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OK, new beginnings, new thread, it WAS right to serve divorce papers!

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Wisedupwoman · 26/05/2011 19:34

I asked the question - Am I right to serve the divorce papers on my chameleon-like but definitely cheating, lying, cruel and manipulative STBXH. You all said "YES". So I have. The story continues.........

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SugarPasteFrog · 03/08/2011 18:51

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Saffysmum · 03/08/2011 19:39

Thank youSmile
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Wisey - you must start your new thread soon....I am waiting for baited breath about your online dating! X

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Wisedupwoman · 04/08/2011 11:55

Well this is my online experience thus far:

men seriously do not know how to sell themselves photographically. This is what they do:

pictures of their tattoo's
'distance' photo's - can't fecking see them
'group shots' - with beer bottle in front of their faces, dark glasses on
wearing ridiculous slogan t-shirts that only a teenager should wear
haven't had a haircut - forever
sitting on the bonnet of some sports car (we all know what that means)
no photo - but they seriously expect a woman to chat with them, or go offline to receive a photo, yeah right. I've posted in my profile I'm not up for being a fuck buddy and nor am I an extra marital anything.

So, all in all, I've had many winks, added to favourites, requests to talk and some non starter conversations.

But I have seen someone I like the look of.

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Wisedupwoman · 04/08/2011 13:21

I'm also wildly ambivalent. I think I might name-change to that. Grin

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Wisedupwoman · 04/08/2011 13:23

AND I have only just got the hang of casting on. Just didn't get the three-dimensional video instruction, took fecking ages FGS.

You know, that's where I obviously went wrong in my marriage to PTM. Only ever saw him one-dimensionally

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Saffysmum · 04/08/2011 14:39

Yeah, but look how well you cast him off WiseyGrin

annieatnofour · 04/08/2011 14:44

knitting..... Maybe i will give it a go.

You need to make sure you put it in your profile on the dating site !!!!

wannabesybil · 04/08/2011 15:03

Delurking again Blush

Don't feel that videos are the only way to learn knitting. I don't learn well from videos, but apart from the knit and purl stitches I taught myself from the written word. There are zillions of books and mags around, check out Amazon (but hide the credit card first)! A knit club or knitting shop owner (when they are finally open) can give a physical demonstration, and sometimes you have to just keep muddling along. I have learned a lot of swear words from my evil cat and I have used them all on knitting.

I am so impressed by how you are coping and I really wish you all the best in the world.

NB - if you are buying online make sure patterns/books are in UK versions. Stitch and Bitch is a great series of books but it uses USA terms and yarns and you need to be able to translate. (I also like 'Pretty in Punk' and 'Domiknitrix' but they may be acquired tastes).

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Wisedupwoman · 04/08/2011 15:15

Arf at Saff, very funny.

Well, ES has just come round to fill the car up for tomorrow. He says PTM collected the last of his stuff from ES's flat on Sunday before coming here.

PTM said he doesn't know why (ffs) DD doesn't want to meet OW, because he's planning to move out and on somewhere else.

Anyhoo, I don't give a shit. I can knit, I can. And thanks for the leads to sites which will cater for the likes of me.

And you think I'll be fine driving up to Manchester tomorrow? If you don't hear from me by Saturday pm I leave this thread to posterity. Grin

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Saffysmum · 04/08/2011 15:15

Wanna - so pleased you recommended Deramores. I'd never heard of them, ordered some mohair Wed night - it arrived this morning - lovely quality, good price. 2 big balls will easily do a poncho that my friend has requested as a Xmas pressie for her hippy dippy sister!

Saffysmum · 04/08/2011 15:18

Of course you can drive up to Manchester tomorrow, no worries. We have every faith in you Wisey!

So he's going to move out then is he - yeah, well we won't hold our collective breaths.

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Wisedupwoman · 04/08/2011 16:18

Yeah, Saff he was "never going to introduce OW any way"

I should cocoa.

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wannabesybil · 04/08/2011 16:44

Re Deramores. I think they have only been going a year (possibly longer in the States) and I saw an ad in a knitting magazine and had a go. The service is superb.

Also, in a few days you will get an email from them checking that everything is okay.

And they are honest about what is in stock! Keep an eye out for emails with codes in and sometimes they have codes in knitting magazine for 10% off here or 15% off there.

