Can't believe I'm typing this. DH and hotel booking

[BrokenTree]

Dh away overnight on business. He was sorting his paperwork this morning and I saw the hotel confirmation. It was:- One Room: Two Adults...... I asked why it said that and he just said "oh must just be the bog-standard booking if you have a double room" or similar words.

Needless to say something rankled and I went to the Hotel website to make a booking and, guess what, you need to click down to confirm the number of guests.... It starts with 1.

Have spent the morning feeling sick, shaky and tearful. This can't be real. It just can't. I am a stupid, smug cow. What my DH be unfaithful?! Don't be ridiculous, etc., etc.

Don't really know what I expect anyone to say just need to get it out there so to speak. It could be an innocent mistake couldn't it?

Hi, just thought I'd come back and update as I know how frustrating these threads that start so dramatically can be. But honestly I haven't got anything to say really. Not sure if that is good or bad from my point of view. I really wish I had something concrete or otherwise.

Hi Stealth - not sure why you thought it was today he was back - it was Wednesday eve but bit boring and nothing to report.

Atswimtwolengths - if I initiated phone sex that would be so laughably funny he'd think I'd lost my mind tbh.

Blu, Ginger, pgpg and all - I don't think I am unreasonably jealous/suspicious. Although when you've had your trust shaken it does take a bit of a toll to be frank. I confess I did have a look through the briefcase But was in the usual state of tidiness that I'd expect, nothing remiss at all.

Has he contacted friend that's what I would like to know. Certainly not from our email address. The hotel was in the West End and she loves the Theatre to the point where he used to buy her vouchers for shows for birthdays/Christmas, etc.

Or maybe I am a turnip! I don't know and that's our problem. We've had a lovely weekend so far even though my stomach seems to be doing loops.

Thank you all enough for your wonderful insights and words of kindness and wisdom. That's it really. I am here and carrying on even with a huge doubt hanging over me and our marriage and not sure what I can do to sort that out without the whole 'oh give me strength not again' conversation.

Thank you lovely (ladies) people for the hand holding. You'll never know how much it meant to be able to reach out online like this. Honestly.

Can you get in contact with the friend to try and suss out if they've been in contact?

BrokenTree - I don't know how you are going to sort this out, but I know you aren't going to get any peace of mind until you do :(

I don't think trying to discuss it with him will get you anywhere because he will just do the 'Not this again' - you will feel bad, he will feel either pissed off (if he's telling the truth) or like he's pulled the wool over your eyes again (if he's lying). He's never going to say 'Yes love, you're right - I am fucking x' is he :(

All you can do is keep your eye out for any other 'odd' things and listen to your gut.

West End hotel as well...hmmm... bit of a co-incidence isn't it?! Do you know where the two things he had to attend were?

Don't let him doubt your own gut instincts & make you out to be paranoid/jealous/not over the last time when you should be.... it is so very easy to be made to believe that it's you causing the problems by being so jealous/suspicious etc when all the time you are right and you are feeling this way for a damn good reason.

Please don't be upset by those saying you are unreasonably jealous/suspicious, they probably either haven't been cheated on (or aren't aware they have) & also it adds to not trusting your own gut instinct (I wish I'd listened to mine when it was shouting at me, instead of just feeling bad about being 'paranoid').

oh sorry - misread the start of the thread
Hope you can get something sorted out, the not knowing must be awful

Chipping: no-one is saying that BT is being unreasonable, and this isn't a battle, but a sounding board.

It's hard when sopething makes you not-at-ease. It's worth exploring all possibilities.

Good luck BT - you don't need to provide a denoument, it may be that something clears like a de-misted window unexpectedly.

Good luck, BrokenTree - do keep us updated x

Any news brokentree?