It's happened again...

[rockyroadtoruin]

A month ago my DH came home drunk. he took a dislike to something I said and hit me. At the time he said I deserved it and called me some foul names but once he sobered up the next day he was very sorry for what he did and promised it was a one off.

I was in complete shock as he had never been violent before, plus we have a 2 year old DD and baby on the way who I have to think about so I forgave him. Maybe I am naive but I thought that would be the end of it.???

After work tonight he had two friends round, they had some drinks and we were all chatting and having a bit of a laugh. but when they left he snapped.
He shouted that I had made him look like a complete fool and I had been flirting with his friend. I tried asking what he was talking about but he said I disgust him.he told me to get away from him and pushed me backwards onto the chair

I don't know what to do. I don't think I can cope with two children on my own. Can I make him change? Will counselling help?

Rockly, I'm sorry for my last post - it was typed in frustration. Reading other people's posts about it taking several goes to finally leave made me realise your self esteem issues are like my weight issues. I lose weight only to end up back where I started. One day I will conquer food for good, and one day you will regain your self esteem.
As the others have said, please do keep posting if it helps.

Rocky, I'm sorry to hear you are going back. As others have said, it won't be long before he is behaving as normal- for him. His problems are deeply engrained and it would take years and years of counselling and complete dedication from him to change.

However, I know that you do need to do this in the way that is right for you. So when you go back just try to concentrate on getting yourself well. And make sure that you go out every day and do plenty of things for you.

Now you have seen the refuge and what WA can offer - if you do need to go back it won't be so scary a second time.

I really hope things work out for you, but you might like to have a (secret)plan b worked out (and saved for?) in case you decide that you do need to leave for good in future. A plan b will make you feel more secure and in control.

Best wishes Rocky. Thinking of you. Look after yourself x

Seven?

Rocky, please do keep coming back. Best of luck to you and your DD, I genuinely hope it all works out as you wish. Big hugs. x

You about Rocky. How's it going?

Hey Rocky - you still about? Is everything ok?

Rocky, I was heading off to bed when I read this thread. I am so so sorry. You poor love, you have been through so much.

I am sickened, truly revolted, by some of the postings here following the news that you are going back. "You have disappointed me" said someone for heaven's sake.

You have not returned to the thread but I am pretty confident that you will be reading the posts, feeling very sad and probably like you have been kicked to the curb as you did not follow the advise here.

My view is not important now as you have made your decision. I wish you all the best. Be brave girl. Thinking of you and DD and like everyone (despite some nastiness) I hope DH comes good.

Sleep tight
x

Beryl, handsomely done.

Rocky, haven't forgotten you; how's it going?