The Brave Babes Carry On Past The Easter Booze Offers.

[NotTheMessiahJustMouseface]

Hello,

I'm Mouse, well, I am usually!

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus.

This is a journey of sobriety, started almost a year ago by the wonderful jesuswhatnext. So why not come aboard and find a seat. There's heaps of support on here whether you are sober, drinking or somewhere in the middle.

And, for those of you who want a bit of history, here are the Previous Threads

Hey Ma, head all over the place at minute but trying to take things one day at a time.

HI everyone. Not posted for a while as been really busy at home and at work. Had a lovely Easter/bank holiday weekend with all my family. Hope your all OK

Hi Zany, strangely enough was only thinking about you this morning:) How is the romance going?

Ma - yes, thank you, Nemo had a fab weekend being admired and loved by all of his wonderful family.

I'm glad things aren't too bad for you right now. Maybe going through the motions is all you can do for a while, until you get to where you need to be? xx

Hey Obrigada - how's your mum? xx

Zany - I was wondering where you were, you okay other than busy? How is your DP?

Hey Mouse she went into full-time care yesterday, best thing for her but sad nevertheless.

Never easy on any of the family sweets but you needed to do this, for all of you xx

Thread very quiet these days, hope that's a good sign!

Going to post this for my own benefit:

This evening I will not be drinking:)

obrigada will be keeping you company. Life busy but good at present here. I am beginning to wonder how I functioned when drinking like a fish. I never thought I would take to not drinking but it gets easier and the benefits more obvious. ODAAT.

Love to all.

Just pottering trying to keep busy hoping that my face won't fall off. Still bleeding a little but very sore now. Thank Jeff it's out though.

Still here Obrigada

Hope you have strong painkillers Mouse Tooth/gob ache is worse IMO than childbirth.
I'm fine other than battling to keep my drinking in check. The inlaws have moved out and are living in Cyprus pretty much full-time. I can't use them as an excuse for my bingeing anymore.
My flat (shared ownership place) is currently being rented out without the HA's permission but it was that or hand the keys back to the Halifax.
This is the hardest time of day for me. The kids will soon be in bed and I would love a glass of wine or a beer. I won't though. I just can't trust myself.
I want to remember my life and my kid's lives growing up and sinking the wine like I have been just turns everything into a shambolic mess which I am almost grateful I can't remember half the time.
Hi to all Babes old and new.
TODAY I'M NOT DRINKING.

Oh Luci. From what I remember, the HA agreeing to rent the flat out was what you wanted? That way you wouldn't lose it as such and the rental could pay the arrears off?

I have morphine, been on them a few weeks for my back, MRI at the end of the month. Weirdly, the morphine isn't working for the tooth pain. I have more meds than fliiping Boots right now, so I'm hoping something works eventually!

I have to say Luci, that when you didn't post for a while, I was worried about you. Thing with the Bus is, every now and then, posters leave or go quiet, for their own reasons which is fine. I just never know whether or not to ask after them IYSWIM?

So when posters come back, I'm relieved to see them. What sort of support are you getting for your drinking Luci? Any outside help at all or are you fighting this battle 'alone'?

Evening babes. I am fuuuuuuuurious! I got to the place i was having my interview, after braving some of the motorway (hooray) and quite simply could not find it! I had a map, I had directions..I asked some people who told me where to go and when I got to the roundabout to turn off...'road closed - diversions this way'. So, I went back on the motorway (get me ) and ended up just going up and down it three times getting nowhere. In the end, I realized I was heading home so basically stayed on it and came home! I called straight away to explain what had happened and the stupid woman went 'oh , yes it's all complicated diversions isn't it?' WELL THANKS FOR FUCKING TELLING ME!!! She asked if I could turn round and come back but obviously by that time I was a) out of petrol nearly b) boiling hot and c) would never have made it and been able to get the kids - I had the day all planned. So, basically, they've said 'sorry but we'll keep your details on file'. I've spent £25 on petrol and am no nearer getting a sodding job! One massively positive thing though, I couldn't give a flying fairy about driving on a four lane motorway and overtaking three lorries at once anymore . So maybe it's meant to be! Just had a very energetic swim and am relaxing with some rather nice tonic water. grrrrrr.

