.

Re the marigolds: I have no intention of cleaning up his house for him, but helping him with it would be ok. Or reorganising his bedroom how I would like it [hgrin]

Oh dear. And his profile started off so well too....applications-being-taken (POF) tosser

glad sponge - please update us :)

time - exciting :)

Lubey Option A!!! You need to sort the what from the chaff as soon as possible. Ooh am all excited for you sad woman that I am

Oh that's fine LittleHouseOfHorror I agree with that. Make sure he has plenty of clean sheets too!

I'm more looking forward to not being on my own on NYE watch somehow, having a cat to cuddle makes it all seem so much better. See, I'm turning into a crazy cat lady already

Ok mad woman cleaning commences. ARGH!

Actually maybe I should make sure he doesn't have other plans first :o

I'm sure if he has his plans will soon be changed once he hears what you have in mind. So what happens now? Do you just ring/text him inviting him round for a shag?? Or do you invite him round for a meal or something and then seduce him? What's the procedure?

I offered "Supper and a snog" and that did the trick! We did eat first...