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What should I do?

244 replies

babypusher7 · 24/09/2011 16:25

Im posting on here because Im at a place I dont want to be and need some advice

My oh making me so unhappy,I just dont feel anything anymore,he checks my phone all the time,he puts me down in front of people,takes money from me,things are really bad and getting worse latley,the thing is Im pregnant and I told him he went nuts,he kickes off at the little things a cupple of weeks ago I left the light on and he really kicked off big time,I rang the police but they let him go the next morning so he took it out on me.

I sometimes feel like most of its my fault and if I could try harder to please him it wouldnt happen,but the more I try the worse he gets

can anyone offer advice on what to do ? x

OP posts:
catherinea1971 · 26/09/2011 15:17

I know it's seems long, I'm sure they will be there really soon.

babypusher · 26/09/2011 15:17

there here x

HerHissyness · 26/09/2011 15:17

love, you can do this and you will do.

Did you know that often on average it takes a woman between 7 or eight attempts to leave before she succeeds?

It's not easy, no-one said it would be, it IS hard, but you know you have to do it. deep breath and GO.

Do we take it from your last message that you HAVE called the police? If that is so, you rock lady! well done!

come back and post whenever you can?

Hugs from me

kat2504 · 26/09/2011 15:17

It seems long but it's only been a couple of minutes. It will be over very soon. If they take too long ring again. If he gets back make sure that window stays unlocked so you can escape through it with the DS.

kat2504 · 26/09/2011 15:18

Good luck :) Am so happy that they have come for you.

phineasnigellus · 26/09/2011 15:21

Good luck baby, I know you can do it, we're all here to support you, don't let them leave you there, you really are so strong, you can do this xx

ShoutyHamster · 26/09/2011 15:23

You can do it.

Go with the police and don't come back.

Tell them everything and take their advice on what to do next.

You'll be safe tonight xx

CactusRash · 26/09/2011 15:27

Fantastic, you've done it!

Tonight you will be safe and your child will be safe too xx

SanctiMoanyArse · 26/09/2011 15:27

So pleased you did it (said I'd be quick!)

You are a fabulous person to ahve done that you know? Deep down you have wonderful resources that will elad you and your chiodlren to an amazing life.

Take care

SanctiMoanyArse · 26/09/2011 15:28

(If you can't say what he did, show them this thread)

honeyandsalt · 26/09/2011 15:37

No-one hates you! Well done for calling the police. I know it's so hard but you must tell them what has been going on, you HAVE TO get out.

KatieScarlett2833 · 26/09/2011 15:47

Well done baby.

butterflyexperience · 26/09/2011 15:50

I have just read this thread.

If you are in Nottingham I may know someone that can help you who works in helping victims of domestic violence in the council.

Please let me know if you are in nottingham

Your are a brave lady and well done for getting away from this monster

kat2504 · 26/09/2011 15:57

Wherever you are, when you are next able to get internet access we will all be here to give you support on the next stage of your journey. If you want to let us know what area you are in perhaps someone like butterfly can help put you in touch with real life help.

But nothing will ever be as hard as what you have achieved today. You have done the very very hardest and scariest bit and whatever obstacles come in your way next, you must look back on today and be massively proud of yourself. You have been totally brave and amazing. Your children are lucky to have such a strong person as their mum. Again, very very well done. I can't begin to imagine the nightmare you have been living in.

purplepidjinawoollytangle · 26/09/2011 16:45

Stay strong

NettleTea · 26/09/2011 17:18

so proud of you. xxx

Tcanny · 26/09/2011 18:54

Have just read this thread and have tears in my eyes. babypusher please let us know how you are when you get a chance.

I pray you have got away safely and can rebuild a new life. Plenty of us here on mn are thinking of you. And we dont hate you, rather we love you as a person and fear for your safety.

Good luck and may you find a happy tommorrow

jenniec79 · 26/09/2011 19:12

Baby you just brought me to tears with two words in your last post Grin

Remember you are a strong woman, the bravest on this whole site today imo, and your DC's are lucky to have you to look out for them.

Stay Safe
Stay Strong
Stay in touch.

Chrononaut · 26/09/2011 19:49

please stay safe baby, tell the police everything, they will help you and keep you safe.

do this for you, do it for your children too! you deserve better!
stay strong and stay focused!

inatrance · 26/09/2011 22:35

You are an incredibly brave lady, thinking about you this evening, hoping you are now safe and sending much love and strength.

IWantWine · 26/09/2011 23:56

I couldnt go to bed without checking. Praying you and your child are safe....

kat2504 · 27/09/2011 08:45

I am thinking of you this morning and hoping that you are in a safe place.

Lemonylemon · 27/09/2011 09:21

My God, OP - you are one brave lady. All the strength in the world to you xx

ShoutyHamster · 27/09/2011 10:10

OP, hope you are now safe - let us know if you can, we are all thinking of you.

phineasnigellus · 27/09/2011 11:20

Been thinking about you since yesterday, hope you are well, please let us know when you can, sending you lots of strength, stay safe and well done you brave lady x