DH texting woman from work

[mazfah]

I feel this is a bit 'here we go again' so I'll keep it brief.

DH has literally hundreds of messages from a woman from work (he also texts back but deleted his sent messages).

He's been behaving oddly with his phone and receiving messages during the night so I asked to see his phone.

Most of it is friendly but it's the sheer volume of texts that unnerves me. 3 or 4 page messages when he's supposedly too busy to text me. He didn't mention it was our wedding anniversary or that we went away together for a night.

He received a message at 2.30am saying 'I just thought I'd wish you goodnight x x x x'.

The messages have lots of kisses and he texts her more than anyone else.

I don't think he's cheat but this seems like it could easily spiral into an emotional affair. Where will it end? I can't see them drifting apart, they work closely together.

Any advice welcomed.

Mazfah, this sounds so familiar, texts in the middle of the night are not innocent, you say you know your husband and you know what he's like in relationships, I thought I also knew my husband but after 25 years I realised I had no clue who he was. You say your husband is shy when it comes to sex, living with my husband was like living with the vicar (no disprespect to vicars) he was a prude to be honest. Or so I thought. How would he have found time to do anything wrong when he only ever went to work, never even went down the pub, had no mates he spent time with? I was wrong, he was shagging anything and everything and paying for it as well, for more years than I can trace back. It's entirely possible to be with someone for a long time and have completely the wrong idea about them. And mine didn't want to see his child either, after 20 years of being a dad, he doesn't miss his son either. Your words, 'he doesn't miss DS', really chilled me honestly. Please don't be like me, listen to everyone here, your husband is blatantly cheating on you. You can't put up with it, stop making excuses for him that he hasn't and he wouldn't, he has.