' babe, even my 7 year old thinks your sexi' internet dating - part 3.

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Whoa, I missed out today huh?! What went on?! All ok I hope?

I've had no emails today but have spent the day with Heathcliff and it was wonderful. Misunderstanding sorted, happy happy :D

Pleased you sorted it out Hairy

Ok people, can I just run this e-mail exchange by you a minute? This extremely gorgeous younger man wrote this to me:

Mmm...

Wow arent u a little ball of fire eh?

Very nice.. pity u are so far away...

do you come to london often?x

I replied:

Yeah sometimes. I have friends near the Southbank that I visit and I go to Reading (which is only a short train ride away) fairly often to visit family.

I've met your sort on here before though #*0#. Younger than me, good looking, bit flirty, and you're always trouble ;-)

His reply:

haha! best kind of trouble.... ;)

I am drawn to older women i admit... get on much better with them.

Lets arrange something, i think we'll have fun xx

This man is not interested in a meaningful relationship is he?

No... I think he just wants to ummm... y'know... :o

He gives the impression that he's not after a long term thing seen as he is calling you a 'little ball of fire' and saying'I think we'll have fun'. Doesn't mean that if you meet you won't get on so well that he will realise he wants a long term relationship but if your going to meet him I would just bear in mind that it might just be a fling that he wants no matter how well you get on

message on POF:

"I must admit, this profile was a bit different, i had fun reading it.

Witty! what else can you do? :)"

ignore you really should hide my profile!

I would have ignored him on 'mmmm' make. Definitely one thing :)

God this is frustrating.

Mr Body been texting/chattin online loads again and I mentioned that a friend had been quizzing me about how things had gone onour date. He wanted to know what my friend was asking so I said the truth that he was asking if we were going to see each other again. He then asked for my reply so I said that I had told my friend thAT THE DATE WENT WELL BUT THAT i THOUGHT HE HAD COLD FEET AS WE HADN'T ARRANGED ANYTHING ELSE OUT YET. He has now said his feet are lovely and warm and has asked if I am free Saturday as he is at a gig but can leave early. Have I pushed him into it?

Makeyourown, there are some lovely young men looking for sex with an older woman on these sites. In fact some are cheeky enough to ask in RL too!

Place marking on here. Nothing happening with me. I won't be internet dating until the man I ordered pops up in my inbox. (drums fingers).

No zany, I dont think you did. He didnt have to ask you to the gig, he could have just said, oh we will sort something out next week or something vague. Perhaps he did just want to be sure you were interested.

From what he said earlier he is helping to set the gig up but he was mentioning leaving early and then coming to see me. I told him I would have loved to but that I had just made other plans, he doesn't need to know that the other plans are a sleepover for 5, 10 year olds. lol He has now given me dates over the next couple of weeks as to when he is free so I am seeing him next weekend. Don't want him to think I am desperate to see him even though I am

Stop overthinking, he has given you a selection of dates = he likes you :)

I know I know. I'll stop overthinking now, well I'll think about not over thinking. Umm I'll definately think about thinking about not overthinking

this dating malarky doesnt have play havoc with the old thinking. I have been trying to go with the whole, take it as it is. Men for the most are fairly direct and logical (not meaning to be sexist, just my experience). Looking at it straight on, he wanted to be sure you were interested, you were busy, he offered more times. Therefore he is showing you he is interested and wants to see you again. Happy days!

Zanywany - love your ways with men :)

no harm doing it that way

as long as his feet are really lovely ;)

You're right stay. I think generally we guys are fairly simple creatures. It has been said (but not by me of course!) that so long as our stomachs are full and our balls are empty we're happy. It's when women try to read too much into things and do the whole "what if" that it falls over. zany, I think this guy is interested and wants to get to know you better and spend some time with you, but at the same time he has a life to live so perhaps just be yourself, let him be himself, and see what happens?

