My sister is 26 years old.
My parents have fully funded 2 higher education courses to date.
6 months ago she decided she wanted to become a vet.
She got offered a place. However since it is a second degree it will cost £100,000 over five years for this particular university. There are others that charge £13,000 for five years but they didn't offer her an interview.
She wants my parents (divorced) to pay for it and stated will not be paying them back
If my mum pays for her she will not help my younger brother fo to university as she says she can only afford 1 child. My brother has never been to university before.
This weekend she came to visit and it ended up in a an awful situation. She demanded I support her. I said in all honesty I cannot support a 6 month whim that costs £100,000 that would but a huge pressure on my ageing parents whilst knowing my brother would get nothing. She was furious and screamed (upsetting my 4 year old dc)
What upsets me is my sisters attitude. I am in shock she would even ask such a thing in the first place.She has no problems if only she benefits, she says her education is that matters and her need is great. She expects the money- it is her right in her own words. She doesn't want to pay it back.
I said are you sure if this money is the only lump sum of money you many ever get is spending It on a course you picked 6 months ago what you really want? Her reply was she expected a large inheritance one day anyway.
She has no idea of the problems she is causing. My father may have to sell his home to fund this. She is fine with that
Last night (after much stress and heartache) my father decided her would help her pay half the fees and my mother would need to meet the rest.
She said that was not good enough and he could keep his big house!
I was furious and said all along this is what I have been saying- her attitude is appalling.
However.... my parents have actually agreed to pay despite this text this morning!
I think it appalling. They both said they gave in as they are scared of her temper. How are they ever going to teach to grow up? She does have serious temper issues I think she needs to work on as priority.
The money is awful but the main issue is her getting rewarded for her behaviour and sense of entitlement. It sickens me. She has been like this for a few years she gets whatever she wants through tantrums but to me this is the final straw.
Whilst they are doing out of good intentions I think they are irresponsible parents and I cannot sit by and bite my lip. How will my brother feel?
What should I do?
I am being unreasonable as all she wants to do is better herself?