The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Here's To STAYING On A Sober Holiday!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

I have an abusive and volatile relationship with alcohol.

This is the Brave Babes Bus, it's filled with sober, drinking and somewhere in between Babes who are all here for the journey ahead, whatever that may entail.

EVERYONE is welcome on this Bus. No-one will judge what you are going through, what you drink, what you don't or what you do.

Come take a seat.

Take a peek at the journeys so far (including the thread by JWN that started this whole journey off) HERE

I think a lot of relationships founder when the problem drinker finds sobriety - for the reasons you describe inde, the change in roles is too much. I'm not saying that will happen just that there must be lots of people out there that can empathise with that. I know my family relationships are having their foundations shaken a bit so I can only imagine it would be worse if I was with someone.

I am BOINGY today - more so than ever I think. I have only voluntary commitments today and tomorrow, no-one would know if I drank, and I really don't want to. I want to be a useful human being (more baking, friends to see) and work on my sobriety (meetings and stuff) and be nice to myself. Did I just say that? I said to my sponsor this morning "I think this is progress" and got answered with the most forceful I have ever heard her "damn right it is!!!" I think others see it in us far sooner than we do ourselves - which is maybe why the ground is moving in my relationships and friendships and the same for inde and others. Right, off to make cinder toffee and rescue the latest cake creation, enough philosophising.

legal i would grease if I were you.
I made the courgette ones yesterday, and they were quite sticky! But delicious.

legal I use paper cases inside the muffin tin. Spotty ones!!!

Ma Dh still under the weather, better than under me .

Ooh, how rude, I've obviously cheered up!

Morning brave babes:) Haven't had chance to read through properly but at first glance it looks like thread has been busy!

lol thurso your mood is obviously getting better as the day progresses.

Where is that mouse promises bacon rolls and cake, so that we are all here nice and early, and then doesn't arrive with said treats and baked goods!

What cheese normally tempts her out?

Seriously now,

Indie looking at your post. I think that the dynamics of a relationship change a lot, when one or other of you makes a change. I too, used to try and be Superwoman, and felt that what I did was so bad that nothing Dh said, or did, was as terrible as what I was doing, not enough for me to to challenge, or disagree with.
Now, with long periods of not feeling so bad about myself, I am stronger in myself, and more likely to feel that I have a valid contribution to make.

I don't know if that makes sense .

MOUSE we are on page 40!!!!

x posted with half the world but glad thurso appeared, it was you I was thinking of.

legalalien grease them
Mouse we need a new thread, I got well and truly told off the one time I did it so I won't make that error again!!

Xh was being a twat difficult again but hopefully things will get better. He accused me of lying about something that was a genuine mistake last week and so have now cleared things up and I guess that is why he has been the way he is. Very frustrating a I am a very honest person who even tells shop staff if they give me too much change back. ANyway onwards and upwards, feel good this morning as I didn't drink a whole bottle last night for the first time in a while. Planning a camping trip this weekend with just me and the DC's.

Isinde I am going to be a bit of a meanie here so brace yourself

I suggested that I could have the ocassional glass fo wine at some point in the future

Do you really think you could have an occasional glass of wine? From what you have said in your posts, that one glass wouldn't even touch the sides. It would open up a thirst for the whole bottle or two. I think your DP knows that as well as you and that's why she went mad.

Also, you are projecting and making it harder for yourself.

OK, it's over, you can open your eyes now

Mouse, your poor mother-in-law, how frightened she must be .
Isindie, can empathise with the pressure of sole breadwinner (lone parent), can't offer relationship advice because it has been a helluva long time since I was in one!

Just had a call from DH, they have looked at the sweet little house that I found last night, and have beaten everyone else off with sticks, had an offer accepted (an offer of rent, we can't buy houses for the Dc in London, sadly!!!!), yaaay.

Now, does anyone know where to get second hand furniture in London?, delivered, and cheap!!

Yaaaay to finding a house to rent for DS Thurso :)

you might want to consider spending £ on renting a van or man and van for a day and see what furniture you can find on freecycle. People give all manner of good quality stuff away for free here in London...

I want to move to London

New thread on it's way......... back in a mo xxxxx

Thank you obrigada and legal
I have just had another call from Dh, to say that the landlord is going to furnish it! I just can't believe that I have been so lucky.

Also, I have been thinking....I know you don't like praise Venus, but here I go!, you are a real inspiration, and such a lovely lady. You made the right choice last night, and I really applaud you for it. You may not have been the life and soul of the evening if you had had a drink, you may have staggered around gushing, and being loud, you may have woken up this morning full of remorse and shame, and wondering if you had ruined all your chances. You didn't. Even though you thought about, afterwards, you didn't. Big hugs lady xxxx

P.s are you making your moussaka Venus?, can I have it all some?!

PHEW! Mouse .

HERE IS THE NEW THREAD!!!!!!!! SO SUPER SORRY!!!!!!

Could I possibly be last on this thread AND first on the next