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Support thread for the recently ditched No.13

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Teaandcakeplease · 27/03/2011 20:51

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us! Shock Sad Angry

This thread is for anyone who has recently been dumped ditched. A safe place to share your woes and to support, advise and give virtual ((hugs)) to fellow dumplings each other, as we walk this journey as one, to find the new us: fabulous, strong and full of serenity.

Stay a while and tell your story and when you are ready we are sure you will make the move to being a Dumpling no more!

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Patienceobtainsallthings · 15/04/2011 20:51

I used to (and still do some nights )stay up v late watching bbc i player after late night MN , haunted ,that worked for me .

HauntedLittleLunatic · 15/04/2011 21:42

Looks like the late night is the only and best option

Patienceobtainsallthings · 16/04/2011 01:30

Lol haunted ,look at the time Shock ,nite x

HauntedLittleLunatic · 16/04/2011 08:51

Am I allowed to be smug?.....dtd2 has just called and wants to come home cos she would rather be with me than daddy this afternoon Grin

HauntedLittleLunatic · 16/04/2011 18:18

I have just spent teh last 2 hours in bed cos I was so exhausted...did I sleep no....not a wink....

Mymymble · 16/04/2011 18:30

Is Pepper pig (s). Peppa? Anyway since my youngest is 14 must be very recognisable since praise the Lord I've never had to watch it (this from "grown up" who rushed down to record old Pokemon movie this morning). Have fun, Haunted. Have lots of laughs with your m8 as well as DD.

LawrieMarlow · 16/04/2011 18:39

Hello.

We told the children about what is happening - DD is 5 abd seems OK. DS is 7 and isn't :( Is currently watching Top Gear with H.

We split up the joint bank account today and he has set up a standing order into my bank account.

Feel rather drained today :(

amicable · 16/04/2011 20:53

Hi

Just wanted to say that I've been reading all your posts whilst nodding sympathetically. Sending hugs to anyone who needs them.

I am just so exhausted and upset by the shit storm of damage that my C of an H has inflicted on me and my children that I haven't been able to find the energy to type about it.

But just wanted to say hello and that I'm thinking of all of us in this horrible position. x

HauntedLittleLunatic · 17/04/2011 10:38

Yes its peppa :)

Lawrie you will start to feel better when all these sorts of tasks are done. I have done the main ones but still have a few to do like changing my answer phone message.

Slept 8hrs last night still exhausted.

Just about to leave for party. Feel physically sick and already welling up :(. No mascara for me todayy

LawrieMarlow · 17/04/2011 10:47

Thank you Haunted :)

hope the party is OK - I found out about H's affair the day before DS's birthday which was not great timing. Can't remember that much about the day but hopefully it was good for DS. His party (a day trip with a few friends) the next weekend was also hard work but I managed to hold it together.

We are all slobbing around while H is at church. Think I should probably do something useful though...

memorylapse · 17/04/2011 15:19

Apologies that I have fallen off the thread..we have all had (and still have) the norovirus..which is on average taking a week per person to get rid of..Ive never seen so much vomSad

on a bad note..totally areshole h has moved himself back inShock..either OW gave him the flick or his time on someones sofa ran out..

I feel ill..I DO NOT wantt him here..he has decided that apparently his place is here with the DC's and if I dont like it I can move out..I am speechless tbh..Ive no idea what he is playing at?

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Teaandcakeplease · 17/04/2011 18:00

Got back at about 2.30pm. I'm exhausted and just putting washing on etc. I think my bed and I have a serious date tonight. Kids slept badly in the outlaws house, not to mention the mental exhaustion from rubbing along with MIL. I'll try and catch up tomorrow.

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HauntedLittleLunatic · 17/04/2011 18:52

Return eyes after party :)

Back at pub for tea cos xp had to go and collect an eBay bed and couldn't give dcs tea, and i am too exhausted to cook, despite spending 2hrs in bed.dozing this afternoon dozing.

Memory, can you go to cab and see if you have to let him stay? They were fab wknd I went last week and I found out a lot I didn't go for. I know it was bad enough xp not leaving straight away but too leave and then come back.must be even worse.

HauntedLittleLunatic · 17/04/2011 18:53

Blinking phone..... dry eyes after party (and at party for that matter....friend was FAB)

LawrieMarlow · 17/04/2011 22:46

Have spent the evening filling in housing benefit and council tax benefit form. As my employment is complicated, it needed 5 supplementary sheets.

Am hoping I get what the benefits checker websites say I am entitled to.

