Fucked up big style.

[Fuckedupagain]

I been sacked today.

For doing something inappropriate at work. Totally my own fault. Am devastated.

It involves another person, who is 3 days into a 2 week holiday with his df.

Aside from my own shame, embarrassment and general self-hatred, I don't know whether to try and get in contact with him. Nothing he can do, will ruin his holiday.

Such a fucking mess.

Nudie pics by email?

Where do you work? Downton Abbey?

Poor you, and you DO deserve a bit of sympathy! Anyone who gets snotty nosed or bitch here has obviously NEVER made a mistake in their lives.
Whatever it was that happened, you need to think of YOU first now. Did work follow proper procedures re: your sacking?
Self loathing and I are old friends - feels horrific, doesn't it? Willing to be a friendly ear (screen) if needed. xx

What would be your reason for telling this other man you have been sacked? You have already caused him enough trouble I suspect. Stay away from him and grow up.

Sympathy of course, with a huge dose of curiosity.

agree with FAB. you don't owe the other guy anything, he is just as guilty as you... there is no reason for you to pre-warn him, it won't change anything.

focus on your husband and what is going to happen from now on.

It was a mutual thing Fab.

I think perhaps I could contact him when he is back from holidays, before work, it would be the kindest thing to do.

No AIBU by stealth. Just feeling totally and utterly gutted at throwing away a good job through my own stupidity. I should have known better, everything good I have in my life I destroy.

Well kid, pick urself up, dust yerself down, remember this too will pass. Tell the other person if you think they can be sacked.

You have my sympathy.

Wish you'd tell us what ya did

Best of luck to you.

I think OP was just going to warn her colleague that what they did has caused her to be sacked. Who knows it was her that (possibly) caused him trouble?!

I stand corrected. Yes, both are at fault.

Whatever had happened. It is telling ops concern is for the om. Should you not be focusing on your husband. Leaving the om and his df alone?

Will you be able to get a reference?

I'd want to be warned before walking into the lions den. Who wouldn't?!

Picnic was right, although there was also making comments about a senior member of staff which is the "reason" although I know they have seen all communication IYKWIM?

Bloody hell, me and pretty much everyone I used to work with could have potentially been sacked over that one. I worked for a big company and my office was dreadful for swapped email jokes, gossip and flirting.

Is your workplace particularly strict? Had you received any kind of warning?

Oh... I see.

If you destroy everything good in your life it means you might need help to work out your issues - please consider a good counsellor .

Really sorry for you, there's more to this than just a cheap shag

Well, you're not the first to do this and you won't be the last. Learn from it and move on.

But don't spoil his holiday. Wait until he gets back, but give him a heads-up before he actually gets hauled into the boss's office.

Did you know emails were monitored? Human rights act article 8 covers right to privacy however if you sent email to wrong person etc it wasn't private, may be worth looking into.

Twas a couple of "jokey" comments that got me sacked, although with someone else, not OM, but I know they have transcript of every conversation, and have a feeling they have used jokey comments to save any further embarrassment.

What lauren said. If self destruction is a theme here, find out why.

Impossible to give any advice without knowing what did you do ?!

Laurie it wasn't about sex.