If your DP came home and said he had a private dance at a strip club....

[LilllyLovesLife]

What would your reaction be?

[AnyPhantomFucker]

yes, garlic, I read MF's posts and my eyes glazed over

where would you start with addressing them ?

I went and had a piece of cake instead

[ScareyFairenuff]

I have to say that it sounds to me like some of the posters here really want lap dancing to equal prostitution so they can feel more justified in disliking it

Paying another person for sexual gratification is prostitution

all the stories I have heard that aren't on campaigning websites are pretty clear that a private dance is merely a dance one on one that you pay for, almost always top off, sometimes a quick bottoms off

Precisely. This is the problem. The OP is not overly happy with her husband watching a naked woman dance for him in exchange for money.


I think also there is some double-thinking - it is OK for men to understand that women work, but not OK to treat lapdancers as people who are working.

I think the men who frequent lap dancing clubs very much think of the women as working girls.

If my bloke went into boots and started treating the counter staff as lovers I would think that was weird, yet people here get all uppity if men don't form some deep bond with women who are working and who, like them, are all hair teeth and sexual allure until the job is done and on to the next customer.

No they don't. I have not read one single post suggesting that these men should form a deep bond with lapdancers. I have read that some people think women in the sex industry are exploited. And no-one disputes that sex trafficking exists. What do you think happens to those poor girls?

humans are so weird about buying each other generally. I think humans generally accept that it's ok to hire a plumber or an accountant. It's just the buying of other humans for sexual gratification which is frowned on.