Hi all.
Tonight i ran....drum roll...3 miles and for 36 minutes!! yes, I know a 12 minute mile is hardly Roger Bannister, but hell I'm a 47 year old piss head!!
For the last half mile I was dying and actually shouted out loud "oh come on legs!!!" But look at me - I am strong, I am powerful, I am.....knackered.

ooh, get you - I only managed 12 lengths in the pool tonight !

Oh changeling - so sorry that happened to you! When ever I sent candidates for interviews, I'd check the route was okay! Well, as you day, you've nailed 4 lane motorways!

Good on you girl!

Seems to me that you wouldn't want to work for a company who wouldn't think to inform you of such things, especially as they new where you were coming from.

Tsk!

Anyway, I'm off to snuggle my big boy and prey for my face to stop falling out! Seems my tooth has left a nice big hole for my gum to fall out of. Yuk!!

Be back tomorrow at some point Babes, busy day.

Mwahs to all and stay strong!

Luci - I hope you are okay and have mananged to survive you fight tonight. Keep going xx

well exactly - as dh said they could have at least sent directions - as it was I had to find my own! anyway, c'est la! I hope your mouth gets better - I know how you feel. It's horrible . I too hope everyone has managed to have a good enough evening .

changeling i'm sorry the day was a bust job wise, but you've got the motorway thing cracked so that was good.
12 lengths of the pool is good going too - I used to swim before I buggered my shoulder up so I know how hard it is.
I am drinking tonight, so well done to those who are not.
where IS everyone? Thurso? Indie? Venus? You guys out there?

Changeling that sucks- but you're not drinking!

How infuriating changeling. I would have been a tearful wreck. Great news though that you appear to have conquered your motorway fear.
Ma, well done you. I really need to take up some exercise. I used to be be an effortless size 8 and now I'm a blobby, middle-aged lush.
Mouse, I went to an AA meeting. I have been to an Alonon (for families) before. Whilst it wasn't scary or awful, it wasn't for me.

I have been back to the GP and she has doubled my anti D dose of fluoxetine from 20mg to 40mg on condition that I stop drinking to help them work. I told her I drink too much on a regular basis. Not the whole story but I am worried about saying too much as I have such young kids.
On the subject of the HA and my flat, they did agree for me to sub-let it but wanted to charge me £300 for legal fees and drew up so many terms and conditions it just wasn't possible for me to legally go ahead.
They are really shit and so badly organised that I doubt they'll find out. They haven't in the previous 5 yrs I've been doing this although knowing my luck...will cross that bridge if I have to.
The letting agents managing it told me today that the boilers knackered so that's a bill for £280 to fix it. Sometimes it feels like we're walking backwards in mud. Financially things just never improve. I am trying to spend nothing. It's so crap having to think of every penny. At least I don't have to worry about having decent supply of booze in the house at all times.
It's actually very liberating. Am going to give my medication a chance to work properly and think no further than one day at a time for now.
I have never gone away from the bus, merely lurked beside it.
Thanks for worrying about me.

evening!

luci, good idea to let the ads get going!, i was on fluoxetine for about 3 years, 2 of them drinking years, have now been off it for about 3 months i think, im sure the booze affected their effectiveness iyswim?

i have had a really fantastic day - i have been into the office, had a massage, done some baking and booked myself onto a belly dancing course! , that starts tomorrow!

also, (deep breath!), i have begun looking for premises for a new business i want to start - its in retail and very much out of my comfort zone and i feel all sort of nervous and excited and kind of scared! - this is something ive wanted to do for sometime, i want to run it along side my 'proper' job, so i have to make some fairly difficult calls on how im going to go about it, dh is right behind me which is wonderful, i couldnt even contemplate doing it without his support - so, im looking forward to challengeing myself!

btw, changling, they were not worth the bloody effort!, but i glad you managed the motorway!

ma, i wonder if a bit of belly dancing is as good as an eight minute mile?

