Well it's Friday so a sex question TMI

[changingmynameagain]

I am a regular who has name changed for this as I am so embarrassed.

I am divorced. XH was crap in bed - never made any effort to make me orgasm, just used my body for what he needed.

In 20 years of being together I could count the number of times he made me cum on the fingers of one hand, literally.

I now have a lovely DP and everything in that department is much better

But there's always a but

I can let DP bring me "off" with fingers, but he wants to go down on me and I can't let him because the one and only time XH did it he said I tasted disgusting and he wouldn't go near that area again.

and I can't believe I just typed that.

Anyway, the thing is, how do I get over this in my head is there anything I can do?

Totally jealous happy for you .

It makes me so sad that someone has said something that has had such an impact on your life.

There are a few things you can do, firstly talk to new partner if you feel you can be honest and open and you may find it opens the doors to other new things.

I would try having a taste yourself to prove that it can be nice.

Shower, trim but dont use soap products in that area.

I would start off with a little play, maybe using chocolate body paint or even flavoured lube to get him to kiss and lick stomach and thighs first while he plays. build up to it slowly who says you have to go straight for it.

I think your very brave for asking for advice and obviously know that your ex was being insensitive. Many men love doing it and the way it tastes other wise it wouldnt be in porn which is generally aimed at men!

Good luck and have fun

Original I am very Northern. Although don't actually live up North now.

Me too. Me neither .

Maybe we know each other??

You never know! Where you from?

West Yorkshire.

I'm Cumbrian [busmile]

Probably not then [busad].

But we do share an interest in a complete strangers sex life!!

OP, hopefully by now, you will be at the 'cup of tea' stage [bugrin]

Just to echo what someone else said, fanjo is a much subtler taste than spunk, and i have never met a man who didn't like it. You know your ex was a lazy twat and that the 'taste' isn't the issue - it's a confidence thing because the fucker tried to take yours.

But as I said, hopefully you are drinking tea by now and this is all academic.

He sounds lovely by the way. Lucky you

Bloody hell OP, I went out for the day, returned to this thread, and you've turned into a rampant sex goddess!

Hope you had/are having a lovely time! Be brazen and fabulous.

stayout - it doesnt have to be gentle at all. Maybe your husband thinks you want it like that. If he tries different things then you can tell him what works for you and what doesnt. Before my husband I had been with men and when I first started I thouht it wasnt that great but I found when its done right and I knew whats I liked I orgasm every time from it.

Keep trying and dont be afraid to say you want it different. If you try out new things thats how you will find what works for you.

Well I'm here to give you all your update

It was fantastic.

I told a fib though - I told him no one had ever done it before which was why I was nervous.

He knows sex with exH was pretty rubbish so that wasn't a shock.

It was lovely. But not gentle particularly - he used his fingers to penetrate me as well at the same time iyswim?

the things I tell mumsnet

PS he said "mmmm you taste lovely" more than once again

:o glad you enjoyed - oh and tmi alert.... as your confidence grows with this bit........ (and it will do) don't stick with fingers there as him to use a toy as well O M G. :o

better have a cold shower & hope DP is home early. :o

Yay!

He was so pleased I let him he was grinning like this -->

I don't think the fib matters does it?

Thank you all so much I wouldn't have had the guts other wise.

Good fib
Am very pleased for you

course not, as they say what he doesn't know won't hurt him. :)

He stayed over but he had to play golf this morning.

He's back later on.

I am going shopping

I am going to buy a pair of jeans that fit (I hope!)

He doesn't mind that I'm short and ample of arse.

Oh I will be grinning all day.

oh i followed this last night and am so pleased for you :)

I love it when a plan comes together.

yay! So pleased for you, hang- up now over dealt with and put to bed (literally) I hope!

LOL

It was really rather nice.

I think I might let him do it again

:) build on your new found confidence.

I even bought a pair of jeans

And they aren't baggy and shapeless they FIT