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' babe, even my 7 year old thinks your sexi' internet dating - part 3.

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watchoutforthatsnail · 05/10/2011 13:14

started.

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Hatesponge · 06/10/2011 21:50

Am sure I read something once that the tipping point with cats is 4 Grin

I am truly fed up with POF and Smooch. POF I hardly get any messages (and the ones I do are from the seriously odd). Smooch I get a fair few, but they fall into one of 3 categories

'are you busy, do you want to chat?'
'you're beautiful do you want to chat?'
'how are you, do you want to chat?'

every single one of which I delete and ignore. Haven't had one message yet worth responding to.

Honestly I don't expect to meet my true love. I would be quite happy right now to meet someone I fancied a bit, who could string a sentence together. I can't even find someone I actually want to send a single email to.

Is it me? Confused

lubeybooby · 06/10/2011 21:54

Hatesponge I think I feel the same at the moment actually!

TimeForMeIsFree · 06/10/2011 22:03

No hate tis not you, it is just not your time. One day your Prince will turn up, you just have to have patience and standards and enjoy your life while you are waiting, cos once you do meet him then things will change dramatically and you will be posting threads in relationships moaning about his farting, leaving skiddy undies on the bedroom floor and how he dribbles gravy down his chin when he's eating, so enjoy your freedom while you have it! Grin

ChaoticAngelofSamhain · 06/10/2011 22:20

With any luck we all will Grin

I have to admit to being in two minds atm myself but it's been cold and rainy today and that just makes me want to stay in and not go anywhere.

Zanywany · 06/10/2011 22:21

Knowing my luck if I was to bump into Prince Charming in the cucumber aisle in Asda I would be so busy thinking of what food i need, when to take the dog a walk, what to cook for dinner that I wouldn't notice him Grin

Hatesponge · 06/10/2011 22:25

lubey am glad it's not just me!

time I know the grass isn't always greener, honestly I had an awful relationship with my Ex and I would never ever want to feel as miserable and alone as I did then - I never have felt quite that bad since, however low I've got as a singleton. But (and there's always a but!) I've been on my own now for nearly 3 years, I haven't had a single date in 18 months.

I do have a very busy life, job, friends, my boys etc, I like my life (most of the time anyway, possibly not when I'm cleaning muddy football boots!). I just can't help wondering sometimes how long I will have to wait simply to find a man I can even go on a couple of dates with, let alone anything more! I remember friends saying to me this time last yr Oh of course you won't be single in a year. and lo and behold I am... maybe I should just get 4 cats and have done with it! Grin

lubeybooby · 06/10/2011 22:26

I keep meaning to print a load of stickers that say 'for rectal use only' and put them on all the cucumbers and various other amusing items in the supermarket. But I digress...

I want a date. I like dating. It gives me something to do other than working, being a mum and a catlady. BUT I need auto idiot sifter software so I don't have to do it myself and keep sneering at the screen... or a friend to check my mail for me and point out any that conform to my standards :o

TimeForMeIsFree · 06/10/2011 22:30

Oh you would Zany food would be the last thing on your mind if you had your Prince Charming in front of you! Grin

I think the trouble with dating sites is they cause you to focus on pulling someone, you concentrate on the job in hand but, the only material you have to work with so to speak, are those guys who are registered at the time. Maybe we will meet The One on a dating site but what are the chances of him being registered at the same time as us? There are millions of men out there in the real wide world, and that is where we need to be as much as is feasibly possible. This sitting in front of a computer screen is very time consuming and meanwhile, Mr Wonderful could be in the cucumber aisle in Asda or even out walking his dog!!!

I'm thinking of getting a cat too. And some Whole Nut.

TimeForMeIsFree · 06/10/2011 22:33

X posts Lubey and Hate.

I get where you are coming from, I really do. I go through phases of feeling the same. It's Christmas and New Years Eve in my mind at the moment, making me want some male company. I do keep reminding myself that a man is for life and not just for Christmas but it doesn't take away the longing......!

We just can't force these things, unfortunately. Doesn't make it any easier I know.

lubeybooby · 06/10/2011 22:42

Time at least one cat is essential for a single woman. Fact. They have many uses. I have two cuddled up on my lap at the moment and it's lovely and warm and I've got a numb arse. I also blame ANY weird noise in the night on them.

Right there with you on the Whole Nut, but I really am getting annoyed now with calories. WHY do there have to be so damned many of them in all the food I like? ffs.

I'm also thinking of xmas and new year. My DD will be with her dad and it will be my 5th just me and the cats without male company, if I don't meet anyone. last year me and the ex spent it apart because I felt it was too soon for him to meet my DD. part of me wishes we had just gone for it now. Oh well. I don't just want one for the festive season... I'd like it to be the first of many festive seasons!

Oh well, no doubt they will be like buses again. Nothing for ages then five at once like the recent influx and slow elimination of them all

Hatesponge · 06/10/2011 22:44

I can't even have chocolate Envy Stupid diet!