Evening all, ,

well, I was lovely and tired at about 9.30, all ready to go to bed, and then DH came in from cricket, and asked about my day, being v. chatty, and not to be surly, I chatted back, and have woken myself right up . I can see me being awake for hours now as have started worrying about the weekend, and thinking (always a bad idea, this late).

I think I mentioned that DC2 is 18 on Friday, we are going out to dinner on the day, with my parents, and then on Saturday Dc is having a dinner party for 12 friends, here. We are doing all the prep in the morning, and getting the house ready (people are staying over), and then DH and I are going to stay the night at a hotel nearby (by request).

My big dilemma is: have I been too easy and irresponsible? I have never left the DC's overnight before (yes, pathetic, I know), but should I be leaving 12, 18 year olds in my house with champagne and wine on tap, and beds made up? I do know them all, and most of the parents (they're not coming!), and there are no couples (as if that mattered!!!!) although they are a mixed group.

I veer between thinking that I'm being my mum, and thinking that I'm doing the wrong thing. What do you all think?

Probably a bit late to ask, bet you're sorry you asked where I was Ma
xxxx

Crikey, just wrote, and didn't read!

Luci how lovely to hear from you, you were on here when I first joined. DH was on Fluoxetine? for a while but didn't seem to work for him, someone told me that it is quite an old fashioned drug, so give it a try, but if you don't feel better in a couple of weeks, go back. He is now on something called "Setrazine"? and it seems to be working much better.

Changeling they don't deserve you, onward!

Mouse Sorry to hear about your poor mouth, still, lovely high cheekbones in a couple of days (I read that's what the film stars do!) .

JWN make me a slinky blonde in a lovely dress, is just what I need at the moment, at any price! Post links .

xxxx

Hi Brave Babes,
Ive lurked for some months now but never posted cos I thought I was just a normal harrassed mum who medicated with vino each night.
DH worked away through the week for a decade so I could please myself monday to friday once I fulfilled my mums taxi/bathtime/bedtime duties.
What was a glass or two in the early days has become a bottle. I excuse myself by picking wine to suit what is for dinner etc.
DH is now back in the house 247 having resigned to work for himself and see more of our dc 3.
DH certainly can take a drink each night - its great having him back for dinner each night - but he can leave it at one, two or three drinks - I cant.
He is deeply concerned. Each morning I am deeply regretful and concerned and assure him I will get a handle on it.
Each night 'just a drink' with dinner becomes a full bottle of wine.
I still function perfectly well (job/voluntary activities) though DH swears my hands shake in the morning.
My retort is that they always have - this is true actually - but the volume of alcohol I consume surely is giving me 'the shakes'.
DH is too nice a man for me to be doing this to him. I have 3 lovely dc with him for gods sake.
My life isnt ruined but if I continue it most certainly will be.
Is there space on the bus for me? God, I know what I need to do - but I just dont do it.
sorry for the epic tale - i just know that i need help and advice.
i apologise if i sound self indulgent.
advice & arse kicking keenly anticipated.

Hi, thefirst, welcome,

although I feel a bit funny saying that, as I am still a new(ish) girl.

I completely know where you are coming from. You have a lovely family, a job, activities, and do them all. I was there, when I found this thread, but, I didn't find it until I googled because I was pretty desperate one morning.

You have made the first, major step, towards being how you want to be, however you do it in the future, be it AA, or whatever.

I have found this thread to be a lifeline, and what I would say to tonight, is .. you've made the start, tomorrow is a new day, others with better advice than me will be along, but for tonight, I'm very glad you're here .
xx