Patienceobtainsallthings · 17/04/2011 23:02

Congrats Lawrie for tackling the forms.I found getting the money sorted gave me back some control.
Well done on the party haunted.
Glad u survived mil Tea.
Sorry u have been ill ML and shocked about X s return ,hope it gets sorted soon for u.
Hugs to everyone x

HauntedLittleLunatic · 18/04/2011 08:44

That reminds me I still haven't down council tax....will make a list here that I can tick off...

Free school dinners
Council tax exemption
Xp website change of address registered emails etc
Uni bank account details correction
Answer phone message
Copy bank statements and return to xp
Rac, mobile insurance, will with bank
Mortgage payment protect claim/cancellation

And you can all nag me till it is done...

Anyway housework today. Alto towers tomorrow :)

(another 8 hours straight sleep and still exhausted).

LawrieMarlow · 18/04/2011 18:24

Went to council offices this morning and handed in council tax and housing benefit form. But becuase I am relentlessly honest, I mentioned the (very small) amount of mystery shopping I do (which is self employed) so have to fill in another form. For a v small amount of income. Will take it back tomorrow as she said that would hold it up (or at least they can't start doing it until I do).

She agreeed it would be a bit much for me to have my tax credit form back by now Grin.

But have applied for that - was able to do it over the phone. They seemed to think it wouldn't take too long (although shall wait and see). Called council about 25% discount on council tax - can't work our what will happen with scheduled DD payment due at beginning of month.

Am just worn out - body has been failing a bit - have had a cold which us v unusual for me and just feel shattered. Am prone to depression but that doesn't seem to be here which is good.

HauntedLittleLunatic · 21/04/2011 09:38

I think I am going to change my name to permanently exhausted.

Had 2 days at alton towers resort ...the second day of which I had slight upset tummy which was not fun. Still feel really ropey. Dunno if I have a bug or I am so run down with stress. Don't think I can manage going away again next week, but I haven't booked anything yet so nothing lost if I don't go. I also have soo much studying to catch up on it is unreal. I just have no motivation to go it :(

Car mot ran out yesterday so I need to try and get that sorted today along with some of the other things on my list.

HauntedLittleLunatic · 23/04/2011 09:51

Am I allowed to be disappointed that my new neighbour is not the nice single man I was hoping for but a couple? Grin

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Teaandcakeplease · 23/04/2011 10:05

Lol. Are you still very tired?

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HauntedLittleLunatic · 23/04/2011 10:46

Better than I have been but still not right. There has been a 'virus' going around here and I have had an upset tummy too so I think I have had that which has hit hard cos I am run down.

Can't go away next week now because of car issues :( but I think it is probably for the best.

I have tonnes of Uni work to catch up on and am lacking in motivation. I think that the Easter holiday isn't helping cos I have no routine and it is easy to stay in bed til lunchtime.

Busy weekend ahead...dd3's birthday tomorrow still have presents to wrap, balloons to put up, another cake to bake. My parents are coming up tomorrow and I have cottage pie to rustle up for that....must get on.

Mymymble · 23/04/2011 17:52

Most of us (well, me) would be v. proud to have done 2 days at Alton Towers on 1st holiday after the break, particularly ill. Respect.

HauntedLittleLunatic · 24/04/2011 21:10

Well I did have a very good RL friend to lean on (literally at some points)

Glad today is over. Was very hard. Reading XPs "sentimental" message in DD3s card was very hard, and stayed with me all day. Made it hard to hold it together whilst my parents were here.

Have to do it all again for DTDs again next week.

Absolutely exhasted again today. I think it must be stress and I am not likeing it. It is not because I am not sleeping cos I am....

LawrieMarlow · 24/04/2011 21:41

I feel like I am keeping going pretty well but am worried I will crash in a bit.

Have been down with my mum and dad this weekend (going back up North tomorrow). Children will stay with H tomorrow night and then again on Thursday and Friday and possibly Saturday nights. I am working Wed and Thurs and Friday (do invigating and poor university students have to do exams Royal Wedding or no Royal Wedding).

H still getting things out of my house. He suggested he would be there tomorrow when we got back. I suggested that that wouldn't be a good idea. He wants to move out - I am not going to have him being here when we get back.

He texted a few times yesterday - was strong and didn't reply. Spoke to him today abd he said he'd been missing us. Don't think it was us more a realisation he is living in a not so nice house tbh.

Need to try and deconnect from him emotionally. Whilst maintaining being cordial for sake of DC.

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