Does anyone know of any single blokes in their 40's?

[katkitya]

Cos me and my mates are sick of staying in gossiping and drinking wine on a Friday night. Why does there seem to be more single women then men??

I know one who is about to turn 40 this year. No kids, own very lovely dark thick hair, own teeth and car etc.

But lives with his mother.... which is probably why he is still single

i know one. well hes actually low fifties but v well preserved. grown up kids. own teeth hair house job car. lovely. and looking for forties lady friend. any takers? hes tried internet dating but even the nice ones turn out to be bonkers.

I know one. I've just been dating him but my heart belongs elsewhere...

He is tall, slim, dark, intelligent, has his children 50/50, well groomed, financially secure, very very kind and generous plus empathetic. Amaing head massages...

In the SE

I'm looking by the way to take my mind off the person I can't have and really shouldn't want. I need more of a rogue though.

hobbgoblin - if he wasn't so far away i'd happily road test.......can I be Richard Hammond though?

He does travel a lot Mutha. Are you anywhere near Halifax?

When you say Richard Hammond, do you mean you are small and unkempt?

I'm small, it wasn't a problem btw.

So we need some kind of clearing system, obviously. I know a couple of solvent, well educated, kind and thoughtful widowers who are off limits by virtue of having been married to good friends of mine. My standards are really low - solvent, no criminal record, able to use a semicolon, not an axe murderer. I'm clean, sensible and in possession of a 2007 Ford Focus. Why aren't men flocking to my door? I can trade my widowers for someone who meets my criteria and everyone's a winner.

No.

There aren't any. Well, not any you would touch with a barge pole

But there are loads of attractive, clever, funny, kind single woen of 40+. How does that work?

women

This is all very well on paper but we need to cover the bits nobody likes to talk about.

Such as:

Small arse/big arse
Large Norks/small norks
Gobshite/wallflower
Daily Mail/Telegraph/Guardian
Oxo Tower/Botanic Gardens
position on beautiful scale

And:
Beer belly/6 pack
Kojack/combover
Beery football fan/opera appreciator
builders bum/belgian buns
vanilla/chocolate ripple

I could go on.

I'm a 41yo single man. But my children live with me and, due to being made redundant, I'm currently quite poor. It's amazing how much those two things - the latter in particular - put women off. You can see it in this thread where "own car, own house, good job" are listed as selling points.

It will be interesting, if depressing, to see how much my apparent attractiveness increases when I start earning proper money again.

I'm in my 40s. Not going to want another man, probably EVER... so I donate MY share of the 'future-catch' to this thread....

It's that 'when given the choice' thing snorbs. I'm not a shallow person per se (the person I mention above has a medical condition that I had to take into consideration and this wasn't the reason I gave it up) but I have enough of my own struggles that I have to carefully consider what burdens I can bear in a new relationship.

If you are hung like a donkey the money will probably be swiftly forgotten

All the 40 year old in my neck of the woods look like they had a really long paper round! I'm 40 soon but don't want to date a guy who looks almost 50 and is ready for his pipe and slippers.

Snorbs I'd rather be with an honest man, who had good morals and treated me with respect, amongst other things than a man who had money but treated me with less respect and whom I didn't feel too comfortable with.
BTW, I have a reasonably long list of requirements myself, yet they don't include pots of money.
OTOH, I am not looking for a man who is so poor that he can't support himself or his DC.

The only men I ever meet are dullards. I got chatted up by one whose opening line was "alright love? You think you're a bit of alright don't you?"

He followed this up with a list of things he didn't like about me. I was like " er... You came over to ME you arsehole, I was just sitting here having a chuffing drink"

Damn it, I was hoping there would be a glut of nice divorced men when I got to 40s- early 30s now and all of them seem to be either perpetual teenagers who can't deal with women having kids before they are 35, or married. In fact, I'd settle for a 40s one now, provided not too balding... But my hopes are apparently dashed. :(

My brother is 49. Never married, no kids, but an absolutely adoring uncle so I know he would be great with kids. Own home, very intelligent, comfortably off.

I would love to see him settled with someone. He doesn't do dating sites or night clubs though - much more the opera and walks in the countryside sort of chap.

Snorbs, I would be absolutely delighted to meet a man who 1. had his kids living with him and 2. wasn't materialistic and a tory! Sorry you're not having much luck, but I'm sure you will find someone nicer in the end because of being a good man, rather than some rich twonk who left his kids living in poverty like some dads seem to- they might get daft model-type women, but bet you they don't get a lasting relationship.

agree with Wibbly, snorbs. If I were single I'd be more than happy to date a man with no money who wasn't obsessed with success and the rat race.

As it is I am with a penniless younger musician of all things. We are not all obsessed with men with cash :D

oh just remembered! I know a very nice bloke who is single, never married, no kids, own home, quite domesticated, very well off. Only trouble is he's a bit picky :(. He'd be a good catch for the right person though - his main criteria seem to be a good level of intelligence, education and social graces - sporting ability is a plus, especially water sports.
He's a great friend and a good uncle.

Hmmm. So from what a few have said here about the great single men they know, they don't use dating sites... so how am I ever supposed to meet them? With a distinct lack of social life for many complicated reasons, it's the only way I have. Those of you that know good'uns... please encourage them to try it! :o

lubey I was on dating sites for a while at age 37. Very little interest, except from (younger) blokes wanting a quick shag. For relationships it seemed they all wanted younger women with many childbearing years ahead of them!!

After giving up on that I started going clubbing etc, not to pull just to have fun, and met a guy there who was a nice casual boyfriend. Then in RL (at a cafe table of all places at my university) i bumped into DP who is 4 years younger than me.

All I can say is talk to people. If you don't get a date you'll at least get friends.