The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Head To The Summer Of Sobriety

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Hello

I'm Mouse

Welcome aboard The Brave Babe's Battle Bus. There are a whole host of lovely posters here who will support your journey to sobriety, however you choose to get there.

We are a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers and those who are somewhere in between.

BUT - we will never judge or leave a poster out in the cold. So, find a seat and settle down for the journey ahead.

And HERE is the last thread and those before it too. Just follow the links to read the journeys so far.

But they are being deliberately provocative - trying to turn peoples' minds against something that is useful and helpful to a lot of people, whatever individuals feelings are. Whatever helps you stay sober is the main thing and hearing a load of stuff that may stop that is actually very unhelpful.

Sharpkat - deep breaths my lovely. You have US to talk to. We're all here for you. I've been where you are, not as advanced maybe but I too shit myself when I found out what I'd done to my body.

So..... what to do? First port of call needs to be your GP, yes?

What's your relationship like with your GP? Can you talk openly? Do you feel like you can confide as such in your GP?

I have the most brilliant GP in the world. I'm lucky, very lucky that he listens to me, really listens.

You can stop any further damage to your liver but you HAVE TO STOP DRINKING!

You know that, you're not daft. So, can you?

Can you stop for the sake of your life?

Can I ask you lovely, do you have DC? Married? Family?

I think that if you really want to stop and I mean really then you have to do it for yourself. No-one else. That's how alcohol works, it absorbs your life, your mind and your soul.

Only you can stop it. Only you can take back the control but guess what?

We'll all stand by you no matter what. That's what this Bus is all about. Unconditional support. All day, every day.

Yep, you'll get your arse kicked from time to time but not in a bad way, in a constructive way.

And of course, I'll provide bacon, sausage and cheese baps every now and then, I'm thinking of making a lemon drizzle cake tomorrow if you fancy it?

Stay on board the Bus, it's lovely to have you here.

safety1 - please, please don't go there, you are late to the party and no doubt have no idea of the background here.

I suggest that unless you want to join us, and you are more than welcome should you want support to quit the booze, then you step away from your PC as I'm in no mood for any more abou purple or Anti.

And that's not a threat, it's just how I feel. This is a thread for support and it's our safe haven.

A and P have torn that apart in the last few days, and posted a lot of posts that have upset us all.

Did you even see the stuff that they posted?

Let me guess, you're in on it too...............

Great quote btw too, and we don't. If that poster needs our help, support, someone to talk to about their addiction or relatiosnhip with alcohol.

Niether A or P had that issue, they just wanted to thurst child/teen rape down out throats. Again and again and again.

They had their chance to engage properly, but chose not to.

Please, unless you want support, stop posting here and find somewhere else to cause trouble.

Thanks Mouse - it is just me, no DH/DP or DC (feel bad about being on MN)

I only registered with a GP this week. Had a private psychiatrist until Christmas and never go to the doctors. I knew that I was going to have to go and see a GP about this so did register this week but lied on all of the forms about my alcohol intake

I have told my Mum but we don't have a great relationship since she married a couple of years ago. She wants me to see the GP. She lives too far away for me to see her very often and I won't stay with her because of her new DH. Apart from her, no other family - father passed away and no contact with brother for over 10 years. My Mum's brother has a matter of weeks to live because of liver cancer so she could do without me adding to her problems at the moment.

I have to bite the bullet and make an appt to see a GP next week and be honest about it all. I am just so scared.

The job situation is not helping. If I get a new job I need to be fit and healthy. My CV is a mess as I have only survived in my last few roles for a few months because of my depression.

Thanks for caring. Not sure I am going to get much sleep tonight - the neighbours are having a party in their garden and someone has already thrown up outside my house and I cannot cope with vomit

On a more positive note no alcohol today. Am drinking tonic water by the gallon though.

I really appreciate the support I am getting here and am sending hugs to everyone to say thank you x

Kat, can I call you that?

Just go to the docs and start that ball rolling sweets.

We're ALL here for you, we've all lied I'm sure.

'So Mouse, what are your weekly units'

'Erm, 14?'

'Okay, next question...............'

So you're not alone.

Forget about everyone else and your mother. You need to do this for YOU. One step at a time and of course, ODAAT - One Day At A Time.

Your neighbours could easily give you an excuse to drink so don't let them.

Have an early night, sleeping tablet, ear plugs whatever.

Oh, and I'm ignoring the fact that you think you shouldn't be here without any children. Okay? x

Hear, hear mouse. I'm adopting JWIM's stance, I've said my bit so will leave it there. I am, however, mentally renaming you Reepicheep x

Sharpkat, I couldn't add to what's already been said. You've already taken such a big step in posting and opening up; I hope that this thread does give you that extra support to turn things around.

Ma, am sorry to hear how down you are, take care.

tall - who the Jeff is Reepicheep? [thick]

I'm off to bed now after an exhausting day fighting our cause.

I'm sorry if I have upset any of the regular or genuine new Babes, I just want you all to feel safe, secure and able to post freely when you need support.

I hope that tomorrow brings our own little place back to normality.

Sleep well Babes,

Night xx

tall - never mind, I've found it HERE

Thank you, I feel very brave of late! Silly old Mouse

Night all xx

''He is an experienced warrior, utterly fearless, and faultlessly courteous, particularly to noble ladies. He is also pugnacious and quick to defend any affront to his honour.''

Change the 'he' to 'she' and I'm with you 100%

Right, I am really going now!

good night reepicheep

night all - reepicheeps especially!

Safety1.

Random postings about child rape cases within AA meetings deep within the USofA really don't resonate with posters here.