The best looking bloke I know (and he's not just looks he has a great personality too) is now on POF, so is clearly also still single. Sadly he has no interest in me, I'm still not enough of a WAG/TOWIE type even though I'm a lot thinner than I was when he last saw me. Hadn't thought about him for ages til he popped up on a search on there the other day. Think maybe that's why I'm feeling worse. If my life were a film he would've messaged me, been dazzled by my weight loss and we would have lived happily ever after Grin

TimeForMeIsFree · 06/10/2011 22:53

Lubey DD and I would love a cat and as soon as we are able we are off in search of one from the rescue place. I have this thought that it will be really good company for me when DD is at her dads so it's for me really. Agree with you re the calories but if you have the chocolate for tea/lunch instead of 'proper' food, then it's not so bad Wink

It's a shame we don't all live closer together then we would have got together for nights out over Christmas and New Year!

Hate If he has no interest in you then he is a tosser not the man for you. You are gorgeous, don't you dare go changing for any man! That's one of the things I love about being single, the feeling of liberation of having a wobbly belly, eating chocolate, closing the curtains and slobbing out relaxing as soon as it drops dark. No bloke to hold it all in for Wink

I think we need a plan B. Something to create a diversion from the internet dating. Ideas on a Whole Nut wrapper only please!

PoppaRob · 06/10/2011 22:56

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lubeybooby · 06/10/2011 22:59

Well for me it's going to be cleaning. I've been MNing studying and working so much my house has exploded with crap that needs doing. Hmmm.. won't take that long though... maybe i can eke it out long enough for Mr Perfect to show up? Or shall i do something practical like take up running again...

TimeForMeIsFree · 06/10/2011 23:00

Ahh, I was just thinking about you PoppaRob, hope all is well with you Smile

I need to sleep now so am logging off, catch you all tomorrow! Smile x

Zanywany · 06/10/2011 23:01

I am already dreading Xmas this year, again I don't need a man but I want one to shop with and to then go for a drink after hours of shopping, to go to Xmas do's with and to watch cheesy movies with on the sofa.

I am often put with the dog and see quite afew good looking guys whilst I'm out with there dogs but realistically I am probably with my kids and what do you say when your dogs are sniffing each other 'Hi you look hot are you single' Grin

Zanywany · 06/10/2011 23:24

I'm even out with the dog Grin

lubeybooby · 06/10/2011 23:31

God, zany I used to be so brimming with confidence that I would say things like that. I'd tell men they were hot, ask for their number, give out mine, buy one a drink, flirt outrageously... It got me a couple of dates a few snogs and a boyfriend. Those days are loooooooooong gone though :o

Zanywany · 06/10/2011 23:47

I was never that confident although a friend of mine is. We will be out and she will go up to a guy and give him her number while I am sitting there open mouthed. But she has men falling over backwards to date her. I personally couldn't do with the rejection. The same friend encouraged me to ask out a guy who I had known for years a couple of years ago, I did and he responded positively but then never contacted me. He then avoided me in my eyes at social occasions for the next year. Admittadly on the last get together I spoke to him about it after a few wines and I ended up back at his for a snog. My point is, and I should listen to my own advice, that rejection doesn't always mean they don't fancy/like you

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watchoutforthatsnail · 06/10/2011 23:49

Haven't read ( Will do tomorrow)
But wanted to update.

He's really tall. And does not stop talking. And I get the impression he likes the sound of his own voice!!!

He's not half as good looking as I thought..and I'm.not sure if I fancy him or not.

Saying that, he was nice company and seems a nice guy.he said he would catch up with me in a few days ( which means nothing )

If he asks I'd see him again. But if he doesn't I'm.not fussed.
So, not blown away at all. Which is disappointing and I definatley don't think he's the one for me at all.

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HairyGrotter · 06/10/2011 23:59

Aww no :( Glad you went, glad you had a good time, but these things happen, chemistry doesn't always translate from online to RL...!!

DAMN IT, I WAS HOPING YOU'D FALLEN MADLY IN LOVE AND HAD EPIC SEX AGAIN

lubeybooby · 07/10/2011 00:05

Awww watch. Oh well... NEXT! well... ish anyway....

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watchoutforthatsnail · 07/10/2011 00:05

To be fair. I don't think ill have sex quite like that again. Because it really was epic!!!!
Damn him for not wanting to do it again.... Or maybe he just didn't want more rooms broken!!!

Yeah, no fireworks. Not even a little flicker, and realky too wrapped up in himself for me.
( and badly receeding hair)

Nevermind.
I won't be waiting for a call.. :)

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Zanywany · 07/10/2011 00:07

Glad you had a good time Watch but shame he didn't live up to your expectations. Are grower maybe?

I have been exchanging emails with a really hot guy on cupid the last couple of days - he seems too perfect for words [speachless]

HairyGrotter · 07/10/2011 00:53

Ooo Zany, tell us more!

What does he look like?!