ValentineBombshell: well it went tits up but thank you

[ValentineBombshell]

Hello to anyone who remembers me from, as my name suggests, way back in February. Am a long time MN regular whose H confessed to kissing a colleague at work/an EA.

original thread here

Had to step away from MN for a bit as everything just imploded. Of course he hadn't just kissed her, it was all far more tawdry than that, she'd been giving him blowjobs in carparks.

And now my life reads like a badly scripted soap. Am about to proceed with divorce, distressingly he is still living in the same house as me and the children and he has reached heights (or should that be lows?) of jaw-dropping awfulness.

But I just wanted to come back and say thank you for the wise words that MNers took the time to post, for the support and the tough love, both of value in equal measure. And hopefully back on MN under my usual name xx

I'm fine thanks VB. Remember that tax credits will be back dated to the date he left family home - can't remember if I told you this.

Totally agree with SGB; you only have to be civil and discuss the children.

Phones rings: "Hi, can I talk to the kids".
VB: Sorry, they don't want to come to the phone right now".
Ex: "Oh, right. OK. You'll never guess, but they can't afford
to..."
VB cuts in: "Try phoning them another time then. Bye".
Puts down phone. Poors a nice drink and cuddles kids.

Simples!
X

oh sorry how do i remove that then?

think I did it. Oh god

As you were. . I meant what I said though. Sigh.

wtf ??

you ok, PP ?

Hello AF. Oh yes, I'm fine just being a clot. I used another name for the OP whilst heaping praise upon her for being so bloody amazing(after she had accidentally used the name), and ...um...I'm just making this worse...! Anyway, I removed my post and blushed a lot for being thick.

TAXI!!!

am none the wiser, but never mind

taxi for PP!

Argh, it was my fault, not PPs - might as well give you my pin number and be done!

My comment, PP, was aimed at myself not you! [mysteriously taps nose, slides PP a walnut whip in apology]

< ears prick up >

can I have a walnut whip ?

BACK OFF AF!!! It's mine....why thank you VB. I was a twit though, and I do think you're bloody great (looks for emoticon for "bowing in wonderment")

I said she was great first ! The walnut whip is mine...

Will stay as VB if ok, am at my lack of stealth capabilities and don't think I can cope with remembering another namechange. Plus VB reminds me of how much has happened and how much my life has (and the kids' lives)changed since February.

Realise I need to be more distant with H. My worry is that if H does not get what he wants from the visits (like food/support) then he will soon be chuntering to take the children to his place and all too soon be introducing them to the OW. Have been gradually withdrawing my presence though, more, I think, to get him used to it than the kids!

But in typing this I can see it is not healthy. Bugger.

Returns to thread at the whiff of a Walnut Whip.
| hands out Toblerone |

Seems like things have moved on a lot since your last thread. You are doing really well keeping your dignity, and all. Good girl.

[passes Walnut Whip to AF]

[wonders if they've shrunk?]

I have no idea of any of your other names, VB, if that is any consolation

all chocolate has shrunk

[eats 2 just in case]

Had a text in the wee hours saying H was back and asking could he see the children today (not normally his day for seeing them) and I said 'no problem' as they've missed him. Eldest dc eagerly made plans for bike, park and Monopoly with H.

Then got another text from H at lunchtime saying he wasn't coming, he was in 'a bit of a mess'.

My response was a neutral: I'll let the children know. If he wanted concern he wasn't getting it - it's not him who had to disappoint the dcs.

Am going to reinforce his 'days' with the kids, can't have them being mucked around like this. Eldest dc was initially fine (apparently I made an acceptable alternative at Monopoly (oh joy!)) but then was like a stroppy teenager this pm, although slipped downstairs for a cuddle and a chocolate caramel

(really do have a box of chocs on the go, courtesy of lovely visiting friend last week)

Fancy a nibble of my flake AF?

No chocolate here , but I can offer round a Delia strawberry cheesecake I made. That's right. Form an orderly queue.

is that a euphemism, saffs ?