Blow Job troubles- bit exteme warning

[GlitterHo]

sensitive subject _I've never been any good at them, I too much of a gag reflex I can never take * ahem full length without gagging.

I feel really bad as I'm letting him down on my side of the deal as he doesnt get satisfied properly.

the other night was just messing around and he just grabbed the back of my head and was literally like shagging my head, felt like I couldn't breathe and was gagging everywhere told him to stop eventually, started crying felt really bad I should be able to do it :(

Any tips on how I can round it??

Call it a learning curve, unfortunately most men love blow jobs & porn lol, this is a fact of life & one we all learn with time. People deal with things differently.
I dont think we know enough about this relationship to force our views on the OP.
Constructive advice is the way forward & opinions can be taken or left.
There is no right or wrong only what the person in the relationship is prepared to commit to & as always it must be a 2 way thing.
This is something that OP has to consider,What she wants out of the relationship & from what i can gather she wants to satisfy her partner & also be satisfied.
It's good to have both sides to an arguement & i think from this thread OP has constructive advice & will be able to make up her own mind what SHE deems acceptable in HER relationship.
If her man is a good 1 she will be able to work through this & maybe meet a compromise otherwise it wont work & the outcome is inevitable.

wotnext a lot of people enjoy oral sex and there's no "unfortunately" about it. This isn't about blow jobs FGS, or pleasurable oral sex between consenting partners. It's about unacceptable sexual violence that has caused pain and distress.

Also, we don't "learn in time" that most men use porn. Lots of intelligent men don't use porn actually, although most have seen it and many have used it in the past.

And there is a right or wrong here. It is wrong to hurt another person during sex and cause that person distress and pain.

Where I will agree is that the OP has choices going forward and I sincerely hope that this thread has confirmed that her boundaries have been absent and her standards of acceptable treatment in relationships, too low.

"Coercion would be me grabbing you by the hair HairyTrucker and forcing a cucumber down your throat. Your priorities are messed up."

You clearly have your blinkers firmly on and won't be reasoned with. I'm not going to try to argue with you because you are over the top and silly. It is good to see some sensible folk posting on here now to balance out your ill thought out drivel.

This has probably already been said but I would just give it a good old bite. That whole 'deep throat' thing is just a pile of mysogynistic poop and straight out of some dodgy porn site. His sexual technique sounds about as erotic as a wet kipper being slapped around the face.

Sorry - but honestly you need to get yourself another lover, a decent one. I am sure there will be many willing candidates.

I was tempted to just lol but i will apply constructive debate if i can.

I used the word unfortunate in regards to Porn & bJs in the context I beleive that it is more of a man thing (im not saying im right) its there & it isn't going away.
I will put it in other words, some like it hard & fast & some like it slow & sensuous?
This is the unfortunate part he likes it she doesn't?
This is the case for many relationships, mine included.
I have experienced OP's problem but have managed to compromise with dh, this wouldnt work for you obviously but it did for me i actually enjoy our bedroom antics when im up 4 it.
This applies to every aspect of a relationship.
The Op is young & does not have our experience or knowledge. But compromise is the key & from what i can gather they haven't tried that yet.
So lets just be diplomatic at least :)

You're not going to be able to "reason" with me (or others) that it's acceptable for a man to force his penis

can you explain where and when I tried to do this????

didn't think so!

Well, its acceptable to me for my hubby to force his penis down my throat when i am willing, especially after i have had good oral & a serious pumping for hours on end lol. (cant beleive i actually said that)
Some people dont some people do. It all comes down to what you want & what turns you on.
No one is saying Op should or not. But its up to her to decide if it is abuse or not.
Going back to the opening post she wanted advice to make her sex life better?

the advice I offered is to actually assert herself and talk it through with her husband ..... shame the bra burning squads' answer is just to chuck him instead of dealing with it!

wotnext - are you an extension of the OP partner? Because she is gagging and crying as he is doing this to her, you really think she needs advice on improving her sex life?
Something like this happening can screw up you sex life for a long time. In an ideal world the OP would dump this creep and find someone nice that would help build her confidence back up.

WWIFN I have read lots of your posts & agree with most but your views, but you'r post at 16.08 is wrong.

This thread was about blow jobs & i was giving my views on this?

newname... I read that part & she said she was crying because she couldnt satisfy him? that was her words not mine or yours, she is upset because she wants to please him. fgs

I agree with hairy x

& we dont live in an ideal world! I think many on here are single has beens lol

& we dont live in an ideal world! I think many on here are single has beens lol

well I'm not ..... I've been married for 2 decades and we've been through all sorts together .... it makes me sad that some of you are so militantly anti- commitment to be honest. I know my kids would be nowhere if my wife shared a lot of your attitudes

Going back to the opening post she wanted advice to make her sex life better?

find a sexual partner that respects her would be a good start

this man isn't it

going back to the opening post she wanted advice to make her sex life better?

find a sexual partner that respects her would be a good start

this man isn't it

how the hell do you know???? for all you know they could resolve their differences and have a great relationship for the rest of their lives!!!!

wind your neck in and stop being so judgey

at "single has-beens"

you don't have a clue

anti commitment ?

this isn't a thread about "commitment" you silly woman, this is about a young girl being reassured she doesn't have to accept sexual mistreatment from a man

wouldn't you teach your own daughters that lesson ?

or do you expect a young woman, at the beginning of her sexual journey to launch straight into extreme experimentation?

just because you do this kind of stuff in a stable, respectful relaionship doesn't mean that young women should bypass that 20 years of experience

do you not get it ?

porn makes young people think they have to go from 0-100mph immediately

it isn't right, and I despair that this is the message that young people are absorbing...the fact that a so-called mature woman is supporting it too is frankly despicable

Hairytrucker I expect you'd be delighted if your daughters got themselves involved with someone like the OP's partner, and felt obliged to 'commit' to this kind of treatment?

ah, your a man

no surprises there

my message remains the same though, you silly man

do you have teenage daughters at all ?

would you like some immature pornhound ramming his cock down her throat ?

will you be telling her "to just get on with it?"

I would help my daughter work through it with the guy if the relationship was worth anything ...... it's not just you .... society is generally pretty shallow and anti-commitment so I'm not surprised that you are

She is sick of telling him that his full length makes her gag. He can't plead ignorance. So he just forces it instead by grapping her head. Nice chap.

In your eyes, HTD, would resolving their differences mean that she learns to like it or that he stop doing it?