Does anyone know of any single blokes in their 40's?

[katkitya]

Cos me and my mates are sick of staying in gossiping and drinking wine on a Friday night. Why does there seem to be more single women then men??

[hobbgoblin]

Somebody needs to actually match make here.

Are any of the availables in the SE? Will send photo to interested parties.

Come on everyone, be brave.

[WibblyBibble]

Thumbwitch: I have a Cambridge degree, but I'm afraid I'm not into 'watersports' ...

[hobbgoblin]

Watersports needs clarifying. This is mumsnet afterall.

[Pagwatch]

Ooh I have one.
Early 40s, charming and funny. Very kind. One previous marriage but no children. Big old six figure salary. Very romantic and generous and sweet. I love him. Very good friend of dh.

He always hooks up with terrible women. I keep telling him.

[ShirleyKnot]

Oh paggy. MINE

Haha. I'm grabbing them alllll.

I want hobgoblins one as well.

(I don't actually want one at all. I have committed myself to a life of celibacy and hobby craft)

[Pagwatch]

[thumbwitch]

heh. Watersports = rowing and sailing, nothing sordid, sorry!
Cambridge degree = good though...

[hobbgoblin]

We should do a Come Dine With Me style matching thing.

[lubeybooby]

Yes!!! someone matchmake meeee to one of these 'ere elusive decent blokes.

I'm in Leicestershire. Mum to one teen. 31 but age doesn't bother me as long as they are not younger than me (tried it, hated it, exdp was 55 and we got on like a house on fire) Hardworking, great cook, GSOH, loads of interests including hillwalking/countryside and fit in anywhere quite happily. 5ft 5, brunette, curvy. I'm kind and generous and generally lovely.

Go onnnn.....

[allegrageller]

interesting what pagwatch says about her lovely 40 something guy always dating awful women.

Do you think guys like that can change their spots enough to date a decent stable woman? Or are they 'bored' unless they are with an abusive cow??

[ChippyMinton]

shirley - do you not want mine? G'wan he's lovely!

[FabbyChic]

If there were single fellas in their forties you would find them with 25 year old girlfriends!

[MuthaHubbard]

hobb - sadly not, i live in the arse end of nowhere (formally known as south cumbria). this maybe why i am having no luck.

and yes, i am a little akin to Mr Hamster - i am small and occasionally unkempt in a windswept, lives by the sea type of way......but i'm hoping my fairly sized norkage makes up for this!!

(just to throw my keys in the bowl - i'm 37, house, job, 2 dcs and fairly normal)

[choux]

Hobgoblin.
he is mine (as long as your history with me won't come back to haunt me!?!)

I think you have to consider what you are looking for but also think about who you are going to appeal to. And time changes what you are looking for. I don't have a kids and a 2 years ago wanted to find someone with no kids as I thought that was 'baggage'. Now I have realised I probably won't have kids being around someone else's seems much more appealing.

Early to mid 40s is a tricky time dating wise. Lots of people are newly seperated getting used to the fact the relationship they thought was for life isn't. others are coming to terms with being a single parent, weekend dad, prospect of not having kids. Some men in their 40s will only date women of childbearing age as that give them the option of some/more kids. Dating sites let you rule out so many people you would get on with as they are too short, have kids, didn't go to uni, are left wing etc etc.

I think the best thing you can do is break out of your routine. You have to meet new people to meet a new man. Learn a new skill, get involved with your kid's school, get back into an activity you used to do and talk to everybody you meet. The men might appeal and the men and the women might know someone who would be perfect for you. Arrange to do something socially with these people and you will then get invitiations back eg have a bbq and you will probably get another 6 invites back over six months. then suddenly you have a social life and are meeting new people. Even if it doesn't lead to love you will be enjoying life.

[choux]

By the way I'm in London if anyone has a MN date for me. Size 12, attractive but developing wrinkles, educated, solvent, active, not much baggage. Looking for someone similar.

In return I could offer a 39 year old single man - acid humour, smart, ggod looking but quite short (5' 6 ish?) and doesn't want kids. Perhaps not the best person to be advertising on Mumsnet???

[chris123456]

Anyone really struggling you're welcome to me.

[Kewcumber]

two BIL's single in their late late 40's living together. - happy to pass on their contact detials to anyone

[Kewcumber]

doesm7n't want kids is fine provided they are prepared to put up with someones elses and come second to them quite a lot!

[hobbgoblin]

choux, what history?! Have we virtually online disagreed?

Come to dinner and bring your man, I'll bring mine...

[Kewcumber]

Ah Chris but if you were serious about that you would have a photo or two on your profile artfully staged... (and yes I checked )

[hobbgoblin]

me too Kew! Plus, why would we have to be really struggling chris? Do you have two heads and a third nipple?

[MuthaHubbard]

ha ha - i just did too Kew!!

[hobbgoblin]

Mutha, my ex husband is in Kendal. He is fed up looking for love. He has smaller feet than me though. He is lovely if a little bit drifty...

[MuthaHubbard]

is small feet a euphemism for something else!?

i'm only 5' 2" with size 5 feet.....surely he can't have feet smaller than me? mind you, i visions of you being petite, dark and rather foxy......whereas i am blonde and with a bit of extra padding

[eurochick]

I know one and...... get this he is desperate to settle down and have kids. He's also well educated and solvent.

However, one of my friends shagged him a while ago and says he has a tictac....