Lordy, I overthink everything, I analyse everything BUT in my defense, I am a student of Psychology and we do a lot on social processes and behaviours etc.

However, I have ruined relationships (or potential relationships) by my actions and I start to recognise what I'm doing and try and stop, although not often successfully! I totally get where you're coming from Zany, totally, I'd be the same!

Heathcliff studied Psychology, and he is highly intelligent, I am comfortable to explain to him my 'warped' behaviours in which he finds fascinating but a little frustrating, but I'm getting better, I just keep telling myself, most men are straightforward and aren't 'snidey' or 'calculating' etc.

For all you over thinkers

WOMAN?S DIARY

28 July 2007 Saturday

Saw him in the evening and he was acting really strangely.

I?d been shopping in the afternoon with the girls
and was a bit late meeting him. I thought it might be that.

The bar was really crowded and loud,
so I suggested we go somewhere quieter to talk.

He was still very subdued and distracted
so I suggested we went somewhere nice to eat.

All through dinner he just didn?t seem himself

• he hardly laughed and didn?t seem to be

paying any attention to me or to what I was saying, I just knew that something was wrong.

He dropped me back home and I wondered
if he was going to come in.
He hesitated but followed.

I asked him what was wrong,
but he just half shook his head and turned the television on.

After about ten minutes of silence I said that I was going upstairs to bed.
I put my arms around him and told him that I loved him deeply.
He just gave a sigh and a sad sort of smile.

He didn?t follow me up immediately but came up later and,
to my surprise, we made love

• but he still seemed distant and a bit cold.

I cried myself to sleep.
I think he?s planning to leave me.
Maybe he?s found someone else.

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MAN?S DIARY

Saturday 28 July

United lost.

Gutted.

Got a shag though.

Perfect Time, absolutely perfect :D

time - that is really good :)

hairy - glad its all sorted, so, im guessing things are going well then?

zany - yay!!! brilliant :)

So, Mr Guitar player works at the same trust i used to work for, and is actually on training today. I used to work in the training dept, so i called in a favor from a friend, and got her to check him out. Firstly, everything he has said in reagrds to work is true ( he doenst know i used to work there, so at least i know hes not bullshitting... )
and then she text me this morning, and i quote ' seriously he is very hot. He looks like he is in a rock band or something, you will LOVE him. Wear nice pants!!!!!!!!!'

:)

We are meeting at 8. im excited!

Nice one Watch getting your friend to vet him, where are you going on your date, do you know what your wearing yet.

Time I love it and I think it sums up most men and women brilliantly.

Poppa had to laugh at stomach full and balls empty - so have you met any lovely ladies yet, apart from talking to us of course.

I definately over analyse things but I'm pretty sure any guy I date or are in a relationship with wouldn't know as I try sometimes successfully to act casual so that I don't scare them off, sometimes backfires though and I get marriage proposals when not expecting it. lol

Ooo Watch! He sounds right up my street! Good luck, bet you're well excited, I'm excited for you. I love hot men, especially ones who play guitar and are scruffy, yum!

No

Oh my. I despair. I have just received a message from 'a differant guy' on Smooch, asking me if we can chat. Please take a look at his profile fellow daters and tell me what you think.

hairy - sounds like we have similar taste then.
Scruffy men, with facial hair, and long dark hair. Add some tattoos and maybe a piercing or two. and then the guitar and im pretty much in heaven.

erm, we are going to the pub. I shall wear jeans. Biker boots, some kind of booby top :)

I was on msn early yesterday evening, and he popped up, but i said i had to go as i was going out ( and he again asked if i was free for a quick phone call, but i said i wasnt)
i wasnt actually going out at all.. just had to pick DD up from rainbows then had a date with my sofa and some tv :) but he didnt need to know that.

Anyway, he was telling me about the time he toured europe with this metal band. Hes bringing pictures. Of course i was all cool about it, but inside i was like ' wooooohooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!'

becuse i am a shallow groupie type person :)