Happy birthday BIG BUTTONS!!!!!!
Somatic memory. Why we get ill when we don't express our true emotions. Especially anger/rage.
There are some free pages of Adam Jukes' book, "why men batter women", on amazon.
He describes the scenario of a group of French women on a train, and poses the question, are women mute, or are abusive men deaf? He describes...and we will ALL recognise this scenario, the freedom, energy, and enthusiasm, of a group of girls on an adventure together, whether it's a hen night, or as in this instance, a holiday adventure together.
He acknowledged that he didn't understand them because they were speaking French, and he also understood that, even if he did, a presence of a man, any man, would change the language of the women, and dull their joie de vivre.
I have seen this happen SOOOOOOOO many times in my life, in so many different ways...Have you?
I am also reading "the drama of the gifted child" by Alice Miller, which is a take on the inner child stuff. She says, that if we do not mourn the original pain and grief, we will seek it out over and over and over. Like those of us who go from one abuser to the next and can't quite seem to see it.
I have also earned some money and done paperwork, sorted the kids, allowed ds to "experiment" in the kitchen, argued the toss about why he really SHOULD do his washing up after said experiment, took DD to choir, faced the snot bags who refuse to speak, and am still trying to work out what in god's name is wrong with those horrid, horrid women, (woman?) on that other thread.
SHE RA...SHE RA....PRINCESS OF POWER!!!!!