There is also some sort of assumption that the people that post on here are AA members here in the UK. There maybe some but to be honest I know more non-members on here than actual members.

Those that do choose AA certainly don't force their method of coping with alcholism on anyone else. Far from it. There has been many posts on her from posters who feel AA is not for them - not ONCE have they been challenged, or 'persuaded' to feel differently.

Who are these 'little ones' that you speak of? No one here has taken a 'little one' to an AA meeting. In fact, the one poster that considered it, has spoken to say that her local AA group didn't welcome children in case they picked up on foul language whilst there.

So, after reading that, can you perhaps see that the random and bizarre 'outbursts' from the two posters you mention, were at least considered unwanted from so many of us?

I'll tell you what those 'outbursts' were - about as welcome as a sausage roll at a Bar Mitzvah.

HTH.

OH and I will judge disruptive posters that continue to ignore the plight so many of us face on here, day to day, in order to pursue their own twisted agenda.

This is a place of support, chat, friendships and above all else, a complete respect for others' choices when it comes to selecting a method of self-help when it comes to their own sobriety.

So please, back the fuck off.

Oh and Safety1st indenial purplebrickroad I've had a quick check and I see you're quite the fan of 'bumping' up old AA related threads within MN!

Honestly, just leave it alone.

How is everyone this morning? The rain appears to have ceased at last - just as well, as we are outside all day at an event with no shelter - cars not music!

Happy father's day to Miflaw and any other dads out there.

Safety, care to share your worries and/or successes about your drinking? I have gained much support and many good tips for tackling the challenge I face daily in not drinking by reading and occasionally contributing to this thread. I really appreciate the time posters take to share their thoughts and as a result I don't feel I'm the only one with this problem. So thanks to all who have helped me over the last year or so.

Morning! Bright and breezy in my part of the world today, but looks changeable. I'm off to a festival next week end, tell me its doable in this weather? I've got a dairy milk hangover this morning, still better than an alcohol induced one!

Morning All!!! Guess what???????????

I did NOT drink yesterday

I feel ridiculously proud of myself, especially as it was a Saturday. I was finding it difficult at about 6/7ish when I normally open a bottle to unwind and so in my head I just did it hour by hour. At 6 I said well just give it till 7 to decide, which actually allowed it to put it to the back of my mind for that hour, then I kept on deciding that I could hold out another hour and by the time it got to about 9 I just wasn't bothered then.

So will try the same again. Hope everyone has a lovely day

Well done starmucks and kandisnskysgirl! A sober Saturday night is really good going
I wish I could say the same; I drank a bottle of wine (hence my late night mutterings) but I've woken up in a positive mood and not going to beat myself up about it. Plan on going to the shop later to stock up on soft drinks, ice and lemon. I've recently gone the longest in years without drink and didn't regret feeling so good in the mornings so I'm going to give myself a shake and get back on top of things

Speaking of cults, where's Jesus lately? We all love jesus here! Is she on holiday?

Morning!

Kandi - bloody well done! I bet you feel great

I went to a wedding party, my first outing sober in a drinking environment (apart from my birthday, but that was just me and dh so no pressure). Not a single person commented that my drink looked suspiciously non-alcoholic I think as alcoholics we do obsess a bit about how other people are going to react to our abstinence. The mother of the bride was a drinking buddy so I thought there may be comments, but it was fine. Mind you, I had two J2O drinks in the space of about 90 minutes and I felt so bloated. How the bloody hell did I ever manage to down 7/8 pints in an evening?!

Right, just going to put this out there because I think a little support wouldn't go amiss. Not sure this is the right place because I think certain people may feel a little victory on its way. I'm wobbling about AA. I love a conspiracy theory on the whole - don't actually believe them but I like to think there may be a grain of truth, and this onslaught (plus the bumping of another old aa thread) in the last couple of days is upsetting me. I do not want to turn into a glassy eyed evangelical lame brain. I am not religious. I struggle with certain aspects of AA. I don't, however, feel that I am in any immediate danger of violence or sexual harm by predators.

HOWEVER... it's working at the moment for me. I am quickly losing the desire to drink ODAAT and I simply cannot explain that in any other way than working the steps and going to meetings because I've tried lots of other methods in the past and (to quote) 'the result was nil' I have not had any major spiritual experience and I can still have a cackle at things that aren't all nicey nicey fluffy kittens, so I haven't lost my dark sense of humour.

I think the problem is that my cynicism (which protects me) is still strong and there lies a chink in my armour which has been breached.

I'd really like to hear views from both AA attenders and non attenders - words of wisdom, advice. Anything really. I had negative dreams last night and the night before which i think are connected, not nightmares but alcohol related dreams with an extreme feeling of unease.

Morning Golly

I guess you're taking the positives from AA that do work for you and ignoring the aspects that you struggle with? (unless I've got it wrong?).

If that is the case then you're making it work for you rather than thinking recovery is a one-size-fits-all approach, which can only be a good thing? You're not picking up and the desire to drink is fading, so I think your approach is the right one for you?

I actually think your cynicism is healthy, as you've already pointed out, it's your protection; your 'inner' voice - maybe that's more of a spiritual experience, if it's making you question your recovery, as opposed to the clouds parting and celestial trumpets tootling away? Hope you read that in the jokey way it's intended; like you I'm not religious in any way shape or form!

I do and half go on, I can never quite express what I mean without coming across as a bumbling eejit, sorry!

kandi very well done indeed!!!
On the slippery slope to failure here so am impressed. Good stuff!

ma I've been wearing my banana skin skates this week, you're not alone!