It's happened again...

[rockyroadtoruin]

A month ago my DH came home drunk. he took a dislike to something I said and hit me. At the time he said I deserved it and called me some foul names but once he sobered up the next day he was very sorry for what he did and promised it was a one off.

I was in complete shock as he had never been violent before, plus we have a 2 year old DD and baby on the way who I have to think about so I forgave him. Maybe I am naive but I thought that would be the end of it.???

After work tonight he had two friends round, they had some drinks and we were all chatting and having a bit of a laugh. but when they left he snapped.
He shouted that I had made him look like a complete fool and I had been flirting with his friend. I tried asking what he was talking about but he said I disgust him.he told me to get away from him and pushed me backwards onto the chair

I don't know what to do. I don't think I can cope with two children on my own. Can I make him change? Will counselling help?

Wow Rocky. You have been so brave and have come such a long way in a short time. Keep your eyes on a lovely future and dont look back. Still holding your hand x

Rocky I'm so glad to hear you are safe with your LOs. I hope people there are being helpful about the logistics you're facing, and I hope wonderful things begin to happen to you.
You're an inspiration, and I've got something in my eye too...

Rocky you are amazing (hug) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

vie just read the whole thread with my heart in my mouth. Just thrilled you are out. Well done, congratulations and best wishes.

Well done and best of luck to you in the future.

Only just seen this thread - so glad you got out, Rocky! Well done for doing it now before things got any worse. I hope you and your DD find somewhere safe to go and although it's probably not what you want to do, you might need to consider changing your job and DD's childcare because of course your stbex knows where they both are.
Good luck with it all.

Just read the whole thread. So, so proud of you. You are amazingly brave and such a good mum.

Rocky. Hi. I spoke to you at the beginning and I just wanted to say well done. You have done just brilliantly. When they are older your DC's will be so proud of what you did. Stay strong and keep going. You're amazing xxx

only just managed to catch up with this thread. So glad you and DD are safe. I have been there it will get easier. Once you are settled just think how lovely it will be to not dread going home or dread your H coming back and what sort of mood he will be in.

Glad you are safe Rocky

Glad you, DD and bump are safe.

Rocky - have been following your story and just delurking to say that though it might not always feel like it you have done an AMAZING thing for you and your DC'S. As someone who has got the tee-shirt with DV and emotional abuse I know that over the next little while you will probably have huge moments of self-doubt and more than one confidence crisis (especially as reality sinks in and the practicalities hit) but please, please stay strong because the freedom you will feel will be UNBELIEVABLE. Sometimes you don't realise how much of a shadow you have been living under until you step out of it . But thanks to your decision the future for you and dc's really is bright. :) Trust me :) :) :)

Rocky, i hope your ok. If you have had a wobble and gone back home dont be discouraged from posting on this thread. I know its probably hard for you to get online.

rocky you out there? Thinking of you and hoping everything is ok.

No i've not gone back to him but found out today I lost the baby
I'm trying to get my job relocated at the moment so I can move closer to my family because I don't think I can do this all on my own. H is being a twat (please excuse my language) and with that and the baby it's too much.

When will it all end??

Rocky, so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry rocky. You're doing so great. Honestly you are. Is there anything any of us MNers can do to help? X

Rocky, I am so sorry about the baby x

So sorry to hear that Rocky. Thinking of you and sending you hugs.

I'd echo what's been said above, let us know if there's anything we can do to help?

O sorry, rocky. Hang on in there.

i am horrified, that is one too many times for me. and you are pregnant too.....there is no forgiving that one. leave him or better still throw him out. if you are worried he will hit u again, call the police and tell them you feel threatened, u r pregas and that he has hit you in that condition. if anyelse had already written this my apologies...too many posts for me to read all the way through. dont be scared, you will cope, one of the things that hold us (women) back if fear but trust me, once u overcome the fear you wont even hesitate to throw him out and know you not alone.

HI rocky, sorry i hadnt seen all the new posts....no wonder its past midnight (time for bed) anyway...sorry to hear about baby.
I agree he is a t pardon me french.

Rocky - just seen you went back. Sorry to hear about the baby. You really do need to get away from him or nothing will change. What happened at the unit.

So sorry for your loss Rocky. I hope you manage to move close to your family and get the support you need.