I can only make recommendations on knitting. I am in awe of the wisdom on here. PTM is trying desperately to clutch on to the rags left of his illusions. I am confident he will replace his illusions in due course - OW may well figure as the baddy and Wisey may be on the receiving end of a 'please have me back, I was lead astray'. Please share so everyone can snigger.

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Wisedupwoman · 04/08/2011 16:54

Well there's a zillion kind of needles out there. I've seen a deramores pattern book for scarves, bags and socks in chunky knit for 0.8 and 10 needles. But now - bamboo, plastic, wood..........

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Dozer · 04/08/2011 17:52

Of course you can do the drive, hope traffic is good!

I like the sound of the hippy dippy poncho.

wannabesybil · 04/08/2011 18:22

Re knitting needles Blush

Ebay is your friend and you can buy humungous sets of new bamboo needles for a very reasonable cost. Or charity shops, to have a go at loads of different ones.

You can get them made from casein (milk protein) these days. Also glass, acrylic, ebony, birchwood and titanium.

And do you want long, short, middling or circular? Or even square!

Personally I would go for a set from ebay of bamboo straight, middle sized and if I remember the place I have got them from on ebay I will pm you because they were brilliant, cheap and prompt. They were UK based.

And now knitting is the new yoga and Julia Roberts and Catherine Zeta Jones knit, there are a lot of unnecessary but really pretty things that people want to sell you. Just so you know.

Kaelle · 04/08/2011 18:44

Wisey. I'm getting whiplash on your thread...you've got three really interesting topics going on one thread. IMO, you should separate. You've got knitting, the new dating effort, and the ongoing support for the crap of PTM. All very valuable....Personally, I can't contribute to the knitting...but would be active on the other two. Just food for thought. I know this thread is coming to capacity, so maybe this is the way to go?

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Wisedupwoman · 04/08/2011 19:10

God you 're so organised K. Sorry about the whiplash. There will be another thread soon.

Thing is, the knitting helps to take the mind off, the dating site helps when the stitches get dropped, and then I can blame it all on PTM!

It's all connected you see? In a lovely pattern. That I could knit......

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Kaelle · 04/08/2011 19:57

Yes, I do see...of course, it makes perfect sense, as anything you do Wisey....but still...

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Wisedupwoman · 04/08/2011 21:41

OK so now I'm focussed on one thing and one thing only just for you K.

I have had such a fun day flirting (and knitting, sorry) on the website.

I spent part of the morning coaching some guy to get his photo online (and I'm on annual leave fgs). Bless.

I've got very bold with my winks. Chatting to folks the length and breadth of the nation. What fun.

Am supposed to be meeting up for coffee with someone next week. He looks nice and hasn't ended any messages with presumptuous X's.

It's just a bit of fun, and it passed a rather rainy and wet day.

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Saffysmum · 04/08/2011 21:57

Have a nice coffee and some fun (I hope) with "someone" next week.

Just don't let him pull the wool over your eyes hun.

Off to bed - drive carefully tomorrow - take care. Looking forward to the new thread...X

LittleHousebytheRiver · 04/08/2011 22:10

Have followed your thread Wisey as well as Saffy's but never felt qualified to comment as not been through your pain. BUT am hugely looking forward to Wisey's dating thread!

Why do they take profile photos in the bathroom? Are they so unimaginative they can only think of a mirror shot? The tiles are awful and I would NEVER want to visit them...

Saffysmum · 04/08/2011 22:16

Ergh! Do they take photos in the bathroom? I've never been on a dating site, it just isn't my thing. I go a lot on chemistry when you meet someone. There's this gorgeous dr at work who everyone fancies and I can see his appeal but he does nothing for me. Then there's this other guy nobody would look twice at, but he makes me go weak at the knees - there's just something about him if you know what I mean.

It's all immaterial because I'm never going to date again, ever ever.

Anyway, I too am looking forward to the new thread, and I am really off to bed now.

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Wisedupwoman · 05/08/2011 08:37

It's all immaterial because I'm never going to date again, ever ever.

Okaaaaayyy! I'll quote you on that when some lovely dr sweeps you off your feet Grin

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AnotherMumOnHere · 05/08/2011 10:07

Hey Wisey just wanted to wish you all the best for your drive up north. Im sure we shall all be awaiting your safe return.

TC xx