The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Here's To STAYING On A Sober Holiday!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

I have an abusive and volatile relationship with alcohol.

This is the Brave Babes Bus, it's filled with sober, drinking and somewhere in between Babes who are all here for the journey ahead, whatever that may entail.

EVERYONE is welcome on this Bus. No-one will judge what you are going through, what you drink, what you don't or what you do.

Come take a seat.

Take a peek at the journeys so far (including the thread by JWN that started this whole journey off) HERE

yes, keep writing venus = i find myself chanting H, A, L, T each time I head towards the fridge with bad intent, so it's doing some good!

Well done theBoM -not sure that I'm going to be able to stop thinking of you as "Wanna.." though! Hope you are feeling physically better today.

SaF - am liking the lift analogy. I always think of depression as a bit like being sucked into a giant whirlpool, somehow the lift thing makes it seem a lot more controllable - will try and hold that thought.

I am not going to drink today, although it will be a difficult evening as DS' friend is coming for a sleepover and I can confidently predict a lot of mucking around at bedtime!

Don't mean to sound obtuse SAF, but in the analogy is the idea that you try to raise the floor you are on and that if legal hadn't chose to respond the way she did that she would have gone down to a lower floor - aaaagh don't even know if I am expressing myself right

Act rather than react SAF?

Not waffling SAF, giving me plenty of food for thought!

Marking my place too. Three children aged five and under, so am more a reader than a supportive poster.

Trying to break the habit of a bottle of wine (or more) a night, which I started slipping back into after last baby.

morning!! sending out a cosmic BOIIIIIIIIIIINNNNG! to anyone who feels the need!

sorry, as usual im too busy to hang around for long sending you all lots of love though!

see you later babes!!

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Hi MissP hopping on. I don't post that often, but this thread has helped me to keep my sobriety in focus. I haven't imbibed for over a year and my life, relationships and health are all so much better. Anybody struggling out there, I would urge you to keep going, it's all good. I know how hard it can be believe me, but what ever shit life throws at us, a clear head, energy and a positive attitude is a good place to start dealing with it, alcohol will steal the lot. You are worth the effort. You deserve the rewards. x

HI I'm Zany and I'm trying (sometimes sucessfully) to cut down on drinking in the week. NOt always able to do that but am am definately drinking alot less at the weekend - small steps

My DC's are with their Dad until Saturday and I have to admit I am enjoying the peace and freedom although missing them and worrying that they are unhappy. Also very [happy] as I weighed myself this morning and I have lost 6lbs.

Things quite 'complicated' in the relationship area at the moment. Split from DP last month but have kept in touch as friends but he made it quite clear last night that he still loves me and wants to make a go of things. Added to the mix I have been in contact with my XP from last year who I went out with/lived with for a few years. I loved him to bits but he could be emotionally abusive which obviously made me unhappy. He seems to be a changed man these days and says he realises why he lost me and that he finally realises how badly he treated me. I have made it clear that at the moment I only want to be friends and see is he really is different/changed. Am happy being on my own and spending time with my DC's and friends at the moment and will see what the future brings.

Sorry for the long post

Am slowly working my way through earlier threads, and have to agree that venus's screeds rock. keep them up!

Fil is a little bit better but still in hospital. Dh has talked to mil, and they have decided to delay dh visiting for a week or so, sil is there now, and fil's brother is heading there next week. So we are still going to the beach for a sober and dd focused weekend.

Love the elevator analogy, am just hoping I've got off on a floor above smog level.

Confession time for me - am halfway through a very weak g&t - nit pleased with myself but seemed a better option than opening a bottle of wine which I'd then finish. Caused by being lonely,tired and the need to summon up enough energy to be an entertaining host - which could of course have been achieved by other means. No more tonight, though.

You're right. It's gone.

Well done Legal IMO there's no point in drinking a 'weak' anything anyway. Full strengh or nothing for me, today I am choosing nothing

The guests are 6 years old so I may not offer them alcohol . pyjamas,popcorn and DVD sorted. Just hope they go to sleep quickly so that I can follow suit.

Fwiw I really noticed the effect of the half a weak drink. Normally I would notice something - I reckon two glasses of wine would knock me senseless. Some weird metabolic stuff going on....

Obv that should have said "would notice nothing..."