The Brave Babes Battle Bus - We're All Going On A Sober Holiday!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babe's Bus. This is a bus full of drinkers old and new, sober and not, and those who are somewhere in between.

We are all at different levels of sober so you can bet that one of us has walked in your shoes.

If you want advice and support then you're in the right place.

Come take a seat or just lurk, we're happy to have you along for the ride.

And here is a link to the last thread so you can catch up on the journey so far HERE

morning babes!!

well, in my book day one is the best place to start! - i have learnt over the last year that absloutly nothing is made better by alcohol - simple as! life is still tough at times, you get shit land on your plans, people still do things you dont like, you can still be lonely but at least you arnt killing yourself, your mind becomes clearer, the anxiety lifts and above all, YOU COPE!! we all have so many 'reasons' to drink but the one and only reason to stop is that WE deserve better! WE are worth the effort!!

Very true Jesus

Right going to battle the Next sale before I take the hound out

Hi Babes
Just popping in to say hi !
I left the bus mainly because I felt it just wasnt for me -I really found MIFLAWs posting style difficult.
Im afraid I really disliked being what I perceived as being yelled at for example -" Dont project!"
No introduction ie Hi Lostsock -just words thrown at me.
Im not in denial - I know what my problems are and only I can tackle them.
Which I am doing on a daily basis and I am doing fine
I really wanted to find a safe place ,where I could just express how I feel .
Hope you are all ok xx

Hi lostsock

Hello also to MsGee Munky & silent what is it about Friday nights eh? I just about managed to not drink but it's a hard habit to break.

I have got a song going round in my head - "I'm doing fine no-ow, without you ba-aby". Seems apt.

Congrats merlin

i dont get it really lostsock - miflaw is one of MANY posters on here, if you dont like his style, ignore it!

im sorry but im getting really pissed off with posters who come and here and then whine when they find out its not a fucking garden party!

this IS a supportive thread, no one is judged and we are all free to take the advice that suits us and leave the rest! - im quite sure that there are many posters who find my style pretty irritating, thats life, what they are committed to is getting sober, thats the important thing here, not individual 'posting sytle'!

Blimey, this is a garden party compared with AIBU!

I think JWN is right, everyone comments in their own way and it is up to the reader to take it or leave it. But what we do get here is a truly supportive community. It works for me

I agree, Jesus. There are all sorts of dynamics on this Bus, from real-life-meeting-up friendships to one off posters, but at it's most basic, it's just a means to an end. We all posted initially because our drinking was causing us some degree of difficulty, but all this can offer is a range of possible ideas that we can take away.

I don't think MiFlAW posts from anything other than the position of taking a first post here at face value as a request for help, and responding to that in his own way. He's not a custodian . I've never found him to be aggressive, but if you don't like his style, then just 'talk' to others on here with whom you feel more of a rapport.

Sorry, I don't like contributing to any kind of divisiveness, but it just jars when this seems to recur again and again.

Hi lostsock. I've not been on the threads much of late so may have missed you when you joined. Nice to 'meet' you.

Oops - silent I missed your post about getting the counselling set up - great news! Hope it works well for you.

@ lostsock

Agree with Jesus (which is just SO weird to type)

lostsock - you had plenty of nice posts welcoming you, I was one of the posters who said hello. Posters are never ignored or shouted at. The phrase 'Don't Project' has saved many a poster from getting themselves so wound up about a situation, that they spiral out of control and end up drinking anyway when they really didn't thought they would.

If that phrase doesn't work for you, that's fair enough but the tone of your post made it sound as though we are all screaming banshees, raging about not drinking, getting a grip etc.

We are all so very different. Some days it's busy on here and you might get swept along with the flow of the thread and not noticed at first but NOT ONE of the posters here would be ignored so I'm not so sure why you think this thread isn't for you?

Other than MIFLAW being blunt and actually, right about most poster's drinking habits, I can't understand what is missing for you.

I'm sorry you feel that way.

Silent - YAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAY for counselling! Well done you.

*think, not thought they would.

ohh mouse - believe me, i can do screaming banshee when i want too!

actually, i feel like throwing a tantrum right now!, im in the bloody fucking sodding office and the party tonight is cancelled and im going to have to work tomorrow too and and.....

stomps off!

I posted how I felt about MIFLAWs posts - noone elses posts.

Because you were all so welcoming I thought I should be honest and post why I left.
Im feeling pretty emotionally fragile right now - im not drinking and so I have to face the reasons why I did .
Im sorry if I have upset anyone - not my intention at all .

bye x

Lostsock I mostly read and rarely post on the thread but I find something helpful in much that I read, and what doesn't sit comfortably with me I 'park'. You sound like you might welcome some empathy - can we help you? And it is great that you are not drinking, whatever the reasons you might have drunk before. Real life can be difficult, challenging, scary - drinking really helps none of these get sorted or any easier. I hope that that has been your experience as you start to tackle the 'reasons'.

Well done on the not drinking lostsock even when feeling fed up.

Or should I say, especially when fed up.

What do all you Babes do to cheer yourselves up. I like to get out with the family. Or take some exercise. Or watch a movie.

sometimes like a large popcorn in the cinema

lostsock - sorry, I misunderstood your post to read you thought we had all ignored you when you said about 'no hi lostsock'

My most sincere apologies to you sweets.

Well done on not drinking, that in itself is a hard battle to face, especially if you are having to deal with other traumas in your life.

Please come back and say hi from time to time if you really do feel that you have to leave.

fair - I EAT CHEESE!!! And lots of it.

Doesn't surprise me with a name like yours Mouse

I too love it, love it, love it

Cheese & wine are totally to blame for my weight gain and as you can't have one without the other (imo) I have cut them both out of my life (mostly).

So, bring on the new superslim me. (I can dream can't I?)

Hey Mouse ! Thanks
MIFLAW Im sorry but the way you post is a"trigger" for me.

I have been EA and PA by my father - when you dont use my name and post so bluntly I just cannot cope.
Please all of you dont jump on me accusing me of saying MIFLAW is an abuser Im sure he isnt but I just cant cope with his style of posting.
Sorry MIFLAW this is my problem
Right now I am in bits .I cannot stop crying, I phoned my mum today (also EA -ongoing) she couldnt remember several words -I think she might have early dementia .My DB has also noticed this.
my heart is breaking

lostsock

Do you have any support? You sound so down! Please talk to us here. I know this is primarily a support threads for posters with alcohol issues, but we support each other emotionally too.

Are you drinking tonight lost? Talk to me x

HELLO (creeps back on board)........

I have lapsed somewhat!drinking tonight, and last night and 1night last week - NOT good. After about 13 days? (lost count) . THink I got a bit coomplacent and thought why not! No major drama's or issues. But do feel that i have let myself down.

btw i scored 6 on the test thingy lol

Would you say that anything triggered you to drink rus?

i am not sure to be honest - drink no 1 was after a hectic day at work, then obv fri/sat evening. I am not in any way drunk but still sipping my way through a lot of wine/lambrini!not a good idea.

Well, the hangover hit about lunchtime, felt like deep fried dog shite all afternoon. Crap afternoon shopping for christening gifts, what should have taken an hour took about 3!
I seriously contemplated a large glass when I got in to 'make me feel better' how fucked up is that? ..........but made tea instead.

Now got cup of tea in hand, Casualty on the box shortly and then off to bed for me, early start tomorrow, church and all that.

Glad Day 1 is nearly over.....it's